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Difference between boys and girls (lighthearted)

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mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 04:41

I clearly have too much time on my hands because I've been awake for 2.5 hours for no reason.... usually it's multiple children or husbands snoring waking me, but that's another thread....

So with 2 boys and an 8 month old girl everyone keeps saying to me 'are you loving having a girl?' Am I meant to have noticed the difference yet? Should I be French plaiting her hair? Should she be asking me to go shopping (as we're obviously BEST friends already!!!!!) should I be painting her nails and having spa days????

'Ooh I bet husbands name is different with her/besotted with her' etc erm nope he's just as irritated by her as he is by the boys..... and he loves her just as much as the boys, in equal measures 😝

I'm just not sure what people are expecting... it's been no different having a girl as she's a baby... all babies poop, cry, sleep (haha who am I kidding)

There's also 2 camps; girl babies are more high maintenance and girl babies are easier/sleep better

All 3 of my babies have been high maintenance and rubbish sleepers, let's see if she potty trains SUPER EASILY (my friends 2 girls were much harder to potty train than her boy!!!)

As I said: totally light hearted post, I'm just clearly very bored at this hour 🙄😂

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TeddybearBaby · 06/10/2018 09:13

I must admit I did really laugh at this..... but I find the gender stereotyping nonsense most of the time. They’re both equally annoying and lovely 😂😘

Difference between boys and girls (lighthearted)

ichangedmyusername · 06/10/2018 09:13

Yy to my dd being constantly mistaking for a boy! "Are you sure" one lady even said "how can you tell" Hmm


TeddybearBaby · 06/10/2018 09:14

And being honest that does sum up my 11 year old son 😂


LaBelleSausage · 06/10/2018 09:17

@mrssparkle123 never too early to start a girl on a diet, obviously Angry


mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 09:24

@LaBelleSausage I love a chunky thigh and a bit of wrist overlap 😂 it's when people say to me 'cor she's a big girl' yep I beam with pride 😂

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Robin2323 · 06/10/2018 09:24

I 'thought' I treated my 2 the same.

But the though my little girl was more outgoing and my son more layer back - I'd turn my back for a second and he'd be
Scaling the top of the sofa lol

Now he did play with his sisters dolls occasionally BUT action man was also playing a major part in the activities.

My son reminded me of a advent on tv from years ago.

A little boy was faster asleep in bed with 2 barbie dolls tucked under his arm.

His Dad looked on and shook his head.

But then it cut to the dream the little boy was having :

In dream the son was all grown up and on the beach with a bikini clad babe on each arm !


username1724 · 06/10/2018 09:26

I can see your point, but I have 1 of each and both have fit the stereotype. My dd was sassy from about 6 months, right drama queen, could babble continuously and strung a sentence by the time she was 1. My son is very laid back, loves to cuddle, very calm and can only say 1 word at 12 months. I think its also to do with names, clothes, all the other stuff that comes with babies. The partner stuff is silly though.. both kids are doted on and loved equally. I get the 'boys are easier than girls' thing constantly and I have to say in my case this is true so far. My 8yo dd is harder work than the baby most days 😂


PurpleFlowersInMyHair · 06/10/2018 09:27

Boys need their haircut more often than girls (although not all)


Starlight345 · 06/10/2018 09:28

As a childminder I can say ime babies are babies ( except the fountain thing )

The children here are all offered the same activities regardless of gender . Generally the girls will do the sitting down activities for longer, tend to speak earlier than the boys seem to try to do things for themselves. These are generalisation though and I could give you an example of at least one child that doesn’t fit that. I have had girls who are completely disinterested in traditional girl toys and also girls who have no interest in boys toys . The current boy and girl I care for same age the boy is far more craftyand will concentrate far longer.


Idontbelieveinthemoon · 06/10/2018 09:36

We have two boys and often I'm asked "oh but aren't you desperate for a girl?" as though there's something missing from a woman's life unless she has a daughter. It's odd; children are children and I'm lucky enough to have two filthy goblins to attempt to raise. It genuinely surprises me that people think daughters are different to sons.


Littletabbyocelot · 06/10/2018 09:42

When ds had a tummy bug just after toilet training, he had backwards explosive poo across the bathroom when he thought he was just having a wee. Wouldn't happen to a girl.

Have two boys. They love cars, rough play, superheroes, kitchens, baby dolls and bloody my little pony.


seventhgonickname · 06/10/2018 09:48

You can dress the girls as gender neutral as you like but they hit the outside world and suddenly like pink.It all evens out as my teen DD is currently the same as the boys her age wearing gray and hibernating in her(white)room.


BertrandRussell · 06/10/2018 09:51

You actually can’t dress girls “gender neutral” in our society. You can dress them in clothes considered suitable for boys, though........


mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 09:58

@Idontbelieveinthemoon filthy goblins 😂

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MicroManaged · 06/10/2018 21:35

mrssparkle if we ever decided to try for dc4 it would be possible comments that would put me off.

I can just imagine all the ‘Oh you’re trying for a girl’ comments. And if people congratulated me about finally getting a girl I think I’d find it hard to hold my tongue 😂


agnurse · 06/10/2018 21:51

I think the consensus in my extended family is that the girls tend to be more emotionally demanding and to develop faster, while the boys tend to be more physically demanding.

Also, when they get older, the boys eat way more. My SIL came over for dinner for the first time years ago. (She and my brother were high school sweethearts who married in college.) It was French toast night. Mum made an entire roasting pan full of French toast. Keep in mind, this is the roaster she uses for the Christmas turkey and it was heaping. There was Mum, Dad, SIL and I think three of my brothers for dinner. SIL said they were never going to eat all that. Mum said "Watch." By the time dinner was over the whole pan was empty.

At bro and SIL's wedding our youngest brother said that when our brother brought SIL home he knew she was special, and when she didn't leave after she'd met all of us he knew she was really special :grin:

SIL is the youngest of three girls so she had no experience of growing up with boys. Today she and my brother have a son and are expecting their second in a few weeks (team green).


NoCryingInEngineering · 06/10/2018 21:54

We have a 4yr old boy and a 13mo old girl.

DD seems to enjoy playing with dolls more than DS did at the same age - she tucks them up carefully in an old box with a blanket then slams the lid of the box like she's just tucked Dracula in but that may be because we have more dolls now. She is a natural climber though in a was DS never has been and is definitely a Leap Before You Look type. She was poorly yesterday and insisted on napping on me, never letting go of her favourite VTech fire engine....

Meanwhile after 4 weeks of reception DS seems to know the current Best Friend status of pretty much everyone in his class.

The stealth peeing abilities of girl babies seem to be the main difference and it's quicker to clean girl babies up after a poo


mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 22:03

@MicroManaged imagine you got a 4th boy, you poor poor thing, I think you'd better start counselling now just in case it ever happens!!!

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AmIRightOrAMeringue · 06/10/2018 22:19

I hate how everyone thinks they're an expert on a whole sex based on the extremely small sample size of 2 or 3

I got 'ohhhh boys are much easier than girls' from a woman with two sons. How the fuck she came to that conslusion without even anything to compare it to I have no idea


AmIRightOrAMeringue · 06/10/2018 22:20

I have girls and always get comments on how awful the teenage years will be. I was much easier as a teen than my brother!


PenguinSaidEverything · 06/10/2018 23:03

Grin at ppl having heard “boys are easier than girls” - I got told just the opposite! (Showing both assumptions are of course bullshit). Children are rounded individuals so it’s interesting which elements of their personality parents choose to highlight. For example if I described DS I could choose to say he is boisterous, disgusting, noisy, loves Lego and superheroes or I could say he is gentle, caring, chatty, emotional, loves animals and baby dolls. Both are 100% true they’re just different facets of his personality. Same goes for all children.


garethsouthgatesmrs · 06/10/2018 23:24

Oh come on, little girls are prettier and there are usually way more clothing options

i think this must be a joke. babies wear babygros and maybe tops and legging/trousers, yes i suppose girls wear dresses but thats hardly WAY more clothing options. Also who cares anyway there are so many thousands of clothing options as it is.

OP I agree at 8 months there is no difference. I have a boy and 2 girls. By reception age there are differeneces but how many of them are learned I really don't know, I am incliined to think that most are learned and few are innate.

In my own experience are loads of examples of sons who are close to their mums and girls who are not so close so the idea that a girl will be her mums b'friend and a boy will move on as soon as he gets a girlfreind is nonsense!!

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