AIBU to be annoyed at my friends DP

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One of my closest friends has been dating a man for around a year now. Her children really get on with mine and we love spending time together.
I've always got on with her new partner however recently he's started making comments that make me uncomfortable and down right annoyed. It started a couple of weeks ago but somehow he finds a way to bring every conversation back to it.
My DS is called Sid and he repeatedly says to both me and DH that we've done an awful thing by calling him that and he's bond to get bullied once he starts school.
AIBU being annoyed by this?

I'd do the quizzical, being understanding of his problems thing of "obviously this bothers you a lot, why?", mainly because any of the other come backs would be too hard to do without showing how pissed off I was and then he'd just do it more.

He doesn't sound like a nice guy, tbh. He's waiting to see how soon you'll crack and get annoyed with him, so avoid anything which might let a hint of annoyance out.

If you do not use the phrase 'David ja vu' next time he pipes up about your son's name , you have let down all of mumsnet

[Grin] I like "you're my wife now" too.

Tell him that middle aged people often don’t realise which names are popular among the young-‘nobody calls their child David now do they.’

I'm furious. If was going well ish, he only mentioned it once and I replied saying it was nothing to do with him and kind of rude which he just laughed off. But I've just over heard him asking DS if he's ever watched ice age, am I being totally crazy to think that this is him trying to show me what the so called bullying would be like? (He says kids will make fun of him because of sid from ice age)
I really don't know what to do but feel so angry and hurt

OP, your DS isn't going to be bullied because of his name. I know a couple of boys with the name and they aren't bullied.

What this idiot is forgetting is that kids won't know about any associations with the name, it'll just be a name.

What is your DFriend saying about his twatish behavior?

If he can't behave, it's time he went home.

But I've just over heard him asking DS if he's ever watched ice age, am I being totally crazy to think that this is him trying to show me what the so called bullying would be like?

It's him being a bully. I'd go full on batshit redhead for that. I mean shouting down, chucking him out of the house. I cannot stand bullies.

Seriously op you need to either tell him very firmly to stop with the comments, or if you don't feel comfortable doing that then tell your friend.

It's one thing him making comments to you, but he's now doing it to your son!

For what it's worth, I love the name. Must be some sort of sad person to make horrible comments about a child.

And to clarify, it's not your son he's bullying - it's you.

How awful! Why would someone behave that way? Sid is a lovely name, I hope you get it all sorted OP.

I called DS out of the situation before he had chance to say anything more but I really don't see where else that conversation would've gone.
I'm so angry I've not gone back through yet should I get my friend to come through and speak to her about it or go straight to her dp?

OP, something just occurred to me.

This is a newish bloke, only been on the scene for around a year?

I'm just wondering if this is an attempt to cause an argument between you and your friend and drive a wedge in there. It seems odd that he's being so persistent in pursuing this, even to talking to your DS about it.

It's time you had it out with the twattish dp
Forget your friend she sounds like a wet blanket.

I'd go mental at him and let him really have it with both barrels

He is a bully. And weird with it too.

"You need to drop it, Dave." Hard stare. No smile.
He sounds a bit of a bore, has he nothing else to say for himself? Honestly, who goes on and on about a baby's name to their parents? Totally socially inept.

@MulticolourMophead I'd not really thought of that however we've been close for a long time now made even closer by having children close in age and we have started drifting recently but i just put that down to me being annoyed about her dp and his comments

Say to him in front of her "look you're a nice bloke and we enjoy your company but seriously the name stuff isn't funny and is in fact starting to really piss me off now so we need to end it here and now. And that means permanently so we don't fall out over it".

And breathe.

Don’t go mental.... you will show your friend that out are batty just as he probably predicted. He is driving to drive you two friends apart, he is threaded by you and knows a good parent will mostly do everything to protect their kids. He is a dick, a limp no good, useless one, you need to practise your own piss takes and play his game.

I've just come downstairs and they're leaving I think I'll try and arrange to see them both soon without DC so we can properly talk about this and I can make my feelings known

And do what Lizzie above says,

I read your posts, OP, and it really made me wonder if he's actually abusive, and maybe trying to cut your friendship. My radar just started pinging.

It may be worth trying to reverse the drifting, so that you can let your friend know you'll be there for her.

Don't try to rant about her DP to her, she may not be ready to listen. Just make sure she knows you are there.

What Lizzie said! Perfect response!

@MulticolourMophead would you suggest not bringing up the name issue with either of them then?
It's half term here next week so we'll probably find a time to take the DC out together in the day time without our partners, I could use that time to ensure she knows I'm still around and always will be.
I know that once the DC are in bed tonight my DH will get annoyed about all of this and probably want to confront him about it.

Sid the sloth is bloody brilliant!!