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To let my daughter have a day off school?

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purple8pig · 04/10/2018 14:52

Dd 10 is I think feeling hormonal recently, she has 3 siblings (one is 2 and very demanding, another is 8 and in the process of being assessed for autism and also takes a lot of attention)

The last few weeks she's been having small problems with different people at school, she's tired, she's just emotional. Says the usual things, "you only care about my brother /sister" she doesn't like school and wants to move etc

There's nothing major and she does have friends and is going to a party this weekend that she's looking forward to, I just feel like she needs something, a gesture maybe. Something to make her feel warm and special.

I thought about giving her a mental health day so to speak. But I'm not sure if that's really irresponsible? I think a long weekend would do her good especially without her sister, and she's very rarely off school poorly.

Aibu?

OP posts:
wijjy · 04/10/2018 22:41

A vote for optician's appointment here, and make a day of it.

cookiesandchocolate · 04/10/2018 22:47

My 4 year old goes to school more than I do. It's ridiculous. Just give her the day off

Jamiefraserskilt · 04/10/2018 22:52

It's half term soon. Why can't dh look after the other two whilst you go off for a girly thing. Or take the others to see relatives whilst you chill at home with facials and Netflix?

GetYourRocksOff · 04/10/2018 22:53

I do this occasionally, no harm in it.

MagpieWife · 04/10/2018 23:24

Havent RTFT but...

Please do this! I was also the eldest of 4 with SN siblings and I have such strong memories of my mum taking me out of school for the day when I was in Y4. It's one of my favourite things to remember now that I'm grown up and have moved thousands of miles away!

That sense of being special and being loved 'exclusively' for even a short while made a real difference. I didn't resent my siblings and I continued to have a positive relationship with school for what it's worth.

FontSnob · 04/10/2018 23:34

Do it. School is not the be all and end all of life, especially at 10.

MarthaArthur · 04/10/2018 23:37

Poor wee mite. Op let her have her mental health day. You wont regret it at all years down the line when she remembers her mom made a special effort to treat her and just her. Shes not in the middle of gcses so it doesnt matter. (I used to be a TA. Honestly school is not that important to be there every day of term. A one off day here and there is fine. )

MarthaArthur · 04/10/2018 23:38

I often took mental health days. At school. At college. At uni. They really helped me.

Santaclarita · 04/10/2018 23:44

I would to be honest.

Shes tired emotionally and she needs some one to one attention. She'll soon be a teenager and she'll no longer want to spend time with you, so best to do this now while she's wanting them. It will make her more likely to remain close to you when she's a teenager.

Just have a day off, duvet day, watch films together all day and have a laugh. She'll love it.

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