Currently planning a VERY small wedding - as in small register office job with a few people, and a few more people for a small tea in the afternoon.
I would have preferred to invite no one (tbh I'm not keen on most of my family anyway), but I get on well with DP's family and his mum made it known she'd be very upset if she wasn't invited so I felt guilty.
I've spent agggges researching into how to do this on a small budget. Atter a lot of research, we have settled on a buffet tea after the register office with a view to invite most people just to this rather than the ceremony. This costs about £35 per person, plus money for booze etc. We also have to pay £100 venue cost.
We have a guest list of 15 people, this is parents, siblings, grandparents, and a couple of uncles (only the ones we are close to). We am not inviting cousins, extended family, friends, or plus ones (boyfriends, girlfriends of guests).
I haven't sent the invites yet, but my family know it's next summer.
Getting on to the subject of the thread, my sister is currently living in New Zealand, and has been seeing a new man for about 3 weeks. She says they are now a couple, and she's pretty head over heels with him. Fine, good for her.
But now she messages me and asks if he can come to the wedding. I said it's small and even extended family aren't coming, she says she's already asked him to be her plus one. She then says I would really like him. Maybe so, but I don't want a stranger at my small, intimate wedding, especially when we are paying per head. I don't want to be crass and make it about money, but these costs are all adding up and I don't know him!
Am I being mean/miserable or is she a CF? Are plus ones just expected nowadays? How do I handle this without awkwardness?