Hello! Long time lurker, first time poster.
On holiday recently, buffet restaurant meal plan thing, I started picking up a plate of carvery and then noticed that the "special" meals that night were Chinese, so had a small plate of carvery and planned to go back to try some of the Chinese stuff I wouldn't want to buy a whole thing of to try normally. After all, we were on holiday and I wanted to enjoy myself and take advantage of being in a buffet restaurant to try new things. In hindsight (if i'd seen the Chinese first) I probably would have had that plate first, and only gone back for Carvery food if I hadn't liked the Chinese. (Unrelated) but the beef in oyster sauce was amazing!!
Told DH the plan when I got back to the table with the Carvery plate. He then spent the time I took eating my carvery saying things like "This is just what [name large relative that can't control their eating] would do" and then "I don't find you attractive having this". Continued with "If you have desert [further mean comments which I don't recall]. (So I had the desert as a bit of a F-you to him).
The "I dont find you attractive" one got to me, and it's not the first time it's been said. A few months ago it was said in a "If you wear Pandora bracelet I won't find you attractive" (I got the bracelet anyway!). I also remember he said it another time but can't remember what it was about.
Bit of back story, I am overweight, and gained too much weight during pregnancy with DD, but am now back down below my pre-pregnancy weight and on track to keep losing.
I brought it up with him on the evening of our hol when this happened, but he thinks I was completely BU and overreacting and he was annoyed at DD being a bit fussy really. (DD was tired but not really being too bad)
AIBU to think that I wasn't overreacting by being annoyed at DH comments, and by thinking they were just an attempt to control me?