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Do you wish you had More or less partners before settling down?

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LolaPickle · 08/10/2018 21:55

Just as the title says really

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HairyToity · 08/10/2018 21:58

I settled dow with my fourth partner. Never considered whether it should be more or less, it was just how things happened at the time. I struck lucky with my fourth lover.

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speakout · 08/10/2018 21:58

It is what it is- I have given it no thought.

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E20mom · 08/10/2018 21:58

Never think about it.

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yorkshirepud44 · 08/10/2018 21:59

More and less. Should probably have married my first bf tbh.
Or met a few more rather than marrying xh. Oh well.

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GreenMeerkat · 08/10/2018 21:59

Probably less, purely due to the absolute shockers I have dated in the past Blush

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jamaisjedors · 08/10/2018 22:00

More. Had 4 before dh.

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DieAntword · 08/10/2018 22:01

Less. First was a jerk I only slept with because I felt embarrassed about being a virgin at 21. Second was my husband.

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MsVestibule · 08/10/2018 22:01

I had a few boyfriends before I met my husband. It wouldn't really bother me if he was my 1st or 50th, I don't think. Every decision I've made in my life led me to where I am now so I can't really regret any of them.

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meow1989 · 08/10/2018 22:01

DH was my first boyfriend (we got together as teenagers) although I wasn't his first girlfriend. I don't feel I've missed out on anything at all but did have some jealousy at him having a history before me 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Stonebake · 08/10/2018 22:02

Like pps, I don’t have any thoughts on it either way. I had a few casual boyfriends, but dh was my first serious relationship. Same for him. We met quite young though. No regrets about that at all.

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beyondthesky · 08/10/2018 22:02

What about you op?

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Mum2jenny · 08/10/2018 22:02

Ok with the way I've gone! No regrets

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MoaningSickness · 08/10/2018 22:02

I didn't settle down til my mid thirties when I was ready. I've never thought of it in those terms before, but I think I had just the right number of previous partners.

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Huskylover1 · 08/10/2018 22:04

Imo, men who marrythe first girl they ever sleep with, rarely stay faithful. They hit the mid life crisis and realise they need to experience more vagina before their cock expires.

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GunpowderGelatine · 08/10/2018 22:04

Less. I was a bit of a slaaaaaag if truth be told. I thought at the time I was being so cool and free but looking back I actually had a lot of issues and was so careless. I wish I'd respected myself enough to realise that I didn't just have to give a man sex without him even knowing my name to get validation.

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Santaclarita · 08/10/2018 22:09

No regrets. I don't have one night stands and only sleep with someone I love. Might be considered boring to others, oh well.

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MyNameIsNotSteven · 08/10/2018 22:17

Definitely wish I hadn't bothered with most of them but at the same time, I'd have been too curious if DH had been my one and only!

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LolaPickle · 08/10/2018 22:21

Me?

Mixed feelings to be honest. The few I had were assholes

More / but better quality hahaha

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SparklyLeprechaun · 08/10/2018 22:34

I settled down when I was ready to settle down, so no regrets there. I had a few lovely boyfriends but the time wasn't right. I also dated a few jerks, but I don't regret the experience.

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whyhaveidonethis · 08/10/2018 22:49

I've slept with loads of men. Totally used to seek validation through sex. Possibly still do, but now with a single person not loads. I don't feel strongly about whether it was too many. I was unhappy and having sex with men made me feel loved for a while. I don't wish it was less but I'm glad I knew enough to use protection! They all brought about some form of solace when needed truth be told.

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OutPinked · 08/10/2018 22:54

I settled down extremely young with #3 but we separated and I went a bit wild to make up for lost time Wink. Now I’ve settled down hopefully for good and I feel like whatever that was is well and truly out of my system. I didn’t feel satisfied with my XH, I wanted to know what else was out there. I was far too young really.

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user1473878824 · 08/10/2018 22:57

I wish I’d had fewer partners but it’s not something that keeps me up at night.

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ComtesseDeSpair · 08/10/2018 23:00

I’ve had sexual partners in triple figures and it was just all points on a journey, really - it’s how my life panned out and I’ve had a lot of fun along the way, learned a lot about what makes me tick, and I still can’t imagine only having sex with one person for the rest of my life; but I don’t think about whether it would have been better or worse to have had fewer partners. It just is.

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InspectorIkmen · 08/10/2018 23:00

Thank you user. 😂 That was driving me nuts!

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BonnieF · 08/10/2018 23:12

No regrets here. I had plenty of fun when I was a student, and I’m glad I did.

@Huskylover I agree. In my experience, men who marry their first proper girlfriend don’t think this is ‘romantic’. They bitterly regret having missed out on a normal part of theit youth and in middle-age they try to rectify their ‘mistake’.

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