To ask if you would consider this

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Have been offered a job that pays more than my current one.

However it is in a different area of the country. I’ve had a look on Rightmove and I couldn’t really afford to buy anywhere.

I am wondering if it’s worth taking the job and coming ‘home’ at weekends/holidays?

WWYD?

You need to give more details if you want an opinion. Are you in a relationship? Do you have children? Where would you stay during the week? Are you unlikely to get a similar job closer to home?

What's at home, family etc? Can't you move closer but not in the expensive part?
It would also depend how much more too, and if it was the start of a career.
Also how old are you?
I moved 2.5 hours away at 18 and came home at weekends to start with. These days, at 49 and with a family I'd either move or not bother.

I have an adult child but no partner.

I would rent a room during the week I imagine - haven’t finalised the details yet as I don’t know if I’m going to do it.

In due course I might be able to get a similarly paid job closer to home but after a couple of years when I have got a foot in the door I suppose.

No I wouldn’t what that kind of living arrangement.

Why not just move there then? Why do you need to be at home? You could rent out your house and rent somewhere there.

If you really, really, really want the job then it may be worth it- but I did this and it was an horrendous year going back and forth. I ended up taking a job I wasn’t as passionate about but was closer to home.

Yed why do you need to come home or buy there - just rent there.

If its London yiu can get week only rooms in peoples houses, a friend of mine does this.

The rent is really expensive even for a one bed flat. I wouldn’t be able to just rent out my place as my adult child lives there still.

I think I would only consider it if a) it’s a stepping stone to b) a place I really wanted to get to.

If you don't rent out your place because your DC is living their you are saving them from paying rent somewhere but having to pay for two properties yourself.

*living there

How old is your ‘adult’ child? Big difference if they’re 18 or 30.

How far away? How old adult DC, (big difference if 19 or 26). What are the actual figures?

I would do it. If you have an adult DC you are (like me) no spring chicken and opportunities start to decline very quickly as you get older.

Well yes but it is their home! 20.

I am wondering if it’s worth taking the job and coming ‘home’ at weekends/holidays?

I did that for 2 or 3 years pretty much out of necessity. I would never do it again unless it was either that or poverty. Weekdays were lonely, being away from my family and friends. Weekends were extremely short. I'd get in late on the Friday and after a full day's work and a long journey I had little energy left. Returning to work meant either losing sunday evening with my family or getting up before the crack of dawn on the Monday and starting the working week already knackered.

I don't see why not. My friend does this. Works in Bristol and comes back to Scotland at the weekend. It works well for her and her family.

Yes I am worried about that TooTrue

It sounds fine in theory having two full days at ‘home’ but I am not sure ...

Also, what are they doing? Studying? Working? Loafing around the house? Illness/disability/other meaning they can’t study or work?

There is no doubt it is exhausting and far from ideal but a move, a proper move, might be a better long-term goal. You adult DC could well leave him/herself in a year if they get the right job or partner

That’s not relevant really, is it?

How far away?

About 170 miles away but with peak hour traffic it could prove a nightmare.

I’d say at 20 it’s time to get a place of their own. If they’re at uni it won’t affect them much.

I wouldn’t throw my 20 year old out. She chose to go to uni near home for stability.

So what? 4 hours each way? I’d do that. Can you get a Monday to Friday house share?