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Is there a Rebecca Humphries thread? Her public statement about the end of her relationship is awesome.

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bluetrampolines · 08/10/2018 21:32

I will try and link. I love that she took the cat!

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Samcro · 09/10/2018 16:54

"She doesn't want people feeling bad for her, which was her first point."

i am amazed that people think that. she has been very clever in her tweet. if he did her treat as she said....he can't say anything. if he didn't he still can't say anything.

JessieLemon · 09/10/2018 16:54

Fair enough, but I do find it bizarre how all these celebrities are coming out to comment on this as if it's the scandal of the century.

I assume it’s because they’re both still currently competing on a wildly popular prime time tv show that encourages audience investment and has a history of scandal between competitors; people are interested cos if they continue with the show the audience will be watching it play out before their eyes. And they’re invested in their partners too, due to them being on the show as either competitors or known audience members.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t watch strictly, never have, and never heard of these people before yesterday. But it’s not difficult to see why there’s so much tabloid interest.

surferjet · 09/10/2018 16:57

Strictly is love island for posh people.

JacquesHammer · 09/10/2018 16:57

i am amazed that people think that. she has been very clever in her tweet. if he did her treat as she said....he can't say anything. if he didn't he still can't say anything

Ah so she should have stayed quiet so it didn’t put him in a difficult position?

Come on women, take all the shit and shut up.

Gilead · 09/10/2018 16:58

Purple was the statement made for her, for him, or for women like me? Because for women in the situation in which I have been, it could well be a life saver, a sanity saver, a help in some small or large way. The point is, it doesn't matter whether she is an A lister, a Z lister or a woman nobody has ever heard of, she called him out on abuse and that's the important thing. She called him out, publicly on his abuse. I don't know how to get across how important that could be for an awful lot of people.

BlancheM · 09/10/2018 17:00

Purple I'm not on twitter, I wouldn't be inclined to investigate anyway as like you say, the only reason this is in the press is because of Strictly. Men pull these stunts all the time.
Sad that there are a fair few posters now who are unsettled at the thought of a woman having some form of control of her life having been treated like shit in the public eye.

Yes PP I agree her statement was very clever. Good head on her shoulders she has.

PurpleOctober · 09/10/2018 17:05

@Gilead I don't think the information in her statement is enough to be called abuse - he may be, but I don't know if we can say that based on just the info she's given, as we don't actually know these people. All cheaters call their partner a psycho/nuts/crazy etc if they have suspicions. My ex did this with me, my father did this to my mother....they're not going to own up are they? It's not nice behaviour and they're shits but I don't know if it counts as abusive, unless we count all cheaters as abusive?

She was also cheering him on with tears of pride on Saturday, so we must remember there are always two sides to every story.

AssassinatedBeauty · 09/10/2018 17:06

She didn't know about the infidelity on the Saturday.

PurpleOctober · 09/10/2018 17:07

I know @AssassinatedBeauty, but according to her she's had suspicions/been unfairly treated for a while.

BlancheM · 09/10/2018 17:11

Purple of course that's abusive. It's emotional abuse. It's making someone doubt their own sanity and cruel rather than just owning up like some cheaters do.
That's probably the reason she was there supporting him on Saturday. He has her believing it was all in her head. He'll have made her feel guilty for doubting him!

AssassinatedBeauty · 09/10/2018 17:12

Obviously there's a difference between having suspicions and having absolute proof all over the newspapers!

I don't get this urge to minimise and to discount her voice. She had no choice in any of this to begin with, it was done to her and not in her control - it was all public headlines from the beginning. I think it's great that she felt able to make a clear statement and to put her thoughts on it across. I don't blame her at all for that, and I don't think it merits her being reprimanded for it.

PurpleOctober · 09/10/2018 17:16

Then lying full stop can be classed as abusive @BlancheM as it's making someone doubt their own sanity. It's dangerous to put this lying (which may have only happened in the last few weeks), on the same level as serious mental/emotional abusers, who put their partners down and go out of their way to make them believe they're crazy to ultimately control them. Lying is not the same thing.

Gilead · 09/10/2018 17:17

I can't cope with this. Hiding the thread.

BlancheM · 09/10/2018 17:19

I don't get it, either, beauty. I find it quite bizarre how she's being painted almost as the manipulative one for daring to speak. Man goes off gallivanting with work colleague, is caught on film but the wronged party is the one who can't be trusted. Clearly trying to stitch him up Hmm

PurpleOctober · 09/10/2018 17:20

Not manipulative, she is the victim here (I know she says she isn't, but she is). I just don't understand why she wants to involve the world because her boyfriend snogged another woman when there's nothing to be gained from it.

JacquesHammer · 09/10/2018 17:22

I just don't understand why she wants to involve the world because her boyfriend snogged another woman when there's nothing to be gained from it

But if there’s something for her to gain whether it’s a sense of control, or just wanting to rant then that’s what’s important

BlancheM · 09/10/2018 17:23

Bowing out now, purple. I don't think barking down the phone at someone that they're 'mental' can be minimised. It's indicative of how he's conducted himself in the relationship. He's been gaslighting her for a while. Now she's vindicated as the footage is there for all to see.

AssassinatedBeauty · 09/10/2018 17:23

PurpleOctober the world has already been involved! Without her choice. I can completely understand the choice to take back some control of that public situation and make her own comment. I find that to be totally reasonable.

JessieLemon · 09/10/2018 17:23

I just don't understand why she wants to involve the world because her boyfriend snogged another woman when there's nothing to be gained from it

I think you’ve misunderstood: she didn’t involve the world. The world was already involved because her (ex) partner is a semi public figure taking part in a very popular tv show in the public eye and his other woman is also in the same position.

The world were already involved. Statement or no statement from Rebecca.

Jitters22 · 09/10/2018 17:48

just don't understand why she wants to involve the world because her boyfriend snogged another woman when there's nothing to be gained from it.

She doesn't want to 'involve the world'. She has been publicly humiliated. Her boyfriend and live in partner has photo and video of him drunkenly snogging another woman, a married woman at that - all over the national press and social media. This wasn't done in the back kitchen of private party for no-one to see. It was done in full public view on the streets of London and plastered all over the papers.

In response, he and the woman he was snogging both then issue public apologies via social media - once again in full public view, resulting in further media furore.

Every article is accompanied by photos of Rebecca, there is footage of her supporting him on Saturday night, photos of her in the car with him leaving the show. There are tweets and comments about her and directed to and at her and everyone including all of us on here, and on every newspaper comments section, forum and social media platform is commenting about her, the state of their relationship and so on.

And yet you think she is the one who 'wants to involve the whole world'?

She has made one statement and a very courageous and erudite one at that.

But according to some, in order to gain respect she should have kept her mouth shut. According to some, it would have been far more dignified to stay silent.

Fuck that.

She never asked for any of this. He was the one who went out on the piss, snogging in public view, not giving a shit about his girlfriend at home. He and Katya were the ones who made this public and by association dragged Rebecca into the spotlight and made her subject to public scrutiny and speculation.

Good on her for speaking up for herself. Good on her for making her voice heard in all this. I for one, am cheering her from the rooftops!

JacquesHammer · 09/10/2018 17:48

The world was already involved because her (ex) partner is a semi public figure taking part in a very popular tv show in the public eye and his other woman is also in the same position

Plus they were both very quick off the mark to put out their statements.

Lethaldrizzle · 09/10/2018 17:50

I'm curious to know why she was on her own waiting for boyf to get back from work on her birthday

parkinpig · 09/10/2018 17:55

I had a DM on Twitter from a comedian friend:

"My friend (deleted) is a friend of Seann's ex and she was in the green room with her and Seann and Katya when Seann's agent came in and said that the papers were running it. And he put his head in his hands and moaned and groaned and said his career was over and he'd lose his rep and his female fanbase.... And didn't say a single fucking thing to his girlfriend WHO WAS IN THE FUCKING ROOM"

All allegedly, of course

PurpleOctober · 09/10/2018 17:57

@parkinpig He has a female fanbase?

parkinpig · 09/10/2018 17:59

The parts in quote marks are a cut and paste of the message as it was sent to me.

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