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To ask for help or a hand hold?

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:03

I have texted The Samaritans but they have said it could be hours before they can get back to me - I don’t feel able to pick up the phone and talk to anyone. Don’t know why I am posting really - to feel less alone???

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CarryOnScreamingValenta · 27/10/2018 10:04

I'm sorry you feel alone. Has something happened to make you feel this way?

LittleBookofCalm · 27/10/2018 10:05

talk to us op

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:09

Everything has just got on top of me although have been feeling low for a while. My life is a mess - my own fault. I don’t see any way out now or how things can get better. Job I hate, unhappy marriage, terrible financial problems- I can’t see how to improve things. Nobody knows just how bad things are because I don’t tell anyone.

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Ohb0llocks · 27/10/2018 10:09

You aren't alone OP

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:10

Thank you it has helped writing that - not just in my head anymore.

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slapmyarseandcallmemary · 27/10/2018 10:10

We're all here for you

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:12

In real life I really am. I honestly do not have one friend that I could pick up the phone to in time of need - what does that say about how awful I must be.

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Ohb0llocks · 27/10/2018 10:12

This was me a month or so ago.

Different circs though.

Speaking to my GP and making some life changes did really help me. I felt like I was at rock bottom and genuinely like I could just not go on anymore. It was terrifying.

It sounds like such simple solutions but the smallest of changes can make a big difference. Would you like to tell us your problems so we could try to come up with some solutions together? I really think it would be useful to speak to your GP too.

MuddyMoose · 27/10/2018 10:12

Handhold here for you OP. Hope they get back in touch soon x

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:13

My husband is always tellyme ge loves me - but he is not there for me and has no idea how I feel. I have made such a mess of my life.

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LittleBookofCalm · 27/10/2018 10:13

baby steps op

Ohb0llocks · 27/10/2018 10:13

It says nothing about how awful you are. And I'd bet that you aren't even. Little bit awful at all. I don't have many friends at all. I don't like to share my problems so I never really talked to anyone when I was feeling similar to you.

WitchDancer · 27/10/2018 10:14

Hand here for you too.

I agree that a visit to the doctor may help, but resolving the problems would be better. Do you want to talk about any of them?

Ohb0llocks · 27/10/2018 10:15

Aren't even a little bit awful that should read.

Have you tried speaking to your husband at all?

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:16

I am doing a job I hate and that causes me real stress - the anxiety and panic is awful. I have wanted to get out for years but husband wasn’t supportive and was worried about money - I feel I can’t forgive him for that.

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:19

Thank you all so much for listening. My marriage isn’t really a marriage- we are 2 people who live in the same house. Our financial problems are awful and I have recently made the even worse. I thought a masters might help me move in a different direction - but couldn’t cope mentally and now have added even more debt.

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:20

Sorry- lots of typos.

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bluebell34567 · 27/10/2018 10:20

op your best bet is to go to your gp asap. it must be very hard to carry all this on your shoulders.

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:25

I have been to the GP in the past - all they can offer is medication.

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:26

All the tablets in the world can’t change my situation.

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LittleBookofCalm · 27/10/2018 10:28

are you doing a masters?
can you speak to uni?

LittleBookofCalm · 27/10/2018 10:29

tablets can help you op, so you can see the wood for the trees

LittleBookofCalm · 27/10/2018 10:29

do you have debt? can you ring Stepchange?

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whatacompleteanduttermess · 27/10/2018 10:33

I had to drop out of the Masters - just could not cope mentally - which has made me feel like even more of a failure. It has also made our financial position even worse because have to pay back straight away and not out of salary. I hate myself for making our lives even worse.

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IAmRubbishAtDIY · 27/10/2018 10:34

There is a way out of EVERY bad situation, be it financial, housing, work, relationships, etc.