AIBU to be annoyed at my friends DP

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One of my closest friends has been dating a man for around a year now. Her children really get on with mine and we love spending time together.
I've always got on with her new partner however recently he's started making comments that make me uncomfortable and down right annoyed. It started a couple of weeks ago but somehow he finds a way to bring every conversation back to it.
My DS is called Sid and he repeatedly says to both me and DH that we've done an awful thing by calling him that and he's bond to get bullied once he starts school.
AIBU being annoyed by this?

I'm just wondering if this is an attempt to cause an argument between you and your friend and drive a wedge in there. It seems odd that he's being so persistent in pursuing this, even to talking to your DS about it.

That's a good point. He sounds like enough of a bully.

He is a twat. I can’t actually believe he carried it on when he was a guest in your house and then spoke to your ds about it to wind you up...in your own home! What a knob!!

Deep breath. Arrange a play date with your friend and kids without partners as youve suggested, let her know he is upsetting you and your child so it’s best you meet up together without partners in future (until he either fucks off or has some manners)

I’d tell her that you’ve put up with it but it’s too much now, and that tonight after you asked him to stop he then started at your ds meaning you had to call your ds away.

He’s definitely trying to drive a wedge. Saying that, your friend should be telling him to stop it....she isn’t stupid and she has been there every time he’s done it....but what has she said? How did she react tonight when you said what you said and he carried on?....

Tell him he is my wife noooowww.

What a nasty little cunt he is

Time to see your friend without him around I think

Hi no
I'm starting to wonder if he is trying to cut your friend off like others have suggested.
In that case I would arrange to see your friend without her dp.
Offer to meet her when you know he isn't around and make sure it's convenient for her.
I wouldn't mention the name thing to her. I think it's a red herring designed to get a reaction from you, which he can then use to justify himself with Jen he tells h he friend that you unhinged/not good for her, or whatever he is yet by to achieve.
She won't see him for what he is yet. Be there for her and don't let him spoil your friendship.
She f you do have to see him again and he mentions d's name, can you agree with it dh to say "oh dh chose the name," thereby stopping t m in his tracks?

OP it might be worth bringing the name thing up with your friend, but I'm not sure how you might do this with the DP.

Your friend may not yet be in a position to see what this chap is doing. It's the kind of message where people "shoot the messenger" and telling her he may be abusive could backfire on you at this stage. It's certainly worth trying to meet up without partners and just keep subtly reminding her you are there for her.

This DP must feel like he has his feet under the table now, as you say he's only started on like this in the last 3 months. Abusive behaviour rarely begins from the start of a relationship, abusers like to feel certain about their victims first.