Is this rude or just crazy

[allupsidedown]

The kids had a sleepover at Gran's Monday night. DD just told me that the first thing Mil does when I leave them for a sleepover is to strip them, put them in new clothes and wash everything they were wearing and the entire contents of their overnight bag.
I asked when did she start doing that? Did replied that she has always done it but she only realised it was weird this week. What the fuck?

That is weird, although would be ruder if she told you she was doing it I think. Do you smoke or have pets or anything that she could be bothered by the smell of?

perhaps they smell anf you havent noticed as your use to your own smell? sorry its just my first thought. do you smoke?

It’s rude and weird IMO

very odd indeed. The clothes must smell or shes just odd.

Odd unless you smoke

Do you smoke? Perhaps your clothes smell musty and you don't realise it. Or maybe she's just paranoid.

She perhaps has an obsession with germs.

might have a damp smell?

Don't smoke, no pets, we shower regularly and my washing machine is always on the go so definitely clothes are washed regularly too. Our house doesn't have damp.
Pils won't eat in our house (have been known to drive 20 miles home to have a cuppa soup instead of eating here) so I presume she thinks I'm unclean.
I think she is batshit crazy!
The funniest thing is I am always super careful about the clothes I pack, nothing stained or faded, brand new underwear and socks if possible. (I'm not sure what dd2 does to her socks but they are quite often filthy) so Mil has quite often washed clothes that have already been washed but not worn yet!

Maybe she doesn't like the smell of the detergent you use ..... trying to be kind to your pil, or maybe she's just nuts.

Honestly I would just ask her why she is doing that.

Me too Valafitz. It's certainly strange and rather insulting. I get washing their clothes to go home clean but not as soon as they arrive.

Sounds like a control thing. All that washing sounds like territorial pissing to me. You can't reason with batshit.

If I ask she will probably burst into tears and tell dh I was horrible to her. That is the usual response to being asked something.
I will just bother washing any brand new clothes from now on -saves me a job!

A friend of mine very generously gives us loads of her DDs clothes. We are very grateful but the detergent she uses smells awful and I have to wash everything a few times before the smell goes away.
My guess would be that your MIL feels the same but doesn't want to say anything.

I'd ask her in front of dh .

I am allergic to the smell of fabric softener. Perhaps you use one (most ppl seem to) so she washes their clothes so she can get close to them without worrying? maybe... or she is weird

I do that when my DS comes back from my PIL's house. 

Both DH and I think their house stinks and we can't stand for our DS to smell like he's been there. We always joke that he smells like Eau de OAP.

Or you could just send all dirty clothes? She'll wash them and save you a job!

My grandmother used to do this too. Our house didn’t smell etc but she would immediately put us in the bath and wash all of our clothes then redress us.
She had six boys so I think being able to dress her granddaughters up was a bit of a novelty for her.
She was a bit of a clean freak too though.

Do you have a dog?

Or do you smoke?

We use the same detergent as DH has allergies and I knew when we moved in together that he wasn't allergic to the one she used so asked her what it was. Yes, when we moved in together, he was still taking his washing home to mummy to do!
Asking in front of DH would still result in tears. His way of dealing with her is mostly ignoring the madness.

doesnt sound like a control thing as she didnt tell you so obviously didnt want you to know.

Starzip

allupsidedown

Don't smoke, no pets