AIBU? Single parent with migraine

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Rant alert!
Yesterday I had a raging migraine. Made it through the day at work practically on my knees, drove to collect DD (13) from after school activities at 6.15. She called me at 6.20 to see where I was parked- she didn’t listen and spoke over me when trying to explain as had to park 2 mins further away than normal- not far or complicated but she talked over me so didn’t understand. 6.30 still not got to car I’m panicking she’s been kidnapped/feeling like my eyes are going to start bleeding from migraine pain. 6.40 she arrives at car but realises she’s left jumper inside. More waiting while she gets to it.
Pull over twice on way home with head pain. Feel like I shouldn’t be driving but have no one to collect us and no public transport anywhere near (no money for taxi).
Get home, full of relief that my head hasn’t yet exploded.

DM is at mine- granted she’s done this mornings washing up and put on a load of laundry but that wasn’t expected and isn’t usual.
I literally collapse in tears on my bed as felt so bad. DD washes hair, DM oversees her putting pizza in oven etc then leaves.
DD needs hair in plaits for dance show tomorrow. I can’t see and she threw a tantrum because I refused to do them as I can barely lift my head. Compromised with one low plait that I can do with closed eyes. DD shouty and makes me upset so I cried, then she cried. My poor neighbours.

No one asked if I was ok. Not even this morning. No one checked to see if I needed a drink. They literally ignored my sobbing.
I get that DD was upset but so was I. I get that it’s not her fault that she has one parent, that’s its not her fault, that she gets a shit deal. But so do I.

AIBU to think that one of them should have stuck their head around the door to see if I at least needed a drink of water??!
Why don’t they care?!!!!!
Sick and tired of doing everything and no one noticing when I’m on my knees.

I took it to mean you were the same until you realised how bad your mum felt and that was your moment of realisation... my bad, I miss understood what you meant.
Clearly you’re still not a nice person.

I also suffer from severe migraines - please go and see your GP because there are things they can do - I take Pizotifen every day as a preventative (it's not a painkiller). Also please google "Techcrunch incurable" there is an app that really helped me - it sounds slightly unbelievable like "how does an app help my migraine" but please try it. Good luck OP I know they are terrible, although I must say my 2 DS are usually amazing about it.

And clearly neither are you. Which is where your daughter got it from.

I’m a single parent too. With two young children.

I think you should cut back on anything you can to pay for your prescriptions. You are not safe to drive in these circumstances. And this may seem harsh, but you could have caused a serious, even fatal accident. My mother, years ago, was nearly killed by someone who refused to take epilepsy medication and should not have been driving.

Please do not drive again when you have a migraine. Your daughter’s after school club does not take precedence over other people’s safety. You wouldn’t drive over the drink drive limit, would you? Why is your impaired vision/judgement any different?

I'll be flamed but hey ho.
You reared her.
Didn't you teach her to be kind to others. Especially if they are unwell ?

BlueJavaI have used that app and it is indeed amazing!

Judging by OPs attitude on here, not surprised by her daughter's behaviour

Massive sympathy it’s horrendous.
Mine are so bad and frequent at the moment that no one bothers to ask if I’m ok any more.
Every triptans aren’t helping .
Just chat to her and explain , it’s a hard condition to understand.

I get really awful migraines and the tablets that work best for me are the Asda migraine tablets. They are a lot cheaper than a prescription and work better for me. I have had to get home from work before now with a bad one trying not to pass out. You have all my sympathy

I agree with a pp, I think you have to find a way to prioritise your prescriptions. Recurrent migraines are incredibly debilitating (in certain circumstances you can be classed as disabled under the equality act as a result of them) and given how much you have to deal with I think you owe it to yourself to get all the help you can.

Prior to pregnancy I was on a migraine prevention tablet, it was amazing! Migraleve is really expensive to buy, I doubt there would be a huge difference overall in cost if you tot everything up.

I really do sympathise with the pain OP, I don't think you can fully appreciate the hideousness of a migraine unless you suffer from them and well done for getting through a horrible day but really think again about the drugs. I hope you feel better today and your daughter is suitably contrite.

I take propranolol and pizotifen every day and have gone from at least 3 really bad migraines a month - in bed for at least two days, couldn't keep even a sip of water down, vomiting every 15 minutes and having to get a doctor out to give me an injection to stop it to about 1 full blown one a year.

I do still lose the sight in one eye and pains all down my face, in my eye socket and ear, along my jaw but probably only once every few months.

Hi op, hope your out of pain and the muzzy feeling today.
If prescription charges are an issue you can buy a pre pay certificate ( £10.20 per month over 12 months) , it's saved me a small fortune.