Name changed.
Disclaimers/pre-empting.
- I know some of you will think this is gross. My post isn't about that.
- I consider it a business and comply with everything that entails. I describe it as selling second hand clothes.
- It's through a third party site so I'm only known by my username. They don't know any of my real details and will never meet me or have private contact details.
- Only my husband knows irl.
A few years back I started selling my used knickers as a second job. We needed the money and although he was very reluctant, my dh agreed. I didn't ask his permission as such but I wanted his ok.
It's been slow but I've built up a good client base. Although it doesn't bring in a fortune and we no longer need the money, it is good for frivolities. Last year it paid for a holiday and a few day trips etc. It certainly helps us have things we wouldn't otherwise. To me, it's easy money.
My dh has decided he wants me to stop because he doesn't like it. I don't see the issue, it's not his thing but everyone has their own kinks. He wouldn't have an issue if I worked in Ann Summers or whatever. There's a market for it, and it's very little effort for my part and has zero impact on anyone else.
If I stopped my regulars would go somewhere else and there's been a big increase in people doing this so it would be tough to build it back up if I decided to go back to it.
I think we would miss the money.
I've not refused but I pointed out the benefits and that it doesn't affect him and no one knows. I'm descreet about it and I don't have dirty underwear lying around around or anything like that. All he sees is the packages ready to post. He doesn't even see me wrap them. They don't smell. He does sometimes help me with sorting out the financial aspect.
So who is being unreasonable, dh for asking me to stop something which doesn't negatively impact on him at all or am I not respecting his wishes over a bit of a weird subject?