my oldest daughter DD15 is a generally well rounded normal teenager. She does well in school has a good social circle of friends and we have a great relationship.
However i came home the otherday to discover her smoking a cigarette in the garden. She tried to lie and say she was just trying her first and only cigarette.
However the confident way in which she was smoking it plus the 20 packet and lighter on the table told me this wasnt a one off thing. She eventually admitted she has started smoking as of last month!!
She is the most unlikely of girls you would expect to pick up a smoking habit, generally a sweet innocent girl. She is health conscious and there’s no new boyfriend on the scene either.
She isn’t concerned about trying to stop smoking, says she is addicted, enjoys it and that it takes the pressure off from school. I’ve said she has to be open about it from now on, smoke in the garden etc and tell the whole family etc. Ive stopped her pocket money and some of her priveledges. I realise i cant physically make her stop so I feel like the only way to get through to her is to make her feel embarrassed by her behaviour, is that wrong?