AIBU to be annoyed at my friends DP

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One of my closest friends has been dating a man for around a year now. Her children really get on with mine and we love spending time together.
I've always got on with her new partner however recently he's started making comments that make me uncomfortable and down right annoyed. It started a couple of weeks ago but somehow he finds a way to bring every conversation back to it.
My DS is called Sid and he repeatedly says to both me and DH that we've done an awful thing by calling him that and he's bond to get bullied once he starts school.
AIBU being annoyed by this?

Just reply "..so you've said before.." and then silence. It then draws attention to the fact that he is just repeating himself.

If he says it yet again during the course of the evening, just reply "...you said that earlier..." big smile but look at him and then direct an unrelated conversation straight to his partner

My father's name was Sid. We named my youngest daughter after him (same spelling), so I guess you'd say I'm partial to the name. I'm with the "I'm sure you don't mean to be rude but .." with a smile on my face, retort. If that doesn't work, I'd have a quiet word with your friend and let her know how much it bothers you. As a good friend, surely she wouldn't want your son to be upset by her partners comments ?

Sid is a lovely name- the friends dp is a crank. I agree with a previous poster about counting out loud so other people become aware of whats going on. Hope he is suitably shame faced and apologetic when he is pulled on his shit. Good luck!

Or you could ask "Why do you keep saying that?" And remain silent.

While he tries and tries to think of a reasonable response.

Sid is an excellent name!

Did he get bullied by a Sid? Hey Dave?

"Would you like to buy some pegs, Daaaave?"

Sid is a fabulous name. I want it for one of our future sons if we have another but husband vetoed it 😭

My son is called Sid too. That would make me really annoyed. Tell him he's becoming a bore, keeping making the same banal comment.

I'd start calling him Day've in an Essex/ Cockney accent. That'll piss him off.

(and he has never got bullied!)

I don't suppose he's old enough to remember this?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=UaBoPFVh1fA

Boo that would make it more like “Dive” wouldnt it?!

OP I think I’d go with something like pp’s have suggested “why do you ALWAYS bring that up? It’s really quite rude and getting boring now” and then leave an open space for him to splutter into. Tosspot.

David is a pretty common name. Maybe come up with some infamous Davids and whenever he says anything, say, "Yeah, David Berkowitz, mentioned it before." Or, "Yes, David Koresh, but we like the name." That one kind of rhymes. :)

"Yeah, David Berkowitz, mentioned it before."

YOU"VE mentioned it before.

There is a child in year 8 and a child in year 11 at my school called Sid. Neither gets bullied.

There is a child called Dave who gets bullied for being a bit of a cock*

Make of that what you will.

*this bit isn’t true, but your Dave doesn’t need to know that.

I think it’s a cute name. And can be used for either sex. Why on earth would your ds be bullied?

Just leaving this here.

Just say 'oh do shut up you silly little prick' 🤣

I know you won't, but it would feel really good.

Point out that Dave is a channel renowned for boring repeats (that often celebrate a rather poisonous masculinity). So he is at least aptly named himself.

Google Papa Lazarou and start randomly saying "you're my wife now Dave"

Gabilans reply

Papa Lazarou 😂 made me lol!

He’s really rude. If he says it tonight I’d probably say ‘gosh, you say this EVERY time we see you. We find it rude so please don’t say it again’.....then get up and piss about with whatever is cooking for dinner....stabbing any meat ferociously 😂

He's called David?

If you do not use the phrase 'David ja vu' next time he pipes up about your son's name , you have let down all of mumsnet.

Point out that Dave is a channel renowned for boring repeats (that often celebrate a rather poisonous masculinity). So he is at least aptly named himself.

😆

Call him Rodney to piss him off.

Big yes to Gabilan's suggestion.

Or 'You repeat this a lot - are you ok?' (You can add 'hun' in your mind if necessary). Frame it as concern and he'll have no way out.

Never seen Ice Age so no idea what the connection there is. I would go with the obvious "you bring this up every time, it is not your concern, please don't mention it again". and then ignore him every single time he brings it up, and change the subject.

If he keeps bringing it up then it shows a lack of intelligence on his part.