FIL telling me to 'get dressed'

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FIL just called (10:50) I was in pj's still, been busy cleaning/ironing/seeing to 4 month old. Waiting for DH coming home at lunch time then going to get a shower and get dressed.
FIL tells me 'get dressed love' as though it's not right to be in pj's at this time. AIBU to be annoyed. I explained the above to him but then annoyed at myself for explaining, why should I have to?

Mrsharrison I defo don't smell a bit whiffy haha. I probably looked quite good for someone who hasn't showered/changed.
If it was someone who doesn't come much I would have been a bit embarrassed but he calls in regularly and has seen me like it previously. I think he was just being a twat.

I always get dressed because my clothes are the same as my pjs 😂 but some people see it as being lazy. My DM always expects me to be dressed and if the kids aren’t dressed then it’s seen as being a “tough day” and a sign I am struggling. You should have said “I am dressed, this is my new Mickey Mouse tracksuit” and enjoyed the confused look on his face.

How ridiculous! I seriously think people underestimate how difficult doing everything in the house and looking after a baby is. You haven’t got time to get dressed. Also wearing pjs in the house is much more practical than jeans. Sorry he’s made you feel upset - hope the rest of your day is better :) n

Does he have a key? Get it back!

And you say he probably enjoyed it? Is he creepy?

Fuck that. At 3pm yesterday kfc delivery turned up. I was in my pjs, haven’t washed my hair in days and didn’t care. Well, I care, but I’m disabled and struggling to cook let alone get washed and dressed. My dp came over and took care of me and didn’t even mention I hadn’t dressed in days.

In your position I’d have been getting up and going to the door with a ‘well thanks for dropping by but I’d appreciate next time you calling to check I’m not busy. Got to get on so let me see you out’

I also sleep naked which means getting dressed is an even more urgent requirement

God no he doesn't have a key!! He can be a bit Pervy, commenting on women's appearance etc. But he's never done it with me. He usually knows the boundaries!

I'm in my pj's, well nightshirt and leggings. Because Im knacked. It's miserable out and I can't be arsed to get motivated right now. I'm. Meeting friends at 2.00 so I'll get showered and dressed after lunch.

And you did tell him to Fuck Off?

And anyone who knows me, when I'm in the most I'm dressed is underwear, top but with Comfy pj bottoms on.. I think any guest would be shocked if i was fully dressed lol. That's just me.

DolceFarNiente
I've never understood why people get dressed if they're going to be at home all day as I'd much rather be comfy in PJs. I just put clean ones on after showering

I'm the opposite. Don't understand pjs when you're up. It must be a cultural, UK thing, i.e. wearing pjs at home. I prefer normal clothes (because I'd feel like I'm too ill/depressed to get dressed if I wore PJs all day), but that's just me.

I think that FIL though is being rude though. Well done OP for telling him off.

You should have gone to get dressed and come out in the most OTT thing you own, ball gown, chicken suit, thong bikini, whatever. Just to mess with him.

Chicken suit :D Gotta get me one of those.

If someone came to my house and told me to get dressed I'd probably just say "nah I'm happy in my pjs"
Then I wouldn't think about it again.

He was rude but my fanny would feel and smell like a Wotsits factory if I didn't shower before 10am

'Get fucked, "love"'

Is your response next time.

Actually, I wouldn't let him in again.

I essentially live in PJ's! Yes I shower and put clean ones on but I'm at home. I find PJs the most comfortable thing to wear so I don't see the point in putting something less comfortable on. Rather than day wear and night wear, I have inside wear and outside wear. If I'm going out, I put on outside clothes but otherwise it's comfort all the way!

Staying in your pjs means you haven't showered and you smell a bit whiffy. you wot? Someone comes into your house without a text and without invite, and comments on your appearance? And you are thinking 'well he's got a point'?

game - there is something wrong with you then! I often shower every other day, or in the evening if I've showered in the morning the day before. And i have a Public-facing job and i most certainly don't smell.

When he said "get dressed love" I'd have shot back with "Why, where are you taking us?"

If I'm not going out I don't get dressed either so if someone comes into my house and is suggesting I get dressed then they must be offering to take me out somewhere.

That then leaves him to either backtrack or try and justify his comment at which point you have the opportunity to reply with "You have come into my house and are criticising what I am wearing. If that's going to be your attitude then in future I'd prefer it if you let me know when you're coming round so I know whether or not to answer the door in my PJs"

Still in pjs here after a very busy morning playing diggers and doing jigsaws

You have got an attitude. Quite rightly too. Keep it up. Cheeky sod, giving you orders in your own house. If you want to swing naked from a chandelier in the company of whoever its none of his bloody business. Tell him not to call at your house before midday and to phone first. So you can tell him not to come.

Don't understand pjs when you're up. It must be a cultural, UK thing, i.e. wearing pjs at home. I prefer normal clothes (because I'd feel like I'm too ill/depressed to get dressed if I wore PJs all day), but that's just me.

me too. PJs all day would feel skanky

My mother used to do this.

I think years ago it was.seen as slovenly. They can piss right off, my pjs are the comfiest things I own and the first thing I put on when I come in from the nasty outside

I'd have handed him the baby and gone, cool. Thanks, nice bath would be fab, thanks for the offer.

Me,I am known for being sarky if annoyed. .I would have looked straight at him them looked around and said .Well unless I have been teleported then in am I my home .So Yeap I am good like this whilst fixing him with a strong glare. But luckily my in-laws are fab they would never say anything like that.