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to wish Harry and Meghan would stop holding hands when on official engagements

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FleetwithPike · 22/10/2018 10:30

I think she is beautiful and he seems like a nice chap. I wish them a long and happy life with their child/ren.

But for the love of God, could they stop holding hands - they're not on a date, they're carrying out official business!

Makes me cringe, so it does.

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LavendarGreen · 22/10/2018 12:09

@Littlebookofcalm

It's a bit needy

This is obviously aimed at Meghan, not Harry. Hmm

Pathetic comment, borne out of jealousy and bitterness.

Grow up.

StaySafe · 22/10/2018 12:11

Well, it is better than Princess Anne who wears white gloves and doesn't like touching people.

librarylover53 · 22/10/2018 12:12

Just when you thought you'd read it all......

Is there no end to the bitterness that some carry around with them? Can't be healthy wallowing in such miserable, jealous and bitter thoughts constantly....,

Volfgang · 22/10/2018 12:14

But it's not a run of the mill job. Part of their job IS to show off their happy couple-ness. I'm sure they'd prefer not to have to most of the time!

championquartz · 22/10/2018 12:15

They're a couple in their 30s, I don't get the need to be hanging on to each other all the time. Fair enough they're newly married and she's pregnant and it's all bunnies and roses blah blah. But whether you agree or not, THEY ARE AT WORK! It's work and it is not professional. Feck the image. Anyway, the image atm (to me) is neediness and insecurity, not exactly what they're aiming for.

And like pps have said, I pity them for the day they don't hold hands. The furore it will cause Grin

LizzieSiddal · 22/10/2018 12:15

Kate and Wills were holding hands at Eugenie's weddingShock.

They're all at it!!

I like it, she may have been an actress and used to a bit of scrutiny, but nothing like she has now. A hand hold must be very reassuring for her.

And Dh and I still old hands all the time, we're 52!

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FleetwithPike · 22/10/2018 12:16

Grow up

take your own advice, LavGreen! You're being awfully snippy. Meghan and Harry are attractive, rich, smiley, about to have a baby - I'm delighted for them. Thinking they shouldn't continually hold hands doesn't mean anyone is jealous or bitter.

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QueenoftheNights · 22/10/2018 12:17

I think some decorum is necessary. They can be affectionate without clinging to each other all of the time. M is always using two hands to hold onto him- like she's 17 not 37.

I also hate the thigh split dress she wore yesterday- totally inappropriate- and the way she cradles her bump- there is hardly anything to show so why she's got her hands on it all the time?

SecretWitch · 22/10/2018 12:17

Not bothered a bit. HTH

LavendarGreen · 22/10/2018 12:19

Well said @LibraryLover53 ...

harshbuttrue1980 · 22/10/2018 12:20

I don't think they should be holding hands when on official engagements. PDA's when at work or out with friends are bad manners, as they make other people feel excluded. When M and H are doing their royal duties, their role is to make the people they are visiting (often children, the poor, the sick etc) feel like the centre of the world. Couples walking around surgically attached to one another are making it clear that they are the each other's centre of the world, not the people they are visiting. In the same way that, if you are part of a couple socialising with mutual friends who are not in couples, you don't spend all night sitting on each other's knees and gazing into each other's eyes - its rude, plain and simple.

ImNotBusyImLazy · 22/10/2018 12:20

Unbelievable. With all the evil and hate in the world, you take issue with two people holding hands? We need more of this, not less.

QueenoftheNights · 22/10/2018 12:23

The point is, they are at work representing the queen.
The queen and the D of E have never behaved like this in over 60 years. That might be going a bit too much the other way, but imo H&M have gone too far.

SHE comes over as really needy by the way she holds onto him all the time. I think she misses the point that Brits tend to be more reserved than our friends across the pond. We like a bit of subtlety.

Part of the reason the queen is respected is for her self control and low key emotions because she takes her role seriously and it's work.

Some may say she goes too far and is remote but I'd rather have that than it going too much the other way.

I think the Palace needs to advise M that less is more, when it comes to PDA and we can use our imagination, knowing they are in love and having a child.

Hissy · 22/10/2018 12:25

With all the evil and hate in the world, you take issue with two people holding hands? We need more of this, not less.

hear hear. Utterly bang on.

lynsey91 · 22/10/2018 12:26

I think its lovely to see a royal couple who actually get on and are in love

QueenoftheNights · 22/10/2018 12:28

Comments such as 'unbelievable' miss the point.

The Royals are doing a job. Their trips overseas are not about them - this time it's for the Invictus Games. Half the readers of the Daily Fail , judging by their horrible comments,looked at H&M gadding about Oz and thought they were on holiday!

Their role is to raise the profile of charities and help others. This is not helped if they turn into 'slebs' flaunting themselves. They are supposed to be conduits for 'good causes' not the centre of attention.

Having too much PDA means that is what the press focuses on rather than the real reasons for visits.

LittleBookofCalm · 22/10/2018 12:28

@lavender, how dare you assume I am aiming my comments that they are needy to meghan! What if I am, which I am not, you are totally ridiculous to tell me to grow up due to my comment, why jump to silly conclusions

Emma765 · 22/10/2018 12:29

Honestly, some of you are getting so riled about a fluffy thread on a chat forum

Hilarious that you would say that when two people holding hands got you so riled up that you felt compelled to start said thread.

Hissy · 22/10/2018 12:29

I think the Palace needs to advise M that less is more, when it comes to PDA and we can use our imagination, knowing they are in love and having a child.

I think it's WELL established that the Palace has got an AWFUL lot wrong when it comes to pastoral care of the people within the family.

Harry (and Meghan) are the new wave of royals and are doing just about the best ever job of their duties, they are popular, accessible and more 'real' than pretty much anyone else in the royal family.

motherlondon · 22/10/2018 12:32

If showing their love wasn't part of their 'job' they could have just got married in a registry office without 2 billion people watching.
I saw them in Sydney on the weekend in person, I'm no royalist, but they've made the world a happier place.
There are a lot of things to get shitted off about including Saudi's murdering dissidents, millions of kids starving in Yemen and Zimbabwean pensioners starving in their nursing homes, but two young modern royals holding hands isn't one of them.

lynsey91 · 22/10/2018 12:34

Me and DH hold hands all the time. We are in our 60's and have been married almost 40 years. I guess we had beťter stop

LittleBookofCalm · 22/10/2018 12:34

@lavender how dare you call me jealous and bitter, I think you are the one who needs to grow up, so silly

Instacrumb · 22/10/2018 12:34

I dont mind it sometimes but it's a bit much that she hangs from him all time. Shes constantly grabbing him. But I think it's more PR related and to help towards her approval by being over affectionate she's saying 'look how much I love him'. Probably some insecurity on her part too. I'm more bothered by her looking at every single camera and smiling though, even at a memorial service.

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FleetwithPike · 22/10/2018 12:37

Me and DH hold hands all the time. We are in our 60's and have been married almost 40 years. I guess we had beťter stop

Only if you're members of the Royal Family on an official engagement - otherwise you can crack on!

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