Neighbour- end of my tether

[Poodles1980]

So we live in a terraced house. My neighbours are driving me nuts. They moved in three years ago and they own the house and we own ours. It’s a woman and her adult college attending daughter. The daughter plays several musical instruments and this is the issue. I can hear her all day every day and all night. She obviously doesn’t have huge college hours so is home a lot. We have tried the polite approach discussing it with them and asking her to not play late at night, we thought this was a good compromise. Worked for a short period of time but she lapsed back into her old ways often playing till 12 at night while we are all trying to sleep. We have tried the rude shouty banging on the wall way which works for a few days again and it all kicks off. Last night she played until around 11.30 when My dh banged on the walls and it stopped. Today I have been home and she has played all day, non stop and is now playing loudly with a group. I have literally lost the will to live. Aibu fo wish she would shut up before I have a nervous breakdown

You've been patient enough, complain to your local council. I think its the Environmental Health who deal with it.

It’s not loud enough for the council to care. They only deal with noise over certain levels where I live

Speak to your neighbourhood police officer. Yiu could get them hit with an ASBO

Does she lie in? Alarm set at 6 with lots of Status Quo /Queen while you hoover +sing along.

How old is she? What’s the chances she’ll be moving out soon?

She is in her early 20’s. Classic high achieving, anxiety ridden spoilt princess. Her mum’s excuse for it is that x needs an outlet for her creativity because she is so smart and highly strung.

Yeah, welcome to my world! Next door have

1. Piano - up against dividing wall. Luckily he's pretty good. Her... not so good, especially when she wails along a la Pink Floyd.
2. Keyboards - fairly annoying, often repetitive.
3. Full size drum kit - sounds like he's playing it the room with me.

Add that to their four murderous trespassing fucker cats and her endless LOUD shouting/ crying/ laughing. I wish they'd fuck off and move.

At least he doesn't go much after 10.30 - otherwise I bang on the walls. Frequently throughout the entire day and evening, though.

I honestly think you may live on my terrace OP! My NDN’s set up is exactly the same. I want to wrangle the CFs sometimes. Any noise past 11pm is anti-social

Knock on the door. Every single night.

Then play Slipknot and Queen through the walls at 6am and have lovely loud dinner parties at 9pm on a Sunday night.

She is plinking away on her harp there. It’s nearly 10pm and I’m tired and would like to go to bed. It’s like living at a drinks reception where there is constant background music. When she is not playing music she is shouting at her mum and slamming doors. Maybe I will go in although tonight may be the night I go postal and you see me on the news tomorrow.

Wait til the music stops and noises die down then play something repetitive and annoying at high volume for a while.
Repeat every day until they get the message

Loud music with a heavy bass sounds like a good solution. Maybe at three in the morning, for an hour?

My DS plays the guitar (but not excessive and not late)

I highly recommend putting the beater bar up on your vacuum and switching it on right up at the skirting board next to the offender s room.
Boy that sound travels , and they can't complain, you're vacuuming

Bagpipes. That is all.

How many times have you spoken to the mother about this? Or knocked on the door to ask it to stop? (face to face, not counting banging on the walls)

If it's more than twice i would write and explain that the noise is having a detrimental effect on you and your life and you would like the music to be between x and y times only (... 8am to 8pm?). Clearly state that if this doesn;t happen you'll be starting proceedings to report them to the council for noise nuisance. Word it with some authority and fingers crossed she doesn't know it's not likely to result in much and will scare her into complying with your request this time.

Could you suggest that they get headphones? Most musical instruments have electric versions that can be used with headphones to prevent neighbour-cide

Gotta play her at her own game. A speaker up against the joining wall and some music she’d hate, like Des O’Connor, at a time that would be unsocial to her - 7am? - non-stop for a few hours.

Yep, would agree that some big feck-off speakers might be the way to go.

Honestly just go round a knock everyday. 8/9pm is plenty late enough. I'd go round every evening and knock and say "ok you've played all day it's now 9pm enough now please" and just keep doing it every night. Suggest try build a sound proof shed in their garden for her to play in if it's absolutely imperative she plays every night as well as all day 🙄

*suggest THEY build

We have discusses it with the mum face to face on numerous occasions over the last few years. I want to be amicable and the Mum is lovely but she just allows the daughter to do whatever she wants.
Can’t suggest headphones as most of the music would be traditional Irish instruments so not really electric versions to be had.
Dh just home from work so he said he is going to go in tomorrow morning and discuss one last time before we take further measures.

It has just stopped there now

Shame it's getting cold now or a late night garden party with slipknot the rolling stones, stone sour and a bit of nirvana. Oh don't forget to invite 20 people and get loudly drunk singing sweet Caroline out of tune

Loud music with a heavy bass sounds like a good solution. Maybe at three in the morning, for an hour?

No, try first thing in the morning e.g. 6am. Or play some atonal eastern music.