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Difference between boys and girls (lighthearted)
mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 04:41
I clearly have too much time on my hands because I've been awake for 2.5 hours for no reason.... usually it's multiple children or husbands snoring waking me, but that's another thread....
So with 2 boys and an 8 month old girl everyone keeps saying to me 'are you loving having a girl?' Am I meant to have noticed the difference yet? Should I be French plaiting her hair? Should she be asking me to go shopping (as we're obviously BEST friends already!!!!!) should I be painting her nails and having spa days????
'Ooh I bet husbands name is different with her/besotted with her' etc erm nope he's just as irritated by her as he is by the boys..... and he loves her just as much as the boys, in equal measures 😝
I'm just not sure what people are expecting... it's been no different having a girl as she's a baby... all babies poop, cry, sleep (haha who am I kidding)
There's also 2 camps; girl babies are more high maintenance and girl babies are easier/sleep better
All 3 of my babies have been high maintenance and rubbish sleepers, let's see if she potty trains SUPER EASILY (my friends 2 girls were much harder to potty train than her boy!!!)
As I said: totally light hearted post, I'm just clearly very bored at this hour 🙄😂
keepingbees · 06/10/2018 06:57
I've got a boy and two girls. I get so sick of hearing the boy/girl stereotypes of who's easier/harder and who 'always' does what. My boy and one of my girls are very similar, high maintenance, never liked sleep. My other girl is very easy going and has always loved her sleep.
It's all purely down to the individual child not their sex.
PenguinSaidEverything · 06/10/2018 08:11
It’s so ridiculous. I’m actually quite shocked how often ppl say outrageously sexist things to me and expect me to agree. I’m sick of saying “yes but DD was the same, I don’t think it’s a boy thing” or “DS is the same, I don’t think it’s a girl thing.”
LaBelleSausage · 06/10/2018 08:18
My DM is the absolute worst for this! Possibly as she only had daughters and I have a boy.
When they did the 5 day weigh after DS was born, I phoned her up super excited as instead of losing weight he’d managed to gain 20g, which I was very proud of as he was and still is EBF. Her response?
“Well done. But would they be so happy with all that weight gain if he was a girl?”
BigSandyBalls2015 · 06/10/2018 08:56
It's def personality rather than a boy/girl thing. I have twin girls and they are chalk and cheese. They've obv been brought up exactly the same, but one has always loved dressing up in princess outfits, doing her hair, doing what others would describe as 'girly'. The other lived in a football kit for most of her childhood and would choose spiderman pyjamas over princess/kitten ones.
MIL was horrified ……. kept saying I should 'insist' that she becomes more 'girly' and refused to buy these 'butch clothes' ….. "you're going to turn that girl gay" 
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LittleLionMansMummy · 06/10/2018 09:00
A boy and a girl here - ds is now 7 and dd is almost 2. They have traits of both stereotyped sexes. Both though were easy babies on the whole. Dd does seem more feisty as a toddler, much more independent than ds was at a similar age etc. But I think I put it down to her having an older sibling and learning early on that she has to stand her ground. She's learned a lot from him - and is a very 'physical' toddler, but seems more careful and measured with it than her brother ever was. She's more watchful too. I think ds takes after his dad (he looks nothing like me either) whereas dd inherited more of my genes! Mostly personality, but ds is also old enough now to have succumbed to peer pressure and social stereotyping.
MicroManaged · 06/10/2018 09:02
I have 3 boys and am constantly surprised by just how rude and stupid people are.
‘Oh 3 boys! You poor, poor thing’
‘Ah babe, I was gutted for you when I heared it was a boy again! Will you try again?’
‘Oh my word, you won’t know what to do with yourself when they all disappear off with girlfriends, it’s such a shame’
‘Ah what a pity you’ve never had a girl, that mother-daughter bond is just the best thing about being a parent’
All comments I’ve had in the past few months. People are bellends.
mrssparkle123 · 06/10/2018 09:11
@MicroManaged I am seething for you! From the minute I had a boy people said when are you going to try for a girl.... oh I was meant to try for a girl, that's where I went wrong I didn't try hard enough! Then I had my beautiful second boy and the comments started up straight away. I was always going to have 3 children, that's what I've said since I was a child, when I was pregnant with my 3rd I was angry and hormonal the whole way through hoping for a boy so people could dare say any of that to me, people are just constantly saying ahhhh you got your girl, you can stop now, your family is complete.. it is sooo bloody rude!!! I have to constantly say actually I would have been more than happy with a 3rd boy and I would definitely have been done then too. My sister in law had a boy then a girl, then went on to have 2 more children, what on earth was she hoping for with her 3rd and 4th, a penguin??? A stranger walked past me the other day turned round and stopped and said I was walking behind you hoping the baby was a girl. You finally got your girl... bla bla bla
Sorry rant over! (I'm lying it will never be over, this infuriates me!!!!)
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