To ask what you once the kids are in bed

[pullupinthekitcheninmyheels]

What time do they go to bed, and what do you do when they are finally in bed and you have a bit of time to yourself?

Nothing anymore. It's usually gone 10pm by the time 10yr old dd has stopped smashing around and keeping her brother awake. My evenings are often spent sitting on the stairs to keep her away from him .

Bath and bed at 7pm.
Stick some washing in
Make dinner
Do the dishes
Get husband to stick washing in the dryer
and take the dog out for a wee in the garden
Watch an hr of TV if there's anything I want to catch up on
Look at the state of the place and weep internally
Eat a biscuit maybe if we have any (we dont right now as I'm on a diet)
Make a cup of tea and forget to drink it while doing some Uni work
Go to bed about 10.30pm and wait to be woken about 5 times during the night.

On a school night..
Dc2 goes up between 7.30-8
Dc1 at 8.30

We eat dinner, watch TV, load dishwasher...I usually stick a wash on and go on MN.

Too tired for much else

Slump exhausted into a chair, mentally make a list of stuff I should be doing, watch crap on tv.

@brickByBrick & @megletthesecond

My mum was very lucky with ASD Dsis who has always been the sleepiest girl going

That was not meant to be a gloat. But re reading it sounds that way. I just meant to be empathetic

Work. Do quite a lot of that (work from home). DH does housework, he doesn’t bring work home.
Go out, see friends.
Go out, exercise.
Go out, events and music or theatre.
Stay in, cook, batch cook or bake.
Stay in, play games or do puzzles.
Stay in, watch box sets or movies.
Stay in with friends round.

Take baths, dye my hair, do my nails, give each other massages, have sex.

Can’t rely on kids being completely asleep until 10pm ish (although we try for 9) so for most of the above things we just don’t wait until they are in bed (obviously we do for the sex).

And we don’t go to bed until 1.30am or so, so lots of time.

I go first most nights, been like that for years, especially in winter, the heating goes off at 8 so by 9 it is feeling cold, duvets are warm (I watch iPlayer in bed). Dh is a night owl who games so we watch tv early evening together, I go up, he plays and dd it depends if she is at college or work (starts at 6am)

dazed no offence taken. Everyone's different.
I did have bedtimes when mine were toddlers. DD starting running amok around 2.6. Prior to that I watched telly and studied.

DS is 2.5 and goes to bed between 6:30-7 as he no longer naps. One of us does bedtime while the other does any housework required so by 07:15 at the lastest we are able to relax. We either watch TV together or DH plays a computer game with his friends while I listen to Audible and do cross stitch :)

That’s a blast from the past as I’m usually in bed first now!
Used to (when they were little in bed by 7ish):
Have civilised dinner
Watch tv
Clear up from the day
Have sex - was quite a good time before you’re too knackered at 10pm!

Now they tend to be in their rooms so do most of it anyway!! We all eat together though about 7, then clear up, dh and I will usually watch a programme once all chores done.

My 10yo DTDs are in bed by 9:15. I then either collapse exhausted on the sofa and watch Netflix, or make jewellery if I have the energy.

Usually get time to ourselves from 9pm (ds aged 6 goes to bed at 7.30 and dd aged 15 takes herself up to her bedroom to Snapchat friends etc and watch Netflix from about 9/9.30) so we just tend to watch Netflix stuff and eat snack food.

I'll do the last bit of washing up from dinner then relax in front of the TV.

children are in bed at 8.00, asleep by 8.30 but sometimes dont settle until 8.45 latest. i do dishwasher, wipe kitchen, put away laundry/remove it from machine and hang it in spare room, pack for next day and look at instagram accounts for inspiration and watch iplayer. i go to bed far too late.

DD2 (5 months) asleep by 7pm but usually wakes a good few times after that. DD1 (3 1/2) usually asleep by 8pm. Go downstairs, cook dinner, clear kitchen, think about tidying up but decide to plonk myself on the sofa in front of the TV for an hour despite the fact that the house looks like a bomb has exploded in every room. Have an argument with DP because I don't want to have sex and he does. Deep joy.

This is how I came to do a degree with two under four. I realised I was frittering the little time I had to myself watching rubbish TV (now it would be messing about on the Internet)

Urgh my 11 year old is awake until near 1am and 8 year old rarely asleep before 10 (both autistic). When we convince them to sleep I usually either work (very small craft business) or watch drivel on the tv

7pm on a school night,ds is 4.We usually watch a film or box set snuggled on the sofa

Ds who is 10 and the eldest goes up at 8.30 on a school night. Dh and I will normally try and watch something we both like on tv. On a Friday we feed the kids earlier and eat once they are in bed. I don't think I have many more years before I am in bed first as ds10 can often be awake still at 10.

Those of you who don't end up cleaning the house and tidying toys and doing general day to day boring tasks, HOW?! DC goes to bed at 7pm. From 5pm I am manic. By the time I have managed to cook, do bath time and put kids to bed I am absolutely knackered and walk downstairs to a complete shit tip with the remnants of tea all over the kitchen and my living room looks like a bomb hit it. I clean and tidy downstairs and prep for the next day and before I know it, it's 9pm and I have an hour to shower/grab myself some food/get ready for bed and possibly maybe very rarely catch up on soaps. I try to go to sleep at 10pm and sometimes last until 11 purely to have an extra hour to chill out a bit.

I’m amazed that people’s kids go to bed. Please tell me how you accomplish this sorcery! Mine cries if we try to put him to bed, until he literally falls asleep in my arms at 10-12pm. I’d love to watch tv, take a bath or read a book but it simply isn’t possible.

Mine are 7 & 9 and go to bed by 9pm. It's rarely earlier as we don't get in from work until 6.30 so there's dinner, homework, reading and chit chat to catch up on.

After that it's collapse on the sofa time.

HOW?!
Child washing happens in the morning not the evening. Shower not bath to save time. In the evening there are two parents so one does childcare tasks while the other cooks and cleans etc. After dinner there’s nothing to do except look after DC who refuses to go to bed