A boyfriend not back thread

[StillGotTheTreeUp]

Aibu to ask how you would feel/deal with this -

Relatively new relationship but I have given him real emotional/physical support recently when he was very unwell.

Night out tonight planned - steak restaurant.

He didn't realise a party he was invited to tonight was tonight. When he found out he immediately cancelled dinner in favour of this.

I was invited but I have MH issues and find this a bit much. This also means that the steak restaurant is quite a big deal to me but I was physced up and looking forward to it.

He said he'd be back at around 10 as he'd like to watch a film he brought over together.

So he never came back and hasn't replied to any messages. (Two messages, both after 10 asking if ok)

I'm fucked off. Aibu to be so? What shall I say when I see him?

..and...?
You seem to be sitting there laughing hilariously all by yourself.
The OP was distressed and its not coming across well, and yes, the figure s do near out that that would be the likely outcome if she had not returned. That's the world we live in, great isn't it?

*bear out

Nope. I'm married. My standards are just higher and my dh has never behaved like that.

I don’t think it’s anything more than a minor annoyance TBH.

Don’t be that person who gets the hump if their boy/girl friend isn’t texting them or home early when they’ve gone out with friends and lost track of time.

It isn’t nice. It’s not like you’ve got kids together that he has to be home for.

the figures do bear out that that would be the likely outcome if she had not returned. That's the world we live in, great isn't it?

I'm not entirely sure what you mean. A man is statistically 3-4x more likely to be attacked by a stranger so it would be equally justifiable to be worried about the safety of a male who doesn't come back after embarking on a night of drinking.

Relationships require work, compromise and discussion if they are going to last. Let’s hope the OP and her relatively new partner talk before getting huffy with each other and flouncing off. Otherwise they are both going to be single fairly quickly.

My DP and I went through this around a year into our relationship. We moved, he found new friends and ended up getting home at around 4am after we agreed to meet up at 7pm.

I'm not sure why (probably a mug) but I stuck with him, we were very young and I felt like he just needed to get it out of his system.

Eight years later and we're still together and as strong as ever, his behaviour lasted a couple of months however it's stopped and his communication is amazing.

I wouldn't recommend being a doormat and putting up with it for as long as I did but talk to him and explain your feelings. Just because he's done it once doesn't mean it will always be like that .

WhenISnappedandFarted just . Have you come across fartmareonglitterstreet I'm so childish
Scott

OP are you going to get back to us with an update? What have you said to each other? For some reason I'm over invested in this. Maybe because I had a similar experience in a previous relationship, he turned out to be a selfish idiot in the end.

Basic error promising to be back when there was a sniff he wouldn’t.