FIL telling me to 'get dressed'

[Whatdoyouknow2]

FIL just called (10:50) I was in pj's still, been busy cleaning/ironing/seeing to 4 month old. Waiting for DH coming home at lunch time then going to get a shower and get dressed.
FIL tells me 'get dressed love' as though it's not right to be in pj's at this time. AIBU to be annoyed. I explained the above to him but then annoyed at myself for explaining, why should I have to?

@Whatdoyouknow2

What a nosey interfering git your FIL is. What business is it of his if you stay in your jammies all day?!

I am wearing mine NOW (at half one in the afternoon!) So shoot me!

I don't SLEEP in mine though. I sleep in the nuddy, and have a shower as soon as I get up (even before brekkie,) as I want to get the night's sweat off me. I don't have a fanj that feels and smells like wotsits after a night in bed though. You may need to see a doctor about that @GameOldBirdz !

whatdoyouknow2

God no he doesn't have a key!! He can be a bit Pervy, commenting on women's appearance etc. But he's never done it with me. He usually knows the boundaries!

THIS ^ stood out for me. If he is a bit pervy, (as you say,) maybe he feels a bit weird about seeing you in your night attire, for the wrong reasons.

Thing is, what the hell is he doing turning up - unannounced - at your house (especially with just you in?!)

You need to have a word with your husband - and tell him to speak to his father about boundaries!

Next time, say "you are not ready to recieve visitors as you are still in your PJs", as you close the door in his face.

I'd tell him to bog off.
I must admit, I can't stay in my pajamas once I get up and only do that if i'm very sick, but each to their own.
Your house, your rules.

I'd have given him one of my 'looks' and said 'Wow I must be tired! I thought you just told me to get dressed but nobody would be that rude, right? What did you say?'. If he repeats it, tell him from now on he needs to text first rather than just turn up. Then show him the door.

I'm in PJs and I intend to be for a while longer yet. I finished nightshifts this morning and have had 3 hours sleep in the last 24, if anyone told me to get dressed today I might just tell them where to go.

Haven't RTFT.

How about saying, "Oh wow, thanks Dad, how lovely of you to offer to look after the baby so I can get dressed!!" Drop baby in his lap, remind him to keep an eye on what's in the oven and get the salad made, and mention that baby needs nappy change and might be hungry soon. Disappear for a long leisurely shower. Get dressed, do your hair and nails and makeup. Go downstairs just before your dh comes home. Thank FIL profusely for understanding how tough things are for you and coming round to help out.

If my FIL said that to me when DS was 4 months old, I’d have assumed that was him offering to look after baby while I took a lovely relaxing shower

lilyblue5 i was going to say the same, pass him the baby and have a very looooooong bath then do hair and make up etc and then come down and say oh you look like you have it under control so im just going to pop out and do this, havent had a chance all morning LOL

Im guessing he wasn't trying to be nice and offering to watch the baby so you can have a shower and get dressed? If not then he was being a bit rude.

I put PJ bottoms on when i get out of bed if not going out,right now daughter and granddaughter also have PJ's on

Why get dressed if you're not leaving the house? Just creating more washing really.

I'm still in my PJs now 😂😂😂😂😂

I AM going for a shower now tho. Gotta get to the post Office soon!