I am looking for some perspective.
Dc is in reception class so hasnt been in school long. Dc also has sen with no diagnosis at the moment. Dc is in nappies ( i dont want a whole thread of if i think school shluld have to deal with it. Dc is in nappies for a reason and trust me i would rather him be using a toilet than having to be still changing nappies).
Dc is struggling at school. Hes fine when there from what school are saying they say his behaviour is fine and hes eating. Dc is a very anxious child and always has been but is very good at keeping it together at school.
I have had parents approachme and tell me that there dcs are telling them my dc cries alot school saying hes not.
My dc will make passing comments like Teacher A says i am a baby. Teacher B gets angry at me weeing in my nappy. Teacher C said its about time mummy told us we you are weeing on the toilet ay home ( hes trying to but isn't manging he has no control). He also has food issues and says Teacher A gets angry at him wasting food. My dc wont talk about anything after hes made these comments as hes worried people with get angry with. He says he just wants to make his teachers happy but finds it too much and that they are just angry at him. Hes slowly become a very emotional little boy whos scared to talk, refusing to eat before school and waking in the night struggling to get back to sleep and sobbing. He says hes useless that people won't play with him because they have realised how useless he is. I spend all my time telling him how great he is and pointing out all the amazing things he does. I have struggled to get a meeting with senco as shes to busy and she got the school receptionist to call is Thursday and tell us that she hasn't had any issues brought up from his teacher that we shouldn't worry as parents as in schools opnion none of this is happening and his needs are being meet. She said the senco would try phone is Monday but she's far tp busy.
Now i dont want to be difficult but my dcs getting this from somewhere and hes feeling like this for a reason. Also his teacher on Thursday and Friday morning has been very passive aggressive with me in the mornings which worries me how she will be with dc.
The thing is that bothers me is because dc is a very well behaved child they think all is fine. They seem to have only have interst in children who are miss behaving and theres a few children in my dcs clasa that they are struggling with behaviour issues. I am worried he's going to get over looked because he's a lovely little boy.
I am wondering whats best foot forward persist on a meeting to sort things out and not give up till someone takes me seriously which really is what i need to do but i am worried about this as i want whats best for my dc but people won't communicate with me as i was in the past told i was negative towards my dc when i would tell nursery how my dc was saying hes struggling and feeling because they didn't see it. All this was documented in an educational phsycologists report and it waa started i should only tell people what he was doing good at and not tell people what he was struggling with.