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To ask for help with crying baby

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Choice4567 · 26/10/2018 23:24

Sorry but posting here for traffic!

My 4 month is currently screaming her head off. Evening is the only reliable time she sleeps and tonight she just won't. She'll fall asleep on me but if I try and put her down she sobs in her sleep. If DP picks her up the screams get worse.

She's fed. Clean nappy. Calpol an hour ago in case teeth hurting. No temp. Room is warm

Help! What am I missing? I can't spend the whole night awake!

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Springersprung · 27/10/2018 00:03

No advice, just sympathy as my nearly 4 month old is doing exactly the same. Tbh, I thought at first you might be my DH posting for advice, but we have no other children.

Am wondering if it's teething here, as she's been chewing her hand nonstop, dribbling lots and won't feed, only screams at the boob. She has also been going rigid/arching her back in a colicky way, but do they develop colic at this age?!

faeriequeen · 27/10/2018 00:36

Let her sleep on you while you watch tv in the evenings, then carry her to your bed and cosleep, following the guidelines. She's little and wants to be near you.

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Choice4567 · 27/10/2018 02:33

Well 2 hours I'd better then nothing I suppose. She's back sleeping on my chest I'll give her 15 minutes and out her back

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RandomLetters · 27/10/2018 02:51

Are you breastfeeding? The only thing that settles my baby is the comfort of breastfeeding - he's now 7 months and this is the 3rd time up so far tonight. Bloody long sleep regression for us!

jackio2205 · 27/10/2018 08:21

How did it go in the end....? U okay? X

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Choice4567 · 27/10/2018 08:40

Well. Put her down at midnight. Fed at 2:30. She woke at 4 but settled herself, fed again at 5:30

So I guess I got some sleep! It's kind of hard to remember now! I'm up and had breakfast and coffee so not too bad!

Thanks all for the help in the night, it made the getting up slightly less horrible!

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jackio2205 · 27/10/2018 09:47

My friend had something similar where baby was like grazing with milk, try giving her more (not sure if u bottle or breast) but just to try and get them used to larger but less meals rather than little and often xxx

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Choice4567 · 27/10/2018 23:32

And here we are again! Baby only sleeping on me. DP just came upstairs, got into bed and is now snoring heavily. So unfair, i want to sleep!

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crispysausagerolls · 27/10/2018 23:40

My baby is exactly the same - tbh OP not helpful but I just cosleep and let him sleep on me. He’s my only one though; must be a nightmare with other children as you can’t really do that during the day!

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Choice4567 · 27/10/2018 23:49

Just made DP try as I really need to sleep. She just screams worse so it has to be me. Getting so fed up with no sleep now but there's no way out

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ethelfleda · 27/10/2018 23:59

it'll help them to be calmer going forward

Not true - studies have shown that babies re just as stressed physiologically - but have learned not to cry as it doesn’t work.

Sorry OP - I hope this is a short phase and passes soon for you Flowers

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Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 00:01

Thanks. Was just thinking I'll give in and take her into bed with me but DP has been drinking so I can't. Not very adept at sleeping in a feeding chair.

Wonder if I should try the white noise

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summerbaby1 · 28/10/2018 00:03

Definitely try white noise. It's a lifesaver for us. I have to put it on quite loud (say 3/4of full volume on my phone), but it works most of the time. Fingers crossed it works for you

summerbaby1 · 28/10/2018 00:04

(I've found aeroplane or hoover noises the best!)

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Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 00:07

White noise app downloaded and playing. About to put her back in her cot

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faeriequeen · 28/10/2018 00:08

Kick dp out of bed. You and baby have the bed, he cab sleep in the nursing chair or on the sofa. Co sleeping was the only thing that kept me sane.

Florries · 28/10/2018 00:20

I'm here with you, OP! 6 month sleep regression,teething and separation anxiety for my little one!! Not fun!!! Best of luck for sleep tonight

IABURQO · 28/10/2018 00:51

It sounds like hunger; my baby was starving hungry on a huge growth spurt at 4 months, 2 weeks of feeding through the night and he powered his way lengthwise out of 6 month clothes from having loads of room plus spent every day trying to sit up. I think a lot of people say "sleep regression" when actually the baby is hungry, teething or learning something exciting. These phases each pass, just accept you need to keep on helping (in this case I'd suggest feeding until eventually the baby is finally full) so sleep goes back to normal (until they crawl all over the bed with flushed cheeks dribbling pints of water everywhere).

IABURQO · 28/10/2018 00:52

And I agree with kicking DP out of bed, you need to nap through feeds wherever possible.

Creaci · 28/10/2018 01:03

Is she cold? Try adding another layer. All of mine would unsettle when the weather changed and need another layer.

Devillanelle · 28/10/2018 01:06

DP can get lost. Bring her into bed with you and take the ready made bottles up if you aren't bf.

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Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 03:32

The white noise seemed to help- and we've slept through the hour change!

Feeding now but I'll put the white noise back on again afterwards

Thanks for all the suggestions, they are helping. No sleep is a killer! If someone told me how long this phase would last and said 'oh you've got 3 weeks left' I'd be able to cope better, it's not knowing if this is going to last weeks or months!

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cheeriolovey · 28/10/2018 03:51

Could it be colic? Is she bottle fed? My ds had it terrible, worst thing ever !

cheeriolovey · 28/10/2018 03:55

Try the dr browns bottles if so, they were a life saver for me. Also gripe water. Massage tummy and make sure she's winded well. I really feel for you if it is, my ds would scream flat out for ages makes you feel helpless

NoThatsNotMyName · 28/10/2018 04:24

Google The Wonder Weeks.

She may need comfort - perhaps a dummy?

Xxxxx

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