Ok group of 4 girls all been friends since early primary now all in high school together. Recently dd has become less close with one of the girls due to drama queen behaviour. On a couple of ocassions she has hit dd in school and then cried when she got detention and tried, unsuccessfully, to get everyone to feel sorry for her and turn them against dd. Other times she will refuse to join in with things with the others but then make out that she’s been left out and become upset with one or all of them. Basically she’s pretty immature but most of the time doesn’t actually behave like this and dd says she’s very careful not to do things she shouldn’t in front of teachers so I don’t think there are any sn involved. If she ever does get told off (very rarely) she cries. Maybe it’s hormones who knows? But dd hasn’t been mixing with any of the group much recently in order to avoid this one girl despite the fact she likes the other 2 (one of which dd thinks is scared of her and the other is so laid back she’s horizontal so just goes with the flow). Dd wouldn’t ask either of them keep away from the one she doesn’t like though so she’s just been hanging around with other friends.
Now to the problem. Dd has been invited to do a birthday activity for laid back friends birthday and initially said she would go but after another incident with drama queen friend before the half term (she kicked her as a ‘joke’ and slammed a door on her head then, as usual, acted like the wronged party and turned on the waterworks) dd doesn’t want to go (it is only the 4 girls going). Dd would rather do something with laid back friend separately but laid back friend has said she really wants her there and it won’t be the same. My feeling is that if she does go there will likely be some silliness that will spoil the celebration. This may well happen even if she doesn’t go but at least dd won’t be involved.
So there’s the essay. Anyone got any idea of how to avoid drama and not spoil friends b’day?