AIBU to have taken DD (11) to get her legs waxed?

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They were very hairy and she has been begging me to let her shave for ages

I agree it’s sad many women (me included) feel we have to have hairless legs to be attractive/not stand out, but that is the society we live in, your DD (and the kids who are teasing her) will see smooth legged women in magazines and on adverts and out and about in real life. So it seems pointless to me to try and convince them not to feel self conscious about it, when most adults I know do, and when in a few years we know they’ll definitely be getting rid of that hair. So no, I don’t think YABU at all, I think good on you for listening to your DD.

Yanbu at all.

My mum bought me those peel apart wax strips that hurt like a bastard.

I didn't wax again for ages until I had my eyebrows waxed as a favour for a friend who needed to practice, and it didn't hurt a bit.

Went to get a proper hot wax or my legs a week later and it also didn't hurt, not looked back since.

I'm so glad for your daughter that you aren't mucking about trying to put it off or fob her off.

As for epilation and waxing - the best time to do it is after your period! Your hair is at a part of its growth cycle that means it's MUCH less painful to pull out!! About 4 days after your period

Op I wish you had been my mum! I was incredibly hairy like a yetti and my parents refused to even let me shave, I can remember crying at p.e time because of getting teased because of my hairy legs and im quite bitter about it now. Yanbu

You did the right thing.

I had a monobrow and moustache pretty much from birth, as well as dark body hair. And buck teeth. I was bullied terribly abut it all throughout school.

My mum wouldn’t let me do anything about it and honestly- I can’t see any reasonable explanation as to why. She’s not a feminist (she says) so there was no principals she was imposing on me. It honestly make my life hell. I started shaving and trimming the hairs with my dads razor and a pair of nail scissors and when she found out I was eventually allowed to shave.

I then gradually developed the confidence to not give a fuck what anyone thinks and regularly rock hairy legs and a mono brow/Tash through sheer lazyness.

I will not be imposing that on my daughters, if they are uncomfortable with their body and facial hair if/when they develop it then I will let the remove it straight away. They’ve got the most awkward years ahead of them and if it helps then navigate them more comfortably then so be it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also just recalled attempting to trim the monobrow hair with toe nail clipper too.

Good on you. I took my daughter at 9 years old. Unfortunately she takes after me. I was teased at school for years. Waxing was like shaving the thick black spiky hairs would be back in a week. I then got them lasered. IPL didn’t work but a laser shop opened in my local shopping centre and I’m sure it’s called a diode laser. The day she came home and she had bald patches on her legs and she told me she sat at playtime on her own pulling them out because people were asking her if she was a boy was the day she got waxed. She did say it hurt but we tried it and I wished we carried on but I have to respect what she says and we now use hair removal cream. But the laser shop told me that a year after she starts her periods they can laser her legs. She will be booked in and she cannot wait.