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to think this is so strange - present gone missing!

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 10:54

Have name changed but frequent poster.

It was my birthday on Sunday & last week (Tuesday) I saw my best friend very briefly and she gave me my present to open on the day. I opened it on Sunday and she had bought me a nice box of chocolates – lovely, I like chocolates. Anyway I text her to say a generic thank you she text back have a lovely day – all’s well and I good. But I’ve just spoken to her and she didn’t get me chocolates. She bought me a very ‘naice’ candle.

How weird is that. She has absolute no reason to lie – we’ve know each other forever and don’t have ‘expectations’ in the sense that sometimes we spend a lot, sometimes we don’t. I asked if it could have got mixed up with someone else’s present and no, she had no other birthdays going on. The strangest part is the gift bag and wrapping paper were exactly what she had wrapped the candle in – but it was chocolates.

What the hell has happened to the candle? We had a laugh about it but honestly, it’s so weird!!

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Belleoverandover · 31/10/2018 18:39

Place marking I have to find out what happened to the candle

MongerTruffle · 31/10/2018 18:47

why namechange for a post like this? You’re not hiding it from BFriend considering you’ve got her reading your messages so it’s not as if you’re hiding it from her...

The OP doesn't want her friend looking up her past posts.

BlueThesaurusRex · 31/10/2018 19:22

OPs DP- broke it and wrapped up chocs thinking OP would never know.

Bigchair · 31/10/2018 19:22

Ghosts obviously.

64ChewsBrains · 31/10/2018 19:25

I’m always amazed by how many posters on MN threads seem to genuinely think the most likely explanation for various mysteries is a close friend blatantly lying to another close friend, and holding the lie brazenly even though it’s trivial and ridiculous. Do most people really do things like that? Surely not.

It seems completely unlikely to me that your friend is maintaining a huge lie over something so silly.

Which leaves:

Your dp/dh
Wormhole
Ghost

Shortyboo · 31/10/2018 19:40

Your bf must know she wrapped a box of chocolates. It was her who bought and wrapped the present. She must be lying about the candle. Why? Who knows

Shoobydooby09 · 31/10/2018 19:42

I think the mix up had been in the shop where your friend bought your candle. As PPs have said the sales assistant has put the chocolates in the bag instead of the candle by mistake. Your friend hasn't noticed, she was not sniffing it moments before she wrapped it she said that to make it clear she definitely bought you a candle. Which she did but it got mixed up in the shop. She Didnt realise when wrapping it up. Either that or she had it gift wrapped in the shop and she's lying about that!! And that's where the mix up occurred.

AFrayedOfHell · 31/10/2018 19:52

I read a post the other day where someone paid £10 for a homemade candle (with personalised message) which was in fact a £1 job from Ikea. Has your DP recently started selling homemade candles on Facebook? Someone might be out there laughing at getting a £45 candle for £10! Was it just the one candle? Not 4?

jane251 · 31/10/2018 19:58

I think you may be making too much of this.

NotBeforeCoffee · 31/10/2018 20:00

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KumquatQuince · 31/10/2018 20:04

Was your friend on glue when she wrapped it?

WheredidtheMortificadosGo · 31/10/2018 20:18

I think it was Sherlock Holmes who said once you have eliminated the impossible whatever remains however improbable is the answer.

And separately not (Holmese) if you hear the sound of hooves look for horses not zebras.

It is very very very unlikely that between the gift being put into your hands and you unwrapping it that it has been swapped or interfered with. If someone was going to mess with it (a stranger in the house), they'd just nick it rather than faff about unwrapping it and re-wrapping some chocolates. If someone was messing about with it to play a trick on you, they'd do something better than swap a candle for chocolates.

So this means that when she gave you the gift it was chocolates but she believed sincerely it was a candle.

The question is how did this happen. The most likely explanation is that she has made a mistake somewhere - wrapped chocolates absent mindedly, swapped two wrapped gifts, bought a candle and absentmindely put it someowhere else - that type of thing.

People do stupid stuff like that all the time - putting shoes in the fridge and throwing teaspoons in the bin instead of the teabag.

It's also possible that once she said to you categorically that she'd bought and wrapped the candle and it's become a big thing between you too (plus a MN mystery that even if she realises it is her mind lapse she'll be too embarrassed to come clean.

The most logical explanation here is that whatever she believes, she has in someway made a mistake and given you wrapped chocolates not a wrapped candle.

leghairdontcare · 31/10/2018 20:26

Just catching up - can't believe the OP turned out to be a ghost but if you think back over the thread, it makes sense.

CupMug · 31/10/2018 20:50

64ChewsBrains
I’m always amazed by how many posters on MN threads seem to genuinely think the most likely explanation for various mysteries is a close friend blatantly lying to another close friend

Do you honestly think they genuinely think this because I don’t. 🤔😉

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Dillydallyer · 31/10/2018 20:56

OP where have you gone? Have you solved it yet? I feel invested. I need to know you are not just a good storyteller!!

Polkapjs · 31/10/2018 21:07

Thanks for the reminder to treat myself to a candle though

dayswithaY · 31/10/2018 21:08

WheredidtheMortificados has it spot on. It's highly unlikely that there was a mix up in the shop, stolen by a dog walker or taken by the husband. That's all nonsense, highly amusing thread but nonsense. The only explanations are that the friend made a mistake, and is sticking to her story. She either bought a couple of gifts for two different people and gave her the wrong one or she is bluffing about giving her an expensive candle instead of chocolates. She knows this cannot be proved one way or the other so all she has to do is ride it out. The other explanation is the OP works in PR and has played a blinder.

Leapfrog44 · 31/10/2018 21:09

update..???

I'd ask to see the receipt
I'd ask the shop to check the CCTV (possibly on a different pretext)
I'd keep the wrapping for examination
I'd pretend you know something you don't (i.e. have solved the mystery) to trick husband/friends etc into giving something away
Film the conversations and then send it to a body language expert for an opinion on who is lying / telling the truth

I'd FIND that candle no matter what.

And then I'd report back here and put us out of our misery.

THISONESONME · 31/10/2018 21:10

I suspect Neom and Hotel Chocolat have the same pr company.

Leapfrog44 · 31/10/2018 21:11

@dayswithaY you're probably right.

Another possibility is that OP works in marketing department for Neom..

NellieBee · 31/10/2018 21:13

update?

JessicaJonesJacket · 31/10/2018 21:14

It was DP in the dressing-room with the candlestick . . .

He accidentally dropped the candle and quickly replaced it with the chocs hence the hasty wrapping. Also explains why he remembered your wrapping comment and why he's blaming it on your friend's 'error'.

Leapfrog44 · 31/10/2018 21:19

@HISONESONME yeah I came to exactly the same conclusion!

Nice one 'OP'

dayswithaY · 31/10/2018 21:19

I've not heard of Neom before but now am resisting the urge to Google as that's obviously what is intended here.