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Difference between boys and girls (lighthearted)
mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 04:41
I clearly have too much time on my hands because I've been awake for 2.5 hours for no reason.... usually it's multiple children or husbands snoring waking me, but that's another thread....
So with 2 boys and an 8 month old girl everyone keeps saying to me 'are you loving having a girl?' Am I meant to have noticed the difference yet? Should I be French plaiting her hair? Should she be asking me to go shopping (as we're obviously BEST friends already!!!!!) should I be painting her nails and having spa days????
'Ooh I bet husbands name is different with her/besotted with her' etc erm nope he's just as irritated by her as he is by the boys..... and he loves her just as much as the boys, in equal measures 😝
I'm just not sure what people are expecting... it's been no different having a girl as she's a baby... all babies poop, cry, sleep (haha who am I kidding)
There's also 2 camps; girl babies are more high maintenance and girl babies are easier/sleep better
All 3 of my babies have been high maintenance and rubbish sleepers, let's see if she potty trains SUPER EASILY (my friends 2 girls were much harder to potty train than her boy!!!)
As I said: totally light hearted post, I'm just clearly very bored at this hour 🙄😂
mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 04:43
Ps said little princess just woke for some milk
'WHAT?' I hear you cry! 'But my daughter slept through the second she was born and made her own feeds whilst potty training, being sassy and online shopping with daddy's credit card'
Bibijayne · 06/10/2018 04:59
This does seem to be a weird one. I figure babies are babies (except for boys abilities to fountain pee everywhere when you change a nappy).
I think people hunt for baby small talk and end up trotting out random factoids and trueisms in an attempt to engage. It's nice people want to talk, but it would be cool if people thought a moment before asking something silly.
mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 05:11
@Bibijayne yes I'm inclined to agree with you on the baby small talk, however most of it is from family 😬 especially the 'oh I bet husbands name is so different with her....' nope 😂
Bibijayne · 06/10/2018 05:20
Lol. I think family are often the worst! We have our first baby - a little boy who is currently snoozing on my chest post boob - and we've had some silly questions like this - mostly from family.
My favourite odd question at the moment is the 'Is he sleeping through the night?'
Our son is 7 weeks old...
Phillipa12 · 06/10/2018 05:20
The only difference i have noticed and i have 3 boys and 1 daughter and used to be a childrens nanny is that boys are more physically tiring and girls are more mentally tiring. This though is not true for all boys and girls, this is true for my children and the children i have looked after in my job! I know a number of children who are the complete opposite.
Rednaxela · 06/10/2018 05:34
Time for an expressionless head tilt "In what way?" Deathly long silence while they try to backtrack on their sexist opinions...
sobeyondthehills · 06/10/2018 05:48
except for boys abilities to fountain pee everywhere when you change a nappy
This is apparently the only difference according to a friend of mine, she has two boys and two girls, all very different personality wise (all the spitting image of their father, its scary)
florenceheadache · 06/10/2018 05:51
Oh come on, little girls are prettier and there are usually way more clothing options.
buzz91 · 06/10/2018 06:09
Weirdly, if they get themselves at the right angle, little girls can get a bit of a fountain going themselves..,
Flatasapancakenow · 06/10/2018 06:11
I don't know if this is a true boy/girl thing or if it's just the differences in my 3 children's individual personalities playing out.
I have 2 boys aged 9 and 2 and a girl aged 3 (and I'm currently awake win terrible morning sickness brought on by number 4). My boys have been more laid back and much better sleepers. My girl runs rings around us. From very early on she never slept and we tried EVERYTHING. I was totally baffled as I thought I was a parenting pro after very textbook, super-easy DS1. It is very easy to set DD off into a tantrum, in the past she would have banged her head off the floor or wall really hard until a bruise appeared (GP has ressured us that there is now underlying medical issues). This has stopped now, thank goodness, but she is capable of throwing the mightiest of wobbles over nothing.
Now that she is 3 my DD is much more calm and level and is very sweet a lot of the time. Her preschool think she's a real tomboy. We call her the diva. She brings the drama.
So in my experience boys are significantly easier than girls, but that could be because my only daughter is a firecracker!
Stillwishihadabs · 06/10/2018 06:29
I have one of each, Dd was an easier baby (but I thought that was because I was more experienced). She was a very sociable baby, smiley (from 2 WEEKS amazingly)and would go to anyone. Probably just her personality.
MabelBee · 06/10/2018 06:35
I haven't had any boys so don't know the fountain pee. But I do know the sneak pee, where I discover her whole back is wet and she's lying in a puddle on the changing mat.
Bibijayne · 06/10/2018 06:38
@florenceheadache
People keep assuming our little boy is a girl because he's pretty.
He just looks like my adorable munchkin to me. :)
Bibijayne · 06/10/2018 06:39
@MabelBee
Ooo useful to know. If we end up with a little girl in future this will be useful !
YellowStickies · 06/10/2018 06:40
I only have the one, a boy, and often hear "boys are lazy. Don't worry he'll do it in his own time." Well, I'm not worried and he's definitely not lazy.
MabelBee · 06/10/2018 06:44
Nothing you can do about it, Bibijayne! It's a stealth move!
ImogenTubbs · 06/10/2018 06:46
People talk a lot of shit, OP. Babies are babies. They get treated differently from the moment they are born by the adults around them.
When DD was born DH asked the maternity ward nurse for another blanket and she was super-apologetic because she could only find a blue one, not a pink one. He looked at her and said, "you're wearing blue and you're female. I'm sure our baby won't mind, thank you".
Seriously, all the gendered nonsense - it drives me up the wall!
Galvantula · 06/10/2018 06:49
I got this so much as my first dc were boys.
Apparently I'd need to buy special girl baby toys? I'm guessing that meant pink ones. Or toy hand bags. 🙄
The only differences I've noted is the not getting peed on so much (she totally did manage it at least once) and the ability or desire to make louder and more high pitched noises than the boys do.
I see more personality difference between my boys, she's a wild climbing monkey like the brother who is closest in age to her. Older one is more of a bookworm like me and creative type.
Some friends who have just girls are also always going on about how difficult they are and boys are much easier. :(
YellowStickies · 06/10/2018 06:52
My son has a grey hoodie with one little pink mouse on it. Everybody comments on it to the point I almost want to stop putting him in it. My MIL referred to him as metrosexual the other day. Wtf. He's one! Stop putting labels on him.
LusaCole · 06/10/2018 06:54
Babies are babies. No difference. However, as she grows up you will find it's different being mum to a girl - not so much because of innate differences (IMO) but because of the way that society shapes boys / girls. Eg the clothes shopping thing - my DD wasn't bothered about what she wore any more than her brothers, until she was 10yo. Suddenly she got into clothes and sparkly nail polish! It's a bit bizarre.
Although I have to say that she was MUCH easier to potty train than my boys.
SodTheBloodyLotOfThem · 06/10/2018 06:54
Yes the stealth girl pee puddle! You would change a nappy, think mission complete, then go to lift her and find her whole back was sopping wet, grrrr.
DS was never really one for a pee fountain, unlike DNephew who successfully peed in his dad's face during his very first ever nappy change.
ThisIsTheFirstStep · 06/10/2018 06:55
I find it sooo weird.
The number of headbands we got for our daughter! She doesn’t have hair, why the hell would I put a headband on her?????
SodTheBloodyLotOfThem · 06/10/2018 06:56
Metrosexual 1yo wtf? DS is 1, he's a beast, climbs everything, loves vehicles and dinosaurs, also loves cuddling dolls and teddies and pushing a pram and insists on wearing a sparkly tiara from a birthday cake. Is he meterosexual too? How modern 
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