To ask if you let your partner know what time you’ll be home?

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AIBU to ask, do you let your partner know what time you’ll be home in the evening and vice versa? And if you’ve said a certain time, and are then going to be later (or earlier) if you text/call to let them know?

Yes I think it's polite , eg I'll be home about 8ish see you later .

Yes to both questions.

Of course. It’s basic courtesy to give your partner an update on your schedule.

Yes, I'd usually give him a rough idea, and send him a message if it was going to be much later.

Depends sometimes I just say I'll be home late if plans change and I won't be home after a few hours and this could be a few hours late or around 11pm when with friends. He doesn't mind at all same with him

Of course

Yep - we both do! More just so we know who is going to have the delights of settling DS (10mths) to sleep!

Yes if I'm going to be late. Not so much if I'm going to be early, I like to just turn up at home and surprise her

I wouldn't usually text or call if I was going to be earlier, but later, yes. I have a long drive home from work. I don't want him worrying about where I am or, perhaps more importantly, not worrying about where I am.

Yes of course. We also text phone when we're setting off.

Yes we both do.

Yes, always. Why do you ask?

Flatmates might not share this info but family do. How else would anyone know whether to cook for themselves or others, whether something was wrong, or who was going to do any of the home tasks that might fall on a particular night?

It depends not unless there's a reason to, if I'll be much later than usual or we have plans to do something or eat together and he's actually at home, we both work long hours and don't get home at usual office hour times. DH can get home any time between 6 and 10pm depending if he has evening cases. So unless he'll be later than half ten eleven I wouldn't expect him to contact me and if he's home before because he doesn't have a grill or appointments it's a pleasant surprise. I don't usually let him know because he probably won't be home and if he is he's used to eating late and will wait for me to get in.

If either of us will be home at a different to normal time we let the other know. Not so much if it's 10/15 minutes difference, but anything more than about 30 mins we'd send a quick text. It helps if someone is putting dinner on so they know to put it on a bit later and also so no one worries when the other person doesn't come home!

No partner,but tend to let my son know what kind of time I'll be home. Always text/facebook message him if I'm going to be earlier or later. It's only polite (- plus he knows I'd like any washing up left,to be done,specially if I've been at work,so gives him a chance to quickly do it!)

Both of us do yes.

Yes we both do

Group not grill

It depends. If I was expecting to be home for 8 and it ended up being closer to half past? I probably wouldn’t bother unless we had something planned. If I’d said I’ll be home by 7 and rolled in at 11, I’d expect to be in the doghouse.

Nope, if i was going to be very late i would.

YES. Don't want each other to worry.

DH texts when he leaves work. It's basic courtesy.

It annoys me on an evening out tbh but dh asks me too so I do.

I’m usually home about the same time most nights but if I was stuck in traffic there’s not much I can do about letting him know.
If I was going to pop to the pub/shop etc then I would let them know. It’s polite and he would worry.