To just want a bra that fits

[Thenewdoctor]

Aibu?

I just want a bra that fits and every bra I buy seems fine but by half a day in the wires are digging into my armpits.

I’ve been oroperly measured in an independent shop and in bravissimo so I know the size is right.

If it’s nit the size is it the style? And what style should I look for?

I’m desperate just to be comfortable.

Have you done your Boob or Bust size?

Not yet - I will do later when I find a measuring tape!

Believe me I’ve spent a fortune in the past! I’ve now discovered Tesco non wired bras and they are amazing! Honestjy, about £10 too.

If the straps fall down your bands too big. Happened to me until I went down two band sizes.

It sounds like the wires are wrong for you, I was set on one style but about 5 mins in the changing room it was digging in under my arms, I tried a wider style and it fits well.

Like a lot of people are suggesting do boob or bust. I have huge boobs and I have never been able to find bras, did this out of desperation when I read about it on a thread here and it really worked. Totally changed my bra size. I ordered a few from bravissimo and have now through trial and error found a style I like. I don’t buy other ones now

I was going to suggest R&P. I’m evangelical about them and although they are taking out a mortgage expensive, they make such a difference.

I’ve been fitted there and bought a couple of bras, one of which I still wear six years later, although it really is on its last legs now. Then I wait for their sales, look for the same make and style (Prima Donna) and buy online.

I really would give them a try if you can get to a shop. It’s better than buying cheaper bras that you can’t wear.

How many different brands did you try at Bravissimo? I am a 34H and over the last 15 years had to change the brand several times as my boobs. change shape.

I am currently wearing Bravissimo’s own brand before that it was Freya and Panache. The fitter there confirmed that different brands do not fit everybody.

I can’t imagine wearing a sports bra each day for normal wear. Mine are cut so high, I can’t wear a normal top and with my bust a high neck or crew cut top looks awful

I find Fantasie bras good and wires don't dig in. I'm quite wide spaced itms.

30 back size 10. Found Bravissimo very good and bras vary so much

Problem with me (and you it sounds like) is my boobs start really far back. For some the wire sits more on the front.

I have the opposite. A lot of bras that will accommodate the volume of my norks (38EE) have the wire right round by my armpit.

I'm another who swears by Debenhams. They have such a wide range of styles in big sizes that I can always find one that fits.

Off to see if I can find a tape measure hold on ....

Where I used to work, we fitted bras, and everyone who came in wearing a Bravissimo bra had on a poorly fitting one. I would never recommend them at all.

Boob or bust says 34hh

I'm 59 and a 32dd or e.

I've bought some bras from Peacocks that are non-wired, with thin straps. They're brilliant.

Removable inserts too. Cheap as chips.

I take an 8 in them and feel perfectly comfortable.

I was going to say the same as some others, that falling down straps usually means the band is too big, because a too big band leaves the straps sitting too far out on your shoulders.

You want a nice Doreen bra, dear.

That’s really interesting OP, makes more sense with your dress size maybe. Would you try some in that size?

Yes I think the BOB rule of thumb is band should be no larger than dress size + 20, so 34 would seem more likely.
I agree re: bra straps falling down generally means bra band is too big.

delilahbucket that's a good point. I'm 32ff and just fit in a 12. Sometimes a 12 pulls too much over my boobs. OP, I'd be surprised if you were a 36 back with J cup if they fit in a size 14 top.

Ok. So where do I go? Bravissimo have been wrong so Debenhams?

Sainsburys had a perfect.bra - no wires, no padding, no itchy ugly lumpy lace ( very rare) and wide straps. I got the last two in my size and will wear to disintegration. £6 each.

Cups a bit big but as there is so little choice if you want comfort , it is good enough.

I’m 36ff and now only buy bras from bravissimo. Set aside a couple of hours and go and try on loads in the store. Their staff are fab and will fetch lots of different styles for you

BOB didn't work for me, I am the opposite of you OP straight up and down, fairly flat chested but broad back and shoulders. I'm a ten when not pregnant BOB said I'm a 30 band but I can't breathe in a 30, I am a 34 A or B depending on the shop, long line fifties type and plunge styles suit me best although I'll never have cleavage. I was looking forward to pregnancy boobs, hurtling towards eight months and nothing. R &P might be worth a visit to get the style right, then you know what to try in other places. I know it's extortionate, but it's your comfort everyday.

LittleCandle - I had the opposite. Every other store I got measured was awulf and only Bravissimo fits.

I think it is so up to the fitter. I can only speak from the London Oxford Street store though.

My worst experience was Rigby & Peller (Birthday present treat) who not only got a tape measure out but got it so incorrect that I basically said I go out unless you get me a different size.

BOB seems to work better for larger women. I'm a 34B and if I try to squeeze into the 32C then I would be complaining like OP. At 30D, as suggested by BOB, I would expire on the spot!

I believe that Bravissimo does BOB. Debenhams doesn't. Nor does M&S. It's all very confusing. If only they'd all do the same life would be much easier.

Molke! No underwires, all soft and stretchy (but still with support), and some awesome patterns.

About £30 each.

I have five and they're all I wear! I never even think about my bra now as I never need to adjust or check, and they give awesome lift.

Molke! Did I mention they're awesome!