Neighbour- end of my tether

[Poodles1980]

So we live in a terraced house. My neighbours are driving me nuts. They moved in three years ago and they own the house and we own ours. It’s a woman and her adult college attending daughter. The daughter plays several musical instruments and this is the issue. I can hear her all day every day and all night. She obviously doesn’t have huge college hours so is home a lot. We have tried the polite approach discussing it with them and asking her to not play late at night, we thought this was a good compromise. Worked for a short period of time but she lapsed back into her old ways often playing till 12 at night while we are all trying to sleep. We have tried the rude shouty banging on the wall way which works for a few days again and it all kicks off. Last night she played until around 11.30 when My dh banged on the walls and it stopped. Today I have been home and she has played all day, non stop and is now playing loudly with a group. I have literally lost the will to live. Aibu fo wish she would shut up before I have a nervous breakdown

@eatmycheese great choice!!!

I won't hear a bad word against Kenny Chesney, OP! 😛

I really do sympathise with you, my noisy neighbours just moved out and I nearly wept with happiness. Absolute bastards. If the new guys are noisy I'm going to get a BB gun on them. (I don't recommend shooting your NDN btw) 😂

Mastodon AND Throbbing Gristle at the same time?

Agree with PP that DH should speak directly to the daughter when he does go round to complain for the final time.
If her DM treats her like a precious thing, you don't know whether her DM has ever spoken to her about your complaints.
If she is inclined to rant and shout at her DM, your neighbour may well have kept schtumm with her in order to keep some sort of peace in her own home, albeit at the expense of your peace.
Noisy neighbours are my idea of hell.
You have my sympathy.

Well OP I hope you’ve got your noise ducks in a row before you set forth this morning
Baby shark is quite inspired. Runs off to cover ears and search out headache tablets

Don't play loud music to disturb them, that just escalates the situation and gets you nowhere and means you can't complain through the proper channels.

Personally, if it were me, I would go round every time I wanted to sleep and the music was disturbing me. Every Single Time. In my pyjamas, and bang on the door. And say,.... please Stop. I want to go to sleep and your playing is disturbing me.

They'll soon get fed up of you banging on the door

Given that you have to declare any neighbour disputes when selling your house (and finding out that a potential house purchase has noisy, inconsiderate neighbours would certainly put me off), I think 'taste of their own medicine' therapy is preferable, personally.

Yeah she needs to rent a soundproofed studio

I have neighbours (not even attached) who argue regularily...well the women goes fishwife on him for hours.

A dj friend of mine made me a cd with ...shut up, just shut up (from Black Eyed Peas) sampled.

I've mislaid it and I would definitly of played it when they start up

Another vote for the sound proofing. If she wants to play at her house she needs to sound proof the room she plays in. It's unreasonable to let your neighbors deal with the noise all day.

OP I feel for you.

And every other person who has to put up with shit like this on a daily basis.

It's even worse for shift workers who have to try to sleep during the day and not during "standard" 11-7 sleep time.

If reason fails in the form of knocking and requesting after 9pm the latest, I'd be foregoing sleep for several nights myself and showing them what god-awful noise is like by employing several of the previously suggested noises (love the beater bar against the skirtings) from about 4:30am.

Just as a little example of how noise can disrupt y'know?

I read so many threads like this it's depressing. Can't MNers get together and get something going to raise awareness to councils that this kind of thing can ruin lives? There's a huge difference between peaceful enjoyment of your property and making life hell for others. Why is there no consideration for other people these days?

Yes, I'm an old fart. An old fart who, like the OP and many, many others who put up with this shit too much.

Good luck OP

have the neighbours on the other side of her mentioned anything

It's not just about sleep time though is it. The op has a right to live her life without hearing this music constantly. She should be able to watch tv, talk to her family and even have some peace and quiet without listening to the neighbor constantly.

Once practice goes over an hour or so a day, the onus is on the person playing the music to find a way to stop the sound driving every one else crazy.