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to wish Harry and Meghan would stop holding hands when on official engagements

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FleetwithPike · 22/10/2018 10:30

I think she is beautiful and he seems like a nice chap. I wish them a long and happy life with their child/ren.

But for the love of God, could they stop holding hands - they're not on a date, they're carrying out official business!

Makes me cringe, so it does.

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Shockers · 22/10/2018 11:16

Can you imagine if they didn’t? I can see the headlines already 🙄

They’re damned whatever they do.

BloobCurdling · 22/10/2018 11:16

Meghan looks as if she would topple over if she wasn't holding Harry's hand

At this point that could actually be the case - she could be feeling exhausted and faint.

We all know she was perfectly independent, earned her own money and didn't lean on a man for most of her adult life - so holding his hand now doesn't make me think she's incapable in any way. She's pregnant.

Butterymuffin · 22/10/2018 11:16

Yes, let's have less hand holding, that's what the world needs today! Hmm

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 22/10/2018 11:18

I am not a Royalist but I really cannot get worked up about this .

Mountainsided · 22/10/2018 11:19

FFS. I like it. I think it’s super weird that William/Kate don’t even touch. I hate that part of the “royal protocol” and the stupid coat dress uniform. I like Megan for doing her own thing.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/10/2018 11:19

OP you'll be pleased to know she's resting for a few days so you won't have to see them and their permissive culture of physical contact

Worriedmummybekind · 22/10/2018 11:20

When I was pregnant my DP had to hold my hand in case I fainted (real possibility!) but aside from that I think it’s natural for them and sweet. Nothing wrong with holding or not holding hands. They should be allowed to do whichever is most natural to them.

MissLingoss · 22/10/2018 11:21

Depends on the occasion, imo. An informal affair on a beach, fine. A solemn Remembrance ceremony, not fine. With degrees of appropriateness in between. But pretty sure Harry knows that.

mostdays · 22/10/2018 11:22

This is scraping the barrel for something to be miffed about.

EdWinchester · 22/10/2018 11:22

I do think it’s a bit daft, but I also think it’s refreshing. #conflicted

They are certainly knocking out all of the stuffiness of royals previous. I’ve noticed it’s made William and Kate a bit more publicly affectionate too.

Lonecatwithkitten · 22/10/2018 11:24

This is the new world even Princess Haya and Sheik Mohammed hold hands.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/10/2018 11:24

I just don't have enough 😡 in me to look at this pic and think oh my God they'll bring the nation into disrepute, don't they know she should walk a pace behind him at all times and never touch in public

to wish Harry and Meghan would stop holding hands when on official engagements
FlamingJuno · 22/10/2018 11:24

YANBU - they are at work. And it's not just holding hands is it - it's clinging to the point where they look awkward as they only have one free hand each - bit like a three-legged race. Sometimes M has both of her hands round one of H's.

justfloatingpast · 22/10/2018 11:25

Ok Bruegel not 'frothing with indignation' but people who go to the trouble of being rude and cutting about something innocuous possibly need to go out and take a nice long walk themselves.

MrsAJ27 · 22/10/2018 11:27

Get a life and stop complaining about such trivial things.

BoyMad · 22/10/2018 11:27

TBH Meghan has it all. She has really transformed the way people view the Royal family. I don't mind if they hold hands, it's lovely to see. It's just a pity William is older than Harry. Harry would make a fabulous King. They are much better than dreary William and Kate. Meghan has a lot more fashion freedom when they don't dress her down to make Kate look better.

Batteriesallgone · 22/10/2018 11:27

When I was pregnant with my first and out at family dos with DH, we would often hold hands. One squeeze from me would mean I’m ok, two would mean I’m a bit lightheaded, three would mean I need to sit NOW I’m going to faint. She seems to be coping very well with her pregnancy but no one really knows, and if holding hands helps, all power to the pair of them.

Their marriage, the having of the sex and hopefully successful reproduction is part and parcel of their position. It seems churlish to place silly restrictions on physical contact in public when half the country was chatting about how quickly she was going to get pregnant a couple of months ago.

Ennirem · 22/10/2018 11:28

Oh come on - their 'job' is to be an ostensibly perfect couple. It's part of the package.

I mean if the ribbon cutting etc was actually a job, it's his job - no particular reason why she should have to be involved because they're wed (think Miriam Gonzalez Durantez). But that isn't what the job is, that's just opportunities to do the job, which is Being Royalty and upholding the image of the family as traditional yet modern, regal but approachable, just like you and me except obviously far far better. And yeah, that means as a recently married couple they must be manifestly In Love every minute under the cameras. Imagine the furore in the tabs if they didn't hold on: there marriage would instantly be deemed "on the rocks".

We're a sad bunch as a nation to still be indulging in this pageantry really...

Rebecca36 · 22/10/2018 11:29

How horrible. My husband and I have been married many years and still hold hands when out. It's a normal thing to do! Stop being such a misery guts.

ProfessorMoody · 22/10/2018 11:31

OP, I wish I was you. Your life must be so fulfilled with nothing to worry about other than whether a couple holds hands. May you always have such ridiculous and minimal things to concern yourself over.

Sparklesocks · 22/10/2018 11:32

It doesn’t really bother me.
But then I don’t really consider their engagements the same ‘work’ as a typical person’s to be honest, it’s about meeting people and talking to them and i don’t think the handholding detracts from that. Maybe if they were full on snogging!
I don’t really care for the royals so don’t mind who does or doesn’t hold hands.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 22/10/2018 11:32

Good god, OP, you are a twit.

ExFury · 22/10/2018 11:34

You can’t really compare them ‘working’ to two people who work in the same place. John and Jane aren’t a working couple, they just happen to work on the same thing. Where as Harry and Meghan are touring Australia as “the newly married royal couple”. John would still be giving his PowerPoint presentation even if he wasn’t married to Jane. Neither Harry nor Meghan would be doing the tour as it is without them being Haddy and Meghan.

Orchiddingme · 22/10/2018 11:34

I think it's probably quite genuine at the moment, but there will come that day where they are pissing each other off and will have to hold hands anyway as it has now become expected. This is why the Queen is wise and doesn't hold hands and has kept this up for 50 years. I don't think they will be holding hands or indeed part of a constitutional monarchy in 50 years time.

SirVixofVixHall · 22/10/2018 11:35

I agree op. Lovely for non official things, silly while working.
Imagine Theresa May and her husband holding hands as she went on an official visit.