Poor you! Kids don't always think about their mum's needs, do they .
I hope you feel better soon

Gosh that sounds like an awful day. Can you talk to DD and make her understand that this is a condition that just makes you feel like death. I feel your pain. Migraines are no joke.

In anticipation of days I like this, I tend to keep some snacks and water bottles, meds, in my room for when the going gets tough. Also, if DD has a habit of losing things, make sure she gets them in her own time.

Also, please see your GP. It’s not safe to be driving whilst in extreme pain.

That sounds really horrible OP but your DD is only 13 it's a hard age, everything is a personal slight and unfair in a 13 year olds eyes. Also if you've never had a migraine you can't imagine how painful they can be so to her you were making a fuss over a headache.

Your mum could have asked if you were ok but it's also ok to ask her to help and not just hope she asks.

Hope you feel better

You really should not be driving with migraines. It isn't safe.
Unless the was an absolute one-off, as you are a single parent, your DD really needs to have a hairstyle she can maintain on her own, including styling. I could plait my own at 13.
I get very frequent migraines (sorry if I've missed anything in your OP - I'm recovering from one at present) & my DD brings me a drink of water if I need her to. She is 6. Perhaps your DD needs to realise it's time to grow up a bit.

Oh god that sounds like a horrendous day! I hope your feeling better. I think teenagers are very wrapped up in their own world, although I'm not excusing her. Although, if she left the jumper the jumper would be staying there. My 8 year old forgets her lunch box at least twice a week and it stays there and she has to have hot dinner the next day, same with school shoes if she's came out in pumps, cardigans, homework, anything really. Apart from her swimming kit, because then they ring me for it I hate nothing more than waiting around like that! Hope today was a better day & that you and DD have made up! :)

Sorry but if it was a real migraine, im amazed you can work, or even attempt to

You are a better person than pple I know, my OH he is bedridden with them and has to be injected

That is crap of them. I have a 13 year old and when I have a migraine he understands that he has to do the things I can't do, keep quiet or go elsewhere to make noise, and put himself to bed without asking for stuff. I don't think that's too much to ask of a 13yo.

My mum however runs for the hills if she thinks anyone is ill...

What meds do you have for your migraine? You need something as effective as possible, especially as you don't have another parent to step in and help on the worst days.

I’d be more annoyed about your mum that your DD, she’s 13, everything is a drama and crisis and all about her - that’s to be expected and she was probably worried about you and maybe scared and doesn’t know how to express that.

But your mum should have rung or texted to check up on you.

I dont want to read and run vino, hope you are feeling better now

I know exactly how you feel - sometimes being a single parent sucks

You have my sympathies I have regular migraines and end up in bed unable to move. My DH has to do everything for the DC which is not an option for you.

I would ask about getting something stronger on prescription, won’t cost much more than Migraleve or preventers.

Sorry but if it was a real migraine, im amazed you can work, or even attempt to

Ffs you do realise that migraines are diff for everyone?
Some of us have to work/function with a migraine, we simply have no choice.

Getting a prescription isn't much more than the things you’re buying ( as gp can give you a few tablets in one prescription).
You need proper migraine medication op.

OP can you not apply for help with prescriptions so you don't have to pay for them?
I've had one migraine in my life. I thought I was going to die. Hope you feel better soon.
Please don't drive if you feel like that again. Taxi money is cheaper than funeral costs (sorry)

I think yab a bit u as your mother had done jobs for you. A lot of single mothers really are on their own with much younger children. Having said that I agree it would be nice to be asked how you are.

Spank - until I went off long term sick, I worked some days with migraines. I actually get 2 different types of migraines. One type I've had for over a decade, the 2nd type I'd been getting for about 2 years - and struggling to work through - before my GP told me that I'd developed a new type of migraine. They'd got so bad, with temporary blind spots, numb fingers & vomiting, that I was worried I had a brain tumour. But because they weren't my "normal" migraines, I didn't realise. Some of us don't have sympathetic employers.

Vino - if you are having frequent, or even occasional migraines, would your DD consider having her hair shorter? If there's the chance that you need to style it even occasionally, it's not really practical. FWIW, my DD also has bum length, curly hair! But my DH is perfectly capable of doing at least a normal plait in it (I'm trying to teach him french plaits but dear God it's a slow process!) My migraines are the main reason I have a buzzcut... sometimes sacrifices have to be made. I can neither wash my own hair without pain (one arm permanently hurts, so quicker is better) or style long hair properly every day, as it needs two good arms to do a ponytail.

Illness as a single parent is pants. Hope ur ok

Vino - have you checked if you're entitled to free prescriptions? If not, depending on how many you get per month, it might work out better value to get a pre-pay card, it's a flat rate for the card, no matter how many prescriptions you get. Assuming you're in the UK, apologies if not.

I think teenagers do sometimes not realise parents have feelings of their own and need some TLC sometimes too. I'm surprised your mum didn't stick around to help. Migraines are bloody awful.

I remember when I was 12 and my mum had a migraine.

I crept in and admitted to her that I had pierced the top of my own ear about 2 months before.
She looks up with one eye and said "I don't care. I'm in too much pain." And I really realised she must be in agony to not kill me dead, let alone not even comment.

I felt really sorry for her after that.

I think your daughter lacks empathy and is being really selfish.
She's 13 years old, she has no excuse to treat her parent that way when her parent is genuinely that unwell.

I'll sorry you feel like no one cared you were unwell, OP. As evidenced in this thread some people really don't understand migraine. I hope you're migraine-free for a while after this episode.

I think you need to chat with your dd about this. When I get a migraine, I get a cup of tea and left alone in bed- I don't do cooking, I don't do driving to clubs, I just don't. If anyone shouted at me or had a paddy then I would be very upset indeed, and not feel like taking them anywhere for a few days. I think you need to be frank with your dd that she is coming over very selfish, that when you are ill you need her to be more self-sufficient, and that you will not be driving when dangerous in future, not for non-essential activities like clubs.

You are a person in your own right, and not an accessory to her lifestyle, but only you can put your foot down and transmit that message in actions- so sometimes she won't get a lift, and she will live!