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AIBU?

To not to take off this ring? πŸ’

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Namechange1907 · 16/10/2018 19:37

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RPC28 · 16/10/2018 19:38

???

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Ghanagirl · 16/10/2018 19:38

What this one πŸ’

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NotACleverName · 16/10/2018 19:40

LTB

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Namechange1907 · 16/10/2018 19:40

Right. Posted too early. Sorry...
I bought myself a ring v similar to the one on the photo. I wear it on my right middle finger. I like this ring and treated myself.

My boyfriend wants me to take it off before people assume we are engaged. Also had one person asking if I got engaged? But I like the ring... and don't want to take it off. Aibu?

To not to take off this ring? πŸ’
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dolphinhusband · 16/10/2018 19:40

Don't leave us hanging like this...

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dolphinhusband · 16/10/2018 19:41

Sorry x-posted. Can you not wear it on the other hand ??

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Namechange1907 · 16/10/2018 19:42

Hang on I thought engagement ring goes on the left hand? 😱

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AllViewsMyOwn · 16/10/2018 19:42

@dolphinhusband she already wears it on the right hand

I wouldn't listen to him. Wear it if you want to

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MsHopey · 16/10/2018 19:42

Tell him to piss off.
It's not on your engagement finger and you are allowed nice jewellery.

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WontLetThoseRobotsDefeatMe · 16/10/2018 19:43

If you like it, wear it. Enjoy it!!

Also, why would any rings on someone's right hand signify engagement?

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polkadotpixie · 16/10/2018 19:44

I don't understand why people would think you're engaged if you're wearing it on the middle finger of your right hand

Tell your boyfriend to piss off and tbh, I'd be rather offended that he's being mardy at the prospect of people thinking you're engaged

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RPC28 · 16/10/2018 19:47

My opinion? πŸ€” don't let a man ever tell you what not to wear, what to wear or how to where anything. Unless you give him the option for example which dress shall I wear black or red type thing. You are your own person and if you want to wear that ring on whatever finger you want then carry on. If he don't like it then tell him to bog off.

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trulybadlydeeply · 16/10/2018 19:47

He's trying to tell you what jewellery you should and shouldn't wear? He's getting upset about a ring that you wear on a different finger and a different hand to an engagement ring?

Is he this controlling in other areas of your life?

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EmilyRosiEl · 16/10/2018 19:52

The bigger issue here is why your boyfriend is offended when people ask whether you are engaged!

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HildaZelda · 16/10/2018 19:53

It's not the ring you need to get rid of OP .....

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kaytee87 · 16/10/2018 19:54

Why would people think you're engaged if you wear it on your right hand, middle finger. Is your bf usually a bit stupid?

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TakeMe2Insanity · 16/10/2018 19:56

But its not on your engagement finger...

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Aquamarine1029 · 16/10/2018 19:56

Wear the ring, lose the boyfriend.

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puzzledlady · 16/10/2018 19:57

dump the loser boyfriend. keep the ring.

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Bestseller · 16/10/2018 19:58

It is a strange thing to buy for yourself, presumably while you were with this boyfriend, if someone has noticed as a new ring?

That said, you wear what you like.

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Namechange1907 · 16/10/2018 19:58

Haha ... yeah he is not controlling otherwise and never really comments on what I should /shouldn't wear unless I ask. Not sure why he asked me to take it off. Told him to piss if and didn't mention after that . But obviously I had that college asking if I'm engaged after this and that made me wonder is he right? Does it look like we are engaged?

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Grumpypig · 16/10/2018 20:00

He's being weird! If it's on your right hand it won't look remotely like an engagement ring.

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 16/10/2018 20:00

Wrong hand. Wrong finger. It doesn’t resemble an engagement ring Confused. He’s a knob.

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SabineUndine · 16/10/2018 20:01

I've got a solitaire diamond I inherited from my spinster aunt. I wear it on the ring finger of my right hand. In some countries that's the engagement/wedding ring finger. I don't give a monkey's.

Ask your BF what he's frightened of.

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xJessica · 16/10/2018 20:07

I would never in a million years assume that a ring on the middle finger of your right hand was an engagement ring! Different if you were wearing it on your left hand ring finger but why is he so horrified at the thought anyway? Confused I would keep wearing it. I wear my great grandma's wedding ring on my right hand and it just looks like a plain gold narrow ring.

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