my group of friends seem to have ditched me. aibu?

[Tobythecat]

We are a close group of friends who have all had similar struggles. I found out that one of the friends in the group had left her dog for a few days with her adult son. He had deliberately hurt the dog and friend didnt seem to be doing much about it.

My stepdad got involved and told her that her son deserves to be beaten up for what he did to the dog. Friend has twisted things and reported my stepdad to the police saying he was threatening to beat her son up. Stepdad has contacted rspca to report her son.

None of my friends have spoken to me or answered my texts since. One of them is siding with my friend "the dog seems fine!" One of them is on my side but doesnt want to get involved and isnt replying to my texts.

Im fucking gutted. Im autistic and making connections isnt easy for me and i really though id found friends for life as we all bonded on a really deep level.

Im pissed off that none of them want to back me up and are defending someone who is covering up abuse of her dog by her son. Aibu???

Just putting it out there, if you see on your news feed on Facebook pictures of an animal being abused you will find many people commenting that the perpetrators need to be....well I’m sure you have all seen comments.

From what OP has said I don’t think her step father threatened her friends son in person, he just made a fly away comment, much like people do on Facebook.

Op have the rspca investigated this? What was their response if they have?

I can’t abide cruelty to any animals or humans for that matter and I think your friend should be ashamed of her son!

Maybe she is, and that’s why she is acting this way.

I can relate though, it’s awful to be ghosted by your friends for standing up for something you believe in xx

Sorry I haven't seen the previous thread. Reporting the son and the dogs situation go RSPCA is absolutely the right thing to do.

I don't know how old you/your friends are or how old the son in this situation is but your stepdad shouldn't have said he deserves a beating even if that's what he thought it can be seen as aggressive!

As for your friends did they see the dog? Or are they going on what they have been told?

Hello, the son is an adult and actually abused a dog. Good on your stepdad for speaking up about animal abuse. Its obvious what has happened, she has been running her mouth off to your friends about you and stepdad. Best off without these spineless twats.

Why on earth are people giving a blind eye to the adult son? Abusing animals is one of the early red flags for future sex abusers/serial killers, it’s psychopathic

The RSPCA probably wouldn't do anything. Shame really as your friend needs the dog taking off her if she went to so much trouble to report your stepdad rather than facing up to the fact that her son is clearly an abuser.

You did the right thing saying something. Who needs cowards and scumbags for friends. I'm sure it's disappointing, but your friends are no loss.

Who gives a shit if the step dad threatened him, have you not read what he did to an animal?

And, if you have friends who are happy to turn a blind eye to that by ignoring you, because your friend is upset, then they have shit morals.

The son sounds like a sick fuck. I really hope that the RSPCA do something.

I'm also autistic and also lost a group of friends which left me upset and confused. Unfortunately that happens - group dynamics are difficult for us.

The woman and her son are vile twisted people and non of them are your friends. Be pleased that you have got rid of these horrible people from your life. The wider group of friends may be frightened of the Mum and son.
The man who injured that dog deserves to go to prison.Just move on from it and choose better people in the future.

I personally don't blame your Dad and all he can do is tell his side of the story to the Police. Animal abuse is vile and loads of murderers start off this way.

Hold your head high op. I lost a few friends some years ago - who continued to be friends with a woman who starved her gsd to death. Went to court and blamed the stress of divorce! I saw her in a club and she approached me and a friend. I asked her to walk away as I did not want to be associated with her. My friend was mortified but stayed with me. The rest stayed with her.
Best off out of it op. They are as guilty imo.

Some absolute tossers on this thread MVlipwig.
With the Stepdad

Is there another thread about what happened to this poor dog that I’ve missed?????

And well said fruitshot

Omg what the fuck, RSPCA definitely needs to be contacted !! What a sick fuck!!! This makes me feel positively ill!

OP _ to answer your actual question; if your 'friends' have sided with the mother of this 'man', do YOU want to be friends with them?? Cos I for sure wouldn't.

YOU drop them. Not the other way round. Anyone who sides with scum like that, deserves to have no mates at all. Or a dog.

Of course the abuse needed to be reported! I can’t believe everyone is taking the friends side!! Absolutely heartbreaking to abuse animals, he does want a good kicking!

This actually really makes me want to cry and hold my dog tight 😢

Your step dad shouldn’t have said those things about your friends dc. By all means be outraged, and express that, but it’s not his place to condone violence. Reporting to the RSPCA was absolutely the right thing to do. What a vile little boy tho.

As for your friends ditching you, that’s just plain mean, you didn’t do anything to the dog , and you certainly arent your Step Dad.

He deserves a good kicking is not threatening him! The bloody dog abuser does deserve a good kicking

No loss if they sided with him. Evil.

@Thebluedog the son is an adult man not a little boy.

I read your original post on this and what he’d done to the dog was really shocking and cruel . I’m not surprised your step dad said that in anger at seeing the dog in such a state.
I’m sorry your friends are being distant, and I hope the RSPCA deal with your friend’s son.
I imagine your friend wants to minimise what happened, and your other friends don’t want the grief of getting involved.
Her son sounds dangerous, frankly. I would keep my distance if I was you, he essentially tortured that dog. Vile person.

So they’re siding with the adult man who did that?

You’re better off without them

Iirc from the other thread, Op facilitated her step father phoning the dog owner.

That could be what the others are objecting to?