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Neighbour- end of my tether

63 replies

Poodles1980 · 19/10/2018 20:38

So we live in a terraced house. My neighbours are driving me nuts. They moved in three years ago and they own the house and we own ours. It’s a woman and her adult college attending daughter. The daughter plays several musical instruments and this is the issue. I can hear her all day every day and all night. She obviously doesn’t have huge college hours so is home a lot. We have tried the polite approach discussing it with them and asking her to not play late at night, we thought this was a good compromise. Worked for a short period of time but she lapsed back into her old ways often playing till 12 at night while we are all trying to sleep. We have tried the rude shouty banging on the wall way which works for a few days again and it all kicks off. Last night she played until around 11.30 when My dh banged on the walls and it stopped. Today I have been home and she has played all day, non stop and is now playing loudly with a group. I have literally lost the will to live. Aibu fo wish she would shut up before I have a nervous breakdown

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Rebecca36 · 19/10/2018 22:22

Move.

penisbeakers · 19/10/2018 22:23

When your husband goes round there, ask him to tell them that if it doesn't stop, you'll be taking it further.

Threatening them with action might work, and if not then they can't say you didn't warn them.

slightlyjaded · 19/10/2018 22:25

Talk directly to the daughter. The mother sounds useless. Musician Girl is old enough to understand and listen to reason, and old enough to feel embarrassed about bumping into you the morning after keeping you up until midnight.

Panicwiththebisto · 19/10/2018 22:37

Firstly do you know which college she attends? The college should have practice rooms she could use. You could complain to the college saying that she plays as late as midnight, it is disturbing your sleep and it is a nuisance. The college should want to maintain good relations within the local community.

Secondly, complain to your local environmental health. Tell them she is playing after 11 pm at night (11 pm - 7 am is considered nighttime for noise disturbance purposes in the UK) They should be able to advise/help you.

Notcontent · 19/10/2018 22:37

That’t Incredibly inconsiderate of them. My dd plays the piano, but I am very aware of the fact that it can obviously be heard by neighbours and can be extremely annoying. So we are quite strict about when she plays - so never after 8 pm, for example.

IHaveADream123 · 19/10/2018 22:38

Cunts

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 19/10/2018 22:40

You need to invest in a Throbbing Gristle album and turn the speakers to the wall.

Laiste · 19/10/2018 22:41

Echo pp, let DH warn them very nicely that really this is the last time you'll be asking them yourselves and from now on you will have to involve a third party. (ie report them.)

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 19/10/2018 22:43

We do early morning karaoke.

Nothing worked at the time but the late night parties are now less frequent and slightly quieter. I think they've just grown out of it rather than changed out of any consideration for the neighbours.

Tartsamazeballs · 19/10/2018 22:48

Time to book a 2 week holiday and accidentally leave the crazy frog song playing the entire time?

Eatmycheese · 19/10/2018 22:48

My contribution on the music front would be Mastodon. Play it as loud as you can right next to the wall. When she is “ mastering her art”
It will wipe the floor with the ceilidh music.

That or go round there and duct tape her hands to her body, while muttering “ you just wouldn’t stop playing your silly little instruments would you dear????. “

You are most definitely fucking not being unreasonable.

Melamin · 19/10/2018 22:54

Someone near us used to play Your 1000 Favourite Panpipe Tunes, (or whatevva). You could try something like that.

Hillarious · 19/10/2018 22:56

Happy to swap my hearing impairment for your musical neighbours!

RomanyRoots · 19/10/2018 23:02

Call your council, they should not be playing at night. we are a musical family and have great neighbours, but wouldn't take the piss.
I think 8pm is reasonable during the week.

owlshooting · 19/10/2018 23:03

I would play heavy metal really loudly when you are out. Just leave in on top volume . Switch off when you return. Do it every time . If it doesn't work, start playing it at random times through the night. Just when they've got to sleep, put it on again. You will be knackered but it'll be worth it because the message will sink in a after a couple of nights of that. Go away on holiday and leave heavy metal on if you are really evil.

applesandpears33 · 19/10/2018 23:05

Did you mention celtic harp? Plenty of electric harps. Suggest to the daughter she looks into buying one. They are substantially lighter and easier to move around than wooden harps and the daughter may be quite excited about the idea of getting one. Camac are a good make.

KeiTeNgeNge · 19/10/2018 23:11

Not sure the inconsiderate daughter would be keen on splashing out on a new harp for op’s benefit

ohello · 19/10/2018 23:19

Play this at them, at 4 in the morning.

Maelstrop · 19/10/2018 23:20

Had a piccolo player next door. He insisted on playing against the lounge wall-us downstairs flat, him full house semi, so he could have used an upstairs room opposite to us. We complained, he came to offer us tickets to his concert but we had the Prodigy on full blast to drown him out so couldn’t really hear. Grin

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Poodles1980 · 19/10/2018 23:24

In response to a few questions
I know which college she attends. It’s actually a university and she is not studying music so doubt they would care about her disturbing me.
I wouldn’t consider moving, we live in probably one of the most desirable places in the city and houses rarely come up for sale.

We have to be up and out early tomorrow so I am thinking I
Might leave the music on, current pick is baby shark do do so do (anyone with a small child you will know the hell this is) or a really dodgy Kenny chesney album my shameful dh owns

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LimpyLampy · 19/10/2018 23:25

Bagpipes. That is all.

This! A few weeks of bagpipes and they'll STFU!

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Poodles1980 · 19/10/2018 23:28

I wonder how much a set of bagpipes would cost? Maybe I could set up a go fund me pageHalloween Wink

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KeiTeNgeNge · 19/10/2018 23:33

If she’s into Celtic music she may adore bagpipes!

lunar1 · 19/10/2018 23:34

Peppa pig theme tune on repeat 24/7 against their wall till they shut the fuck up.

ToadOfSadness · 19/10/2018 23:35

You need to get some large speakers to place against the wall and a sound system. Set up some heavy bass music on a loop and go away for a few days.
Ensure that no-one can contact you.