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Original poster

To ask how to respond to Benny Hill

69 replies

reallyreallynow · 14/10/2018 06:21

Sketch?

Someone has sent me one on WhatsApp, I hate Benny Hill and that type of humour. The bloke sending it does or should know I wouldn't find it funny.

It's misogynistic, sexist and ridiculous!

Can I ask you for a great "put down line".

I've a feeling it was sent with a "this will wind reallyreally up" type way!

OP posts:
InfiniteSheldon · 14/10/2018 06:29

Ignore and block

EnglishRose13 · 14/10/2018 06:33

You'll send more of a message if you just ignore it.

Original poster
reallyreallynow · 14/10/2018 06:36

@InfiniteSheldon difficult to block because he's part of a wider circle!

@EnglishRose13 I ignore 99.9% of his inane shit so he won't think anything of it if I do!

OP posts:
shearwater · 14/10/2018 06:37

In what context was it sent? To you or to the whole group?

finnmcool · 14/10/2018 06:37

If you think he wanted to wind you up, don't give him what he wants by responding.
As pp said, ignore it.

finnmcool · 14/10/2018 06:39

Send him a load of shit you know he would find offensive Grin

Original poster
reallyreallynow · 14/10/2018 06:39

@shearwater to me but that's not unusual in its self.

Maybe I should just ignore but part of me wants to say DO NOT send me this misogynistic crap ever again!

OP posts:
Housewife2010 · 14/10/2018 06:46

He is doing it for a reaction. Ignoring it will annoy him more. You can always block him.

Original poster
reallyreallynow · 14/10/2018 06:47

@Housewife2010 I think it's for a reaction but he also doesn't "read the room" I've had to tell him before to stop sending crap. But this one has really wound me up, I hate that type of "humour"

OP posts:
shearwater · 14/10/2018 06:48

I'd say "Well, that was a blast from the past. Can't believe the load of old shit they used to get away with on the TV."

ChilliHobnobs · 14/10/2018 06:50

'You looked terrible in that video, fgs don't send me more crap like that'

Original poster
reallyreallynow · 14/10/2018 06:50

@ChilliHobnobs Grin

OP posts:
Monty27 · 14/10/2018 06:56

Silence is the loudest word.
Just ignore.
Don't give the idiot what he expects which of course is a reaction.
Delete and forget.
I loathe Benny hill and all that misogonystic arsehole disrespectful crap
As you were

TonTonMacoute · 14/10/2018 07:15

Ignore it completely. If he follows up and asks what you thought, just say ‘Oh I didn’t watch it, I hate Benny Hill’.

Ignoring really is the best policy. He will be regularly checking his phone to see if you have responded, and it will annoy him much more if you CBA!

OliviaStabler · 14/10/2018 07:17

Do not under any circumstances send a reply. He sent it to you to make you to be angry and enjoy your ire. Starve him of what he wants, that is the most powerful response.

If you ignore most of his crap and he gets a rise out of you for Benny Hill, he'll never stop sending you Benny Hill type clips.

OliviaStabler · 14/10/2018 07:19

make you to be angry Blush

ItsPeanutButterJelly · 14/10/2018 07:49

Did he send this to you privately? Ask him what he's sent you, why, and if it's meant to be funny could he try to explain to you why he thinks it's funny.

Even better if you can "accidentally" ask him on a group chat instead of a private one, and include the video itself

ItsPeanutButterJelly · 14/10/2018 07:50

But yes, as people about have said, ignoring is the best solution, though nice to imagine ways to embarrass him on here 🙂

Rhondacross · 14/10/2018 07:57

Unfollow him. He won't know and you won't see regular posts on his timeline unless you look.

BookMeOnTheSudExpress · 14/10/2018 07:57

Actually, I think I would say something, especially if it was sent privately. What in the name of fuck was his aim? Knuckle-dragger.

Just musing on how far, or not, we've come- juxtaposed with this thread is one where everyone is spitting their tea out over delivery men talking about delivering "knobs" Hmm

Benny could sadly have got a lot of material from parts of MN.

iliketomoveitmoveitMOVEIT · 14/10/2018 08:02

Completely agree with ignoring him, because after a while it will make him uncomfortable.

On the fantasy front, send him a load of Miranda clips. Men like him hate Miranda. Or this - I always thought this was beautifully subtle:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/gadgets-and-tech/disgruntled-online-shopper-texts-entire-works-of-shakespeare-as-revenge-9201564.html%3famp

ivykaty44 · 14/10/2018 08:03

why Should op ignore that again is allowing the misogynist to get away with his behaviour

Op I’d just reply with

Did it help make you feel like a man sending that clip, let’s hope so as you’ll only ever aspire to fit that role

OliviaStabler · 14/10/2018 08:41

why Should op ignore that again is allowing the misogynist to get away with his behaviour

Because provoking a reaction was the whole point of him sending it. If she replies, she is playing right into his hands and giving him exactly what he wants. If OP won't block him or remove him from her social circle, ignoring is the next best option.

I've worked with people like this guy before. They think anyone who gets upset at humour like Benny Hill etc is fair game and they absolutely love getting a rise from them.

BumbleBored · 14/10/2018 08:44

"Eurgh. What misogynist bullshit. Can't believe people used to watch that crap. Glad we've moved on from that type of thing"

TooTrueToBeGood · 14/10/2018 08:45

Send him this link:
www.quora.com/How-can-I-increase-my-mental-age

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