Lock my autistic daugher away? WTF

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Need to rant!

My DD (10) has mild autism - she's highly intelligent but struggles with the social side of things. We have a park on the inside of our complex where all the kids play.

A mother and daughter who often visit family here are vile, evil trailer trash types. I don't usually judge, but believe me, they are. The mother walks around swearing all day, and the 10-YO daughter swears at adults and children alike all day long. Her DC hurt the other kids every time they're here. Today her DS punched another boy.

The DD - call her C, has walked up to my DD before and slapped her in the face, punched her, kicked her etc. I've told my DDs to stay away from her.

So today C holds my DD down by the throat, pinches her nose closed and tries to force holly berries (very poisonous) down her throat. While I was confronting the mother about it I may have raised my voice a bit (the other father was also shouting at her because her DS hurt his son), one of the other neighbours came out and told me that, if my daughter is autistic, I should keep her inside and not allow her out of the house! WTAF!!! According to her it's my DD who causes this as she's autistic. My DD is often the target of bullies, as is so often the case with vulnerable children.

But to lock her away in the house! Seriously? Do people really still fucking think like this?

Oh that's awful! I certainly don't think this way - but I suppose sadly some people do. Hope you and your DD are okay

Surely someone should report this family to the police or SS or someone?

Surely someone should report this family to the police or SS or someone

I had a very similar neighbour, Sd and Police were always round but nothing changed

I would report the thing with the holly berries to the police with no hesitation

What an appalling attitude. I hope you and your daughter are ok after tbat awful experience. Such a vicious attack from a youngster is very worrying. Where do they learn such behaviour?! I think I would report it and see what the Police say.

Police. I think that’s horrendous to hold down a child and try to feed them holly berries. Vicious little bitch.

The daughter obviously learnt from her mother - according to the mother C is an absolute angel .

This neighbour who told me to keep DD inside is also the one who used to park her car right outside my window, and the alarm used to go off all bloody night and day long. When I spoke to her about it she told me that she can't hear it!

I know from experience with other troublesome neighbours in the area that the police aren't very helpful - they give the child a talking to but that's that.

OP that's awful, I hope you're both ok now? Sorry not really any advice to give except assure you that the neighbour lady and the Awful Family sound like twats of the highest order x

When I told this neighbour she has absolutely no idea how C treats my DD at school, the bitch told me it doesn't matter!

Sorry, still fuming a bit.

Hope you're both okay. Despicable behaviour!

I would be advising the mum that if C ever behaves that way toward your child again you are calling the police.

My husband is autistic and works a full-time job. The idea that people with SEN should be "hidden away" is frankly ridiculous.

If C can't behave herself SHE should be kept inside, not your DD.

According to the mother C is an angel.

I bet that's what Hitlers mother saId about hIm.
I agree this family needs reporting.
Oh and as for that neighbour she's a disgusting disablist cunt. Also WTF has it got to do with her anyway, little miss pipe up.

Oh god OP I know where you’re coming from.

2 years of shit my boy endured. When I finally got hold of the mother “it’s no my fault your wean’s no normal” was her response.

We ended up having to move house

So no advice, but an absolute shitload of solidarity and rage on you and your DDs behalf.

Thankfully those wankers are in the miniority. Well I hope so anyway.

OF COURSE C is an angel. Your DD MUST have deliberately provoked her. I can just imagine that if C attacks someone in the future it will be all the VICTIM'S fault because it's IMPOSSIBLE for C to be responsible.

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I cannot STAND those kinds of parents. We had a kid like that in our neighborhood. Worst kid in the area but according to his mum he deserved the Nobel Peace Prize.

These are the kids that grow up to believe the rules don't apply to them.

I definitely second reporting. C didn't just act this way out of nowhere and it sounds as if her mum is no prize.

A 10 year old is responsible for their actions in the eyes of the law ( assuming you're in the UK ) so I would be telling the mother that any more of this crap you will have no hesitation in reporting her little madam.

Also you mentioned issues at school, are the school aware? I hate bullies.

My ds has ASD high functioning and was bullied in year 7 and we had to move schools. I have no tolerance for people like this.

“it’s no my fault your wean’s no normal” - that's bloody awful @YeTalkShiteHen

DD is fine - she's with her 'D'F for the weekend. Hopefully we'll be moving soon anyway - largely to get away from the wankers.

TickTickBoomBoom I was pretty shocked at the cheek of her tbh. I recovered myself enough to shoot back that given her own child’s propensity for violence (he didn’t just target DS1, hes known for it) she had a cheek to decide what was and wasn’t normal!

I hope you can get moved soon, it’s shit that we even have to think this way when it’s not our kids that are the problem. I wish it was different.

The kid sounds vile, and I know slightly off the point but imo It’s also really awful to describe kids as Trailer Trash.

@Zoflorabore - we've already had to move school once because of bullying .

Unfortunately, if you try and talk to the mother, then only response you get is: Fuck off!

@YetAnotherThing - I know, and I wouldn't normally do it. They all swear all the time, the DM walks around with a fag hanging out the side of her mouth, they're known troublemakers. My upstairs neighbour told C off for hurting other children, and C told her to Fuck off you pussy.

You raised your voice? I think that was awfully restrained of you. I would have had her down on the ground raming some berries down her throat!

The mother that is.

A 10 yo said “Fuck off you pussy” to an adult! Wow. I’d be reporting the incident to the police. And if the girl just gets a talking to I’d complain. She could have landed your dd in hospital. And the attitude of the other neighbour. Words fail me.

Any chance you can move?

If the other child is 10 or older, call the police. That was assault and with intent to cause grave bodily injury. Call the police.

Mummyoflittledragon I reported the bully to the police when DS1 was attacked and beaten up with sticks.

He now goes to a special club for “troubled children” (there aren’t enough fucking eyerolls in the world) for which read gets a nice free treat weekly, and I ended up being charged because I shouted at him and his cunt of a mother got me charged.