Do you wish you had More or less partners before settling down?

[LolaPickle]

Just as the title says really

You know the grass is very likely to not be greener but excessively filled with dog shit and weeds.

. Yep, that’s been mainly my experience too.

I can see the “is the grass greener?” thing too. But a properly promiscuous person; are they really going to give that up, if they’re already that way inclined? I don’t know. Obviously some do, but I don’t know if I’d want a serious relationship with a man who was very promiscuous... or maybe it’s less to do with promiscuity and more to do with how many hearts he’s broken. I’m thinking of one of my formerly very close friends. Brilliant friend, but I wouldn’t go near him with a barge pole romantically. He’s good looking, hilariously funny and such fun to be around. But almost every woman he’s been with, (and there are a lot), seems to end up heartbroken. He is always honest and says he doesn’t want a serious or excluding relationship, but somehow the message doesn’t get through. I’m not saying only men do this btw, because I’m sure lots of women are the same.

I’ve heard the main reason for infidelity is purely down to opportunity. The opportunity presents itself and, apparently, a lot of people will take it. Which is a bit sad really.

Less as I really wish I had met someone decent early on. as it happens im almost 30 and single.

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I wish I had less partners, I went through an awful time in my life where I treated myself like shit. Then I met my current partner and the rest is history.

I do however think that if I had less then maybe I wouldnt of met my current partner which is something I wouldnt change for all the tea in China.

My girlfriend has had many more than me (I tried one night stands, I really did, but they always became relationships.)

It took her a while to get used to me not caring about it. Some of the stories she has are really funny.

Our numbers might be different but we're both in the 'it was enough to feel we'd experienced what we'd have wanted to, and we regret nothing' category.

Less. Would like to erase my ex (read that how you like!) & just stick with DH. He's my lobster.

More.

I married my first proper boyfriend but I didn't lose my virginity until quite late (not to him), and before I met him I had had just a few drunken dodgy encounters. He was the first person I slept with sober and more than once! There were a few guys that I could have gone out with before DH and I sort of wish I had, or maybe met my DH just a little bit later. But I was so shy and didn't have a clue about blokes and with DH he did all the chasing so it was easy enough!

I don't dwell on it too much, what's done is done and I have a wonderful family with him now so there is no point in having regrets about that sort of stuff.

Teafordad. Thank you.... all the posters saying that men who regret marrying their first was really upsetting me. We’re in the same boat as you and your wife and happy.

Oh sorry thigh. I thought you were being lighthearted about shit sex; I didn’t really enjoy sex till I met my dh. I didn’t have a tonne of partners, but more than he had! I think it was the emotional side of things I didn’t enjoy with other men. I wouldn’t say I was abusing myself though. Just experimenting really. Some enjoyable experiences but mainly shite.

Ha, more partners before... Not really, no, for many reasons... But forget 'before'. I'm happy with 'during'.

He was my first serious boyfriend at sixteen, but we're in an open relationship, having been jointly involved in the BDSM scene for years. Forget settling down... I don't settle. And as we're both open it's brilliant as the one watches the LO while the other goes off on a date, then we get to catch up at home afterwards while she's in bed. The only regret is that as we don't have anyone to babysit, there's no more possibility of 3ways with DH for some time.

Fair enough rixera, as long as you’re all having fun 🤷‍♀️.

DH was my 4th boyfriend, plus a couple of one night stands. Feels about right to me.

I wish I had not bothered with so much angst about men in my late teens and early twenties but the number doesn't bother me.

I'd like to do a selective edit on the list but not less just purely for numbers' sake. I am definitely glad DP is not my one and only or close to it (I was only his second girlfriend and I know it bothers him that his experience is relatively limited).

The thing I can't get my head around is that I'll never have sex with anyone else again, but that I'll probably never fall in love again - the jitters, the obsession, the incredible pleasure of talking and talking for ages and just finding more and more to like about each other I used to get the odd little crush now and again since being with DP, but since having DC even that's gone away. I'm such an old lady now

I've only been with my husband and I struck gold. It sounds cliché and trite but he's my true love and is perfect for me.