Road Rage

[SoniOni]

I might be being overly sensitive here as am very pregnant and ready to pop. Does anyone else not understand road rage? In a supermarket car park, pulling very slowly out of a space as cannot see due to two white vans being either side of me. I back out so, so slowly and find someone driving about 30mph who nearly crashed in to me. If they were doing the 5mph they were supposed to be they would be able to have slowed down to let me out. They then proceeded to wind their window down and shout 'stupid fucking woman driver' out of their car window.

I ignored, and drove off, shaking. I KNOW I did nothing wrong and what is funny is that I am ex military and am recently advanced driver trained. I know how to drive. I know what is safe.

How do you deal with other peoples road rage? Why do people get road rage like this? I have never understood it and can't stand when people speak to me like I am a child, or drive up my arse for actually daring to do 60 in a 60 zone.

AIBU to think that road rage is really quite dangerous? For those who suffer from it and those on the receiving end? People get upset at the tiniest of things and bar getting upset because someone has done something dangerous (I can understand this), it's just not necessary...

Sorry. Bit of a rant there but am really stressed out and annoyed the bloke got to me!

It might not be wrong to drive in but it makes it much more difficult to get out, like the op has found especially when heavily pregnant and it’s trickier to turn round to look.

*to a no too

*not (bloody hell my spelling has gone downhill!)

I got stuck in a line of traffic yesterday OP around a traffic calming bollard. It was about 4pm, and there must have been a big queue from the other side as even though it was my right of way, about 15 cars came through before I'd had enough.

I counted 2 drivers who said thank you/put their hands up.

I don't know why people can't be more polite these days.

He will be a knob forever and likely generally angry and unpleasant, you however will continue to drive carefully and without stress. There is nothing here to be wound up by.

I have no problem turning round or using mirrors 😆

I ignore shit like that. People who get that angry about such trivial issues like having to slow down for 20 seconds, slightly apply the brake or, god forbid, WAIT for a little bit of time for someone to complete a manouvere have got issues and aren't worth the time of day. Leave them to their ridiculous rage and get on with your day.

I think psychologically that cars are homes on wheels - so that people feel like they can say or do what they like in them as they are on home turf.

I don’t drive, but often see people popping zits/plucking hairs in car parks/at a red light - and then of course the twats who are blatantly texting/eating/applying makeup without paying attention to the road. I think this all stems from a false sense of privacy, as though the car can’t be looked into.

sirmione16 Sat 20-Oct-18 17:55:03
TO ALL THE POSTERS SAYING ABOUT REVERSING INTO A SPACE - ACTUALLY LEARNERS ARE TAUGHT TO DO A FORWARD BAY PARK AND A REVERSE BAY PARK NOW. They're actually taught and assessed on going into a space forwards and backwards. So it's not wrong.

But its SAFEST if you reverse in, for exactly the reason that this OP encountered.

If you can't get to the boot of the car, then park a bit further forwards to leave room. It's not rocket science.

I always pull forward into a supermarket space, then you can push your trolley right up to your boot to unload the bags.... if you reversed in the spaces are so small you'd have to leave the trolley at the bonnet end of the car and carry the bags past the other cars to put in your boot. added to this the OP is also pregnant!! Some of the replies on here

Road rage (or any rage) is never justified - its experienced by partly evolved humans with poor impulse control. Yes it is dangerous.

How I deal with it is by thinking to myself precisely that. And I ignore it and don't react, because 'don't poke the crazy'

You should have complained to the supermarket. Some of them do like to ban customers that go significantly over the speed limit. Local waitrose has a list of number plates and a security guard emerges immediately to tell them to get out when they come into the car park.

They wouldn't have driven into you. You would have driven into them and it would have been your fault.

If you reverse in, it doesn't make any difference if you park 'a bit further forwards'. You can't get down the side of your car with a trolley or bulky purchases. Your boot is boxed in by the cars on both sides and behind you. It's normal to drive in forwards so you can load directly into the boot. It's not like reversing onto a busy A-road. Driving through a car park you should be looking out for people maneuvering.

No, OP would probably have been stationary at the moment of impact, so it would have been the other car driving into her.

I think there are just a lot of angry people out there these days. I don't know why people all seem much less tolerant and chilled. It doesn't take much for some of them to boil over. Weird really.

Christ. Some people really do pull a muscle to say that an OP is BU on here!!

YANBU OP. There are some twats on the road that really shouldn’t be driving. I’m getting a dashcam for Christmas!!

In my experience road rage is caused by women daring to be on the roads, getting in the way of men who have important man things to do.

My most recent mistake of getting in the way of a busy man was on Friday. I was turning right into a side road and failed to give way to a man also turning into the road who wanted to overtake as I made the turn. The near collision was clearly my fault for being in the way thus making him drive like a twat.

I stopped to let someone, who was already halfway across, cross safely. The taxi driver behind me lost his nut, swearing and sounding the horn.

I reacted by wondering how bad it must be for a professional driver to get that wound up at their work. Then went about my day.

Most people in supermarket carparks drive into the bays for reasons other people have stated. A reasonably competent driver knows that any car may start reversing out of a space at any time and adjusts their speed to match. Being a competent driver isn't just about avoiding mistakes yourself, it's about driving in such a way that you can avoid harm from other people's mistakes.

OP
Awful, awful man.

The Government should do a poll: Do you think cyclists have to use cycle lanes? If you answer “yes” you have your license suspended. That would clear a lot of the crap drivers from the roads.

No, OP would probably have been stationary at the moment of impact, so it would have been the other car driving into her.

Not unless the law has changed recently. Cars coming out of a space have to give way; she would be classed as causing the accident (taught from experience, though it may have changed).

Anyway OP, shrug it off it you can. They will spend a longer time being wound up than you; think of it as ruining their day not yours.

Cars coming out of a space have to give way; she would be classed as causing the accident

Maybe, but that's not what onanothertrain said. They said "You would have driven into them". That would require OP to have been moving.

Malmi, by that logic, if I slammed on in lane 3 but was technically stationary before I was rear ended, I could argue "oh but I wasn't moving, you could see I had stopped so it's your fault". Clearly tripe.

The reality is, in a situation like that it would go 50/50 in insurance terms.

Anyhoo, this is about road rage responses and the best advice is not to get bothered by people who won't let you out/don't say thanks/honk. Their day will be reduced and yours won't.