Do you wish you had More or less partners before settling down?

[LolaPickle]

Just as the title says really

I wish I had slept around a bit, not that it really matters now. I met my dh at 17, he wasn't my first boyfriend but he was my first (and only) sexual partner. I was his first too and I don't think he regrets it. I am as sure as I can be that he has never been unfaithful.

I had a great time , didn't find my DP until I was in my early 30s!

More. Wish I'd closed my eyes, held my nose and jumped in a few times more.

More.
I met my current partner at 18 so didn’t experience much

Less. Many many less.

More. I came from quite a religious family where sex before marriage was frowned upon. I married my third partner (all 3 were LTRs), but if I’d my time again I’d definitely shag around a bit more.

I had 2 serious boyfriend's before my DH, and they were both absolute losers. I shudder when I think I shagged them.

Had lots of one night stands, which I also regret. I thought, being stupid, that they really liked me and wanted to be my bf.

My god, if I could have a word with my younger self 🙄

Interesting Huskylover, I'll expect my husband to run off with someone else at some point then :p

Met my husband when we were 16 and not really fussed that I didn't have any other partners before. It's in my nature to be regretful so I'm glad I don't have to worry about it.

My DH was my first partner and I have never even given that another thought.

DW and I are each other's first.

I like that we are balanced in that as we are in most things

More, just because my partner has had a quite a few more than me. Just for equality, really! 🤣

I married my first boyfriend who I had met at 17.
I'm glad I didn't waste my time on any arseholes. I saw friends getting used and cheated on.
I found the bloke for me and kept him.
I do think all experiences make you who you are though and what's meant to be eventually comes round.

Huskylover1 research has shown that the opposite is true. Men who have been promiscuous before marriage have been shown to be more likely to have affairs once married.

More. Partner was 5th i slept with. That's all.
I should have slept around.

I never settled down and stopped having relationships over a decade ago and I don't miss it. I do fwb when I feel like it.

More! I’m not settled down and thankful I’d didnt marry any of my long-term exes, although it was on the cards at one point or another during our relationships.

I’m back into the swing of dating now and enjoying it much more, because I know what I want and I’m not so bogged down in the “does he like me” stuff that bothered me before.

Agree with you OP. I’m fine with the number but wish the quality had been better.

Yeah, ime men who are promiscuous can find it difficult to it it out when they decide to settle down. The men I know who have been especially promiscuous seem like a ticking time bomb for infidelity to me when they take the notion to settle down. That said, I’m sure there are no rules. Lots of people stray. “Before their cock expires” though? What happens when your cock expires?? Does it go mouldy? My dh’s future ow would be welcome to it then .

*cut it out

I'm not sure about fidelity equating to number of partners. If you have had a lot there is no mystery, no wondering if the perfect shag is out there somewhere. You know the grass is very likely to not be greener but excessively filled with dog shit and weeds.

Less, had 3 before my husband, 1 turned out to not just be an asshole but a criminal as well. Yay...

What do you mean by partners though? Sexual partners or live in partners?

It doesn't really bother me to be honest. I met DH when we were both 19 so my previous relationships were all teenage drama filled romances. DH is my only adult relationship. It doesn't bother me at all.

I don't understand the silly idea that if a man hasn't had many partners he'll cheat, as if having had dozens of partners before "settling down" has proven to stop men from cheating. 😂😂😂

If that were true then women would be seeking out slags to marry in order to ensure fidelity.