Showing everything when breastfeeding

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I am prepared to be flamed but I am genuinely not being goady just curious here.

AIBU to ask why some women choose to show their entire boob/breast when feeding their babies rather than wear breastfeeding tops and/or do the popular vest under top thing?
And I don't mean ones that might do it in the summer when you might only wear one layer etc

I've BF both my DC's and apart from the beginnings when they were a few weeks old and getting the hang of it I've found it really simple to make sure I'm not showing much if anything and found it easy to just wear a vest under my top and feed that way.
Personally I'd not feel comfortable whipping my whole breast out for everyone to see in public especially since I don't find it necessary in order to be able to feed my baby.
I don't mind other people doing that and I understand that some people don't care and/or are completely fine doing that so I'm not passing any nasty judgement here.

But I've been wondering this for a while and I'm just curious as to why some people do it - is it just ease?
Does the attention not bother them?

I saw a lady in a busy cafe today take her jumper off, lower her whole vest down and expose her full bra and pull one side completely down to feed her 1yo. I didn't really bat an eyelid but for a second you could literally hear a pin drop in the place.

Is it OTT or does it not matter?

Why do you care?

Because they’re their breasts, their babies, their bodies and THEIR CHOICE

They’ve not got naked and done the bloody limbo.
Do you get this questioning when men take their tops off in summer? Or it because a woman has a breast out it’s not ok?

Because I don’t find it easy to breastfeed under a top or feeding shawl. And rather than confine myself to the house i’d like to go out

I don’t understand it insofar as I never did. I always wanted to be covered up. Honestly part of me wants to cheer when I see a woman with her breasts out feeding her baby. It’s a beautiful thing. Both her breasts and th baby

Some babies prefer it, some women prefer to be able to see what’s going on. Bottom line it’s no one else’s business and they don’t have to justify themselves to anyone.

I think these posts are hilarious because I find myself staring at breastfeeding moms to get a glimpse of the baby before I cop duh they’re not turning around cos they’re feeding. I actually have never seen someone’s bare breast breastfeeding with the exception of family who I imagine cba. Is the problem where I go? Or is it me? That I’ve never noticed these (I imagine) Amazonian bare breasted feeders

My breast is magnificent and deserves to be adored by the masses.

Worship my misshapen nipple.

I couldn't do that, so used ponchos etc.
However, it's what breasts are for, and I think it's beautiful when people have the confidence to do it publicly.

you obviously did bat an eyelid as you wrote a whole thread about it

Why do women show the entire bottle and not put it under a cover?! Shocking! Boobs are for food, the same as bottles. Stop looking if you don’t like it.

But, when my youngest was 5 months, we went abroad. Lots of topless people.
I happily pulled down my bikini top to feed in that environment.

My baby wouldn't tolerate a cover.

I couldn't do the top up best down thing as they top wouldn't stay up. I didn't wear tight tops and my boobs are/were a B cup so there was nothing to keep the top out of the way. The top would end up in baby's mouth completely in the way.

And... because I was feeding my HUNGRY Baby so used my breasts for what they were designed for.

If you are smalled boobed its tricky to do the vest down thing...the vest constantly rolls up to the babies mouth. Ok with a bigger baby but I couldn't do it when I had to support DSs head still.

Luckily a babies head is as almost big as my boobs so you cant see much even with my top pulled down.

OP I knew you would get the above response but I agree with you. Mothers should have the right to breastfeed wherever they wish but I do think some should and could be a little more discreet.

As you said, will likely get flamed but when you are at a toddler group and a women walks around topless with one breast fully exposed so she can have her baby attached to the other breast I think it's totally unreasonable.

Someone asked my DP if we had adopted the baby - whilst I was feeding???
I had hyperthyroidism, and was a tiny size 6 at the time. That was a bit weird.

Some people are odd.

If you are feeding a baby with a breast bigger than that baby's head its tricky to keep yourself covered up.

At least, that's why I ended up with more boob out than plenty of women seem to manage!

With my first I breastfed very discreetly
Even went into a different room if we were at relatives houses 'laugh out loud'

Second baby I quite frankly don't have the energy or shame factor to give a flying fuck

I literally just do not care
Soz

It's just quicker/easier than faffing around with two tops and means I didn't have to buy any special clothes or bras.

Sure there are oodles of women walking around topless, sitting in cafes topless, hanging out at toddler groups topless. Definitely. 100%. And every single one of them has the right to do so seeing as breastfeeding is protected by law so if you don't like it, look elsewhere.

Because I don't always concentrate on what I'm putting on in the morning and sometimes that means it's boob out of the top is only option. Especially in the summer when the last thing I want is an extra layer

a women walks around topless with one breast fully exposed so she can have her baby attached to the other breast I think it's totally unreasonable

What effect does looking at a woman's bare breast have on you?

Not flaming, just curious.

I struggled a lot with the feeding clothes, I found a lot of material got in the way. As someone upthread said I don’t have massive boobs. However I did try and be descrete as possible but for me, not for anyone else. I think women who are confident feeding however they need to (boobs out or whatever) are great and we should all let them get on with it without judging.

My DD IS 27 soon so I was BF her 26 years ago before covers and all that malarky and sadly also before options other than toilets for breast feeding so you know what I fed her when she was hungry with my boob out and my nipple in her mouth.....I did not do page 3 whilst doing it I also did not do the Macarena I did not breast feed her to show my norks to the world...tho at at 40HH they were bloody hard to miss. I got comments galore from people back then and my answer was to smile sweetly and say Piss Off....and quite often they did
Mums have more options now and it's totally up to them how and when and of course where they feed it is not up to you or anyone else at all ever to tell them when where and how they should feed. I have a lot more issues with people smoking near me than breast feeding.....It's more disturbing to hear a teenager call another teenager a cunt than it is to see a female nipple....there are important things to worry about in life and women's lactating nipples are not one of them

My breasts were brilliant at their job!! Probably bf for around 7/8 years all in!!
But they are private!!
Never felt the need to expose them unless accidental.
Unlike my sil who cleared the room at her dd's christening when she unbuttoned her blouse in a full room of relatives -
Each to their own, but mine are also part of my private life!!