I sent DH to the sofa & found out he actually enjoys & been laughing about it with his mates!!!

[FrustratedDP]

I’m fuming tbh

Turns out he been taking the piss vlogging the ‘Experience’ to his mates as if he in Bear Grylls the island.

The cheeky fuck made a point of not eating & slyly had a takeaway delivered!!!

Have his bags packed ready at the door and a tin off dog food and nothing else, change your locks and then see how he likes it an then see if he can survive in the wild with bear grills then because his mates won't want his baggage! Dickhead

It would make a lot more sense if you explained the background in the opening post.

His actions show he doesn't care less about you ir the marriage. Proceed with that knowledge.

I'd have kicked him out the house. Doubly so after the disrespectful way he reacted to your discovery. Perhaps, if he'd absolutely grovelled & swore he'd never see the OW again, I might have been prepared to consider further discussion. But laughing at you? That's low. He has made his bed. Now he should lie in it. Be it sofa, floor, or a friend's house.

You deserve better than this.
Find a decent partner and move on with your life. Sort out childcare pronto. I hope that you have a decent lawyer because you obviously need it. Discuss divorce, child support and custody arrangements for your children with the lawyer. Initial shock aside, what are you going to do about this now?? I’d have kicked him out of the house with his stuff packed up in boxes and quickly and quietly changed all the locks immediately afterwards.
Is this the first time it’s happened or not? Irregardless this is not appropriate.

I must admit to being a bit agog at how an emotional affair conducted at an after school club would actually work.

Before I pounce in and say anything.
What has he been doing that makes you think he's having an EA?
Because according to that link I'm having EA all over the place, and I can categorically say I am not.

Because according to that link I'm having EA all over the place, and I can categorically say I am not.

Likewise, it seems I have several lovers on the go. Which is immensely cheering.

Yes, I agree that definition of an emotional affair covers behaviours as wide as being good mates with someone and needed an outlet to share the trials and tribulations of marriage or to seek advice.

Given that I have always had close female friends and am a complete blabber mouth, I feel like I am suddenly the Barry White/ Don Juan of the emotional affair.

Seriously though, how can you carry on an emotional affair at breakfast club? What exactly happened?

5foot5 You could be right, it's all just so vague though.

Have his bags packed ready at the door and a tin off dog food and nothing else, change your locks and then see how he likes it

I've got a funny feeling that if a woman posted on AIBU saying her husband did this all because she spoke to another dad at after school club then there wouldn't be much support for him 🧐

I've got a funny feeling that if a woman posted on AIBU saying her husband did this···

Well quite. But then you see this all the time on here. If a man ever says I still love you but I'm not "in love" with you it definitely means an OW. But if I said it to DH then it must be because he's not doing enough housework or something

Christ the amount of people who give advice when the OP has posted hardly anything!
So OP, before i tell you to kick him out, how about telling us the following:
Does your husband have form for this?
How is your relationship otherwise?
What do you mean by emotional affair? Has it definitely gone over the line from friend to something more?
How did he react when you confronted him?
Does he deny it?
How do you know?

See, those questions will mean you actually get some decent advice.

Seeing lots of advice to kick him out of the house, is that legal? I’d consider this thread to have had a drip feed. The affair could quite easily have been put in the op. If he isn’t having an affair then his reaction is fucking brilliant lol. Probably fed up of being told off like a child so made some fun out of it. You can’t bitch that he got a takeaway lol. If it is serious (I’ll be honest, I don’t think he is having an affair, I think you wanted to make him look silly because you sent him to the sofa but that back fired) you still can’t treat him like a child fs. Sending a grown man out of his own bed is and then complaining if he eats food and talks to his mates is ridiculous. Emotional affair at pick up sounds laughable, emotional affairs basically mean that a man is friendly with a woman and the jealous partner doesn’t like it. Actual emotional affairs are sad obviously but we can’t help how we feel only how we act. But mostly, emotional affairs aren’t as serious as the jealous ones try to make out.

This is a bit old but came up in a search.

If this isn't a troll, this bloke is a legend!

ZOMBIE ZOMBIE in case someone misses the last comment.

So you think someone who disrespects his partner to this extent after having an EA is a legend?!