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AIBU?

To ask for help with crying baby

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Choice4567 · 26/10/2018 23:24

Sorry but posting here for traffic!

My 4 month is currently screaming her head off. Evening is the only reliable time she sleeps and tonight she just won't. She'll fall asleep on me but if I try and put her down she sobs in her sleep. If DP picks her up the screams get worse.

She's fed. Clean nappy. Calpol an hour ago in case teeth hurting. No temp. Room is warm

Help! What am I missing? I can't spend the whole night awake!

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Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 17:41

She been extra grizzly all day today, especially when not being cuddled by me. Starting to think she might be a bit under the weather or maybe the final push before a tooth actually appears!

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GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 28/10/2018 12:31

Yes like everything , this is a phase! I honestly thought this was my life for the next two years while I was goi f through it but thankfully it does end!
I think co- sleep for now and in two weeks try all over again.
Good luck and drink all the coffee available!
( also a nice gin in the evening works a treat )

Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 11:47

@GiveMeAllTheGin8 aha! Thank you! I'm going to hope that my DD copies yours. Another couple of weeks maybe and then she can sleep through like a trooper! 🤞

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GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 28/10/2018 09:25

I feel your pain! We went through this with dd2 just before she was 4 months old. I thought it would never end! Lasted 6 weeks for us.
The only thing that worked was co- sleeping. Dh slept- still does - in spare room.
We have finally passed it and dd sleeps in co- sleeper cot. Goes down very easily at 7pm - bottle to sleep and then rocked.
She has one bottle overnight though she generally won't go back in her cot after that bottle so she's in my arms .
It's a tough stage but hopefully you are neatly through it

MrTrebus · 28/10/2018 09:12

Dummy if you're into those. Gripe water if she's ok for the age on that can't remember how old they have to be. Infacol before every feed as well subject to age restrictions again!

crispysausagerolls · 28/10/2018 09:07

She may need comfort - perhaps a dummy?

She has comfort - her mother

Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 07:13

@babbscrabbs don't worry, even if I wanted to leave her to cry (which I don't!) I couldn't because there are other children asleep in the house

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babbscrabbs · 28/10/2018 07:00

It's hard when their sleep gets worse, especially as she was such a great sleeper beforehand. Until they're about 18 months - 2 years old sleep isn't linear eg it doesn't consistently improve. In fact the worst sleep for us with dc2 was 8-10 months (with dc1 it was 4-5 months).

My DC sleep gets worse just before they get ill so there's a possibility of that, however it can seem like they're ill or in pain when they get upset during a sleep regression too - but if you think you've ruled this out then it probably is developmental. We ended up co sleeping which helped.

Please don't leave your child to cry it out. They're tiny.

Devillanelle · 28/10/2018 06:47

I think it was 4-5 weeks here. It will end though

Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 06:30

@IABURQO I wish it was 2 weeks! She used to sleep 9-3 and then 3:30-7am but its been 4 weeks of barely sleeping now! But you're right it could be something else.

She slept for an hour and a half on my face this morning so I suppose that's better than nothing!

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IABURQO · 28/10/2018 05:22

@Choice4567 - depends if you have a grown spurt and exciting development changes run into each other, but the 4 monyh upset stage lasts no more than 2 weeks (I have a 7.5 month old, so it wasn't long ago here). Hope you slept well.

NoThatsNotMyName · 28/10/2018 04:24

Google The Wonder Weeks.

She may need comfort - perhaps a dummy?

Xxxxx

cheeriolovey · 28/10/2018 03:55

Try the dr browns bottles if so, they were a life saver for me. Also gripe water. Massage tummy and make sure she's winded well. I really feel for you if it is, my ds would scream flat out for ages makes you feel helpless

cheeriolovey · 28/10/2018 03:51

Could it be colic? Is she bottle fed? My ds had it terrible, worst thing ever !

Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 03:32

The white noise seemed to help- and we've slept through the hour change!

Feeding now but I'll put the white noise back on again afterwards

Thanks for all the suggestions, they are helping. No sleep is a killer! If someone told me how long this phase would last and said 'oh you've got 3 weeks left' I'd be able to cope better, it's not knowing if this is going to last weeks or months!

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Devillanelle · 28/10/2018 01:06

DP can get lost. Bring her into bed with you and take the ready made bottles up if you aren't bf.

Creaci · 28/10/2018 01:03

Is she cold? Try adding another layer. All of mine would unsettle when the weather changed and need another layer.

IABURQO · 28/10/2018 00:52

And I agree with kicking DP out of bed, you need to nap through feeds wherever possible.

IABURQO · 28/10/2018 00:51

It sounds like hunger; my baby was starving hungry on a huge growth spurt at 4 months, 2 weeks of feeding through the night and he powered his way lengthwise out of 6 month clothes from having loads of room plus spent every day trying to sit up. I think a lot of people say "sleep regression" when actually the baby is hungry, teething or learning something exciting. These phases each pass, just accept you need to keep on helping (in this case I'd suggest feeding until eventually the baby is finally full) so sleep goes back to normal (until they crawl all over the bed with flushed cheeks dribbling pints of water everywhere).

Florries · 28/10/2018 00:20

I'm here with you, OP! 6 month sleep regression,teething and separation anxiety for my little one!! Not fun!!! Best of luck for sleep tonight

faeriequeen · 28/10/2018 00:08

Kick dp out of bed. You and baby have the bed, he cab sleep in the nursing chair or on the sofa. Co sleeping was the only thing that kept me sane.

Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 00:07

White noise app downloaded and playing. About to put her back in her cot

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summerbaby1 · 28/10/2018 00:04

(I've found aeroplane or hoover noises the best!)

summerbaby1 · 28/10/2018 00:03

Definitely try white noise. It's a lifesaver for us. I have to put it on quite loud (say 3/4of full volume on my phone), but it works most of the time. Fingers crossed it works for you

Choice4567 · 28/10/2018 00:01

Thanks. Was just thinking I'll give in and take her into bed with me but DP has been drinking so I can't. Not very adept at sleeping in a feeding chair.

Wonder if I should try the white noise

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