Maintenance issue - who is BU?

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Background - ex and I split when son was 18 months. Since then he has him Fri - Mon, I have him in the week. He's 9 now.

Have always had a family based maintenance arrangement. Last year I lived alone and moved to another council house and didn't want to get the internet as felt I was too expensive and as was looking for a house with my boyfriend didn't want to start another contract.

Ex was unhappy about this as son has some homework to do online in the week (I would sometimes go to my mums) and also a wifi only ipad which they communicate via most of the time.

So he increased his maintenance by the £15 a month it would cost for me to get the internet.

Fast forward to now - he has just told me he is going to stop paying the £15 per month extra now as I have just bought a house with my boyfriend and my son has told him that we now have a full Sky TV package and therefore I now don't need him to pay for the internet for our son.

I wasn't expecting it to be honest and its just annoyed me a bit that he's just decided to stop this with no discussion whatsoever.

AIBU in expecting him to carry on paying this?

I think you are being unreasonable. He was paying for something he deemed a necessity because you wouldn't pay. It was to benefit his child to do his homework.

The rest of the maintenance doesn't really matter but he now objects to paying this as you have a full sky package. He has a right to not pay for the internet if you are paying for it now through a full package.

YABVU the extra £15 was for Internet. You no longer need Internet so in your shoes I'd have said thanks but I don't need it anymore as soon as you booked sky.

Don't get them angst at the £200 per month though. Surely it not just an extra night. Assuming x is one of many who finish early on a Friday then surely her having ds Mon-Fri after school enables him to work and limits her work opportunities or costs way more than £200 in childcare for afterschool

But she doesn't have him Monday to Friday.
He has him him from Friday til Monday and still pays that sum of money.

He is massively overpaying.

I've just used the calculator and with my generous figures added, he should pay you £160. So actually you're earning more.

YABU.

I know you said it's not the point of the thread, but when do you spend any quality time with your son?

Wow

My DF paid £5 a week for me and a sibling. We hardly ever saw him and my DM paid for absolutely everything by herself from the day he walked out. (my sibling was weeks old)

He used to call my DM all kinds of names when she asked for money for school shoes.

You don't know how good you have it.

YABVU

So who’s paying for your Sky package now?

Bit sad you and your partner didn’t think paying for the internet so your son could do his homework was worth the money, but you can magic up the money now you want to watch the Walking Dead or Premiership football.

Christ you are totally unreasonable.

I did shared care which IS effectively what you and the ex are doing and wouldn't have dreamed of claiming CM. In your situation you should be paying for all your DC clothes, uniforms, clubs and dinner money.

Wow. Just wow OP. YADBU. I’m with @saucyjack on this one.

Yabvu

Internet (even Fibre) is a mere fraction of the cost of full Sky. If money was a problem you'd watch TV through a cheaper way like Now TV.

You're being unreasonable assuming the total he pays minus the £15 is what he should be paying

You've got a very good deal. I would not kick off over £15 when you clearly don't need it.

My ex has DD one night a week from 6pm in the evening to 4.30pm the following day and I get £180 a month, which is in line with CMS.

Tbh, if you can afford a sky package and he can't, and you technically have your son nigh on 50/50, morally I think you should probably reassess how much he's paying you.

Wow - that is more or less 50/50 and in terms of time spent in the house, you actually have the DC less time! What happens during school holidays. Personally I would shut up and thank my lucky stars I get 200 a month!