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Really petty one about DPs washing habits

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lastqueenofscotland · 03/10/2018 22:30

I don’t live with my DP but when he stays he uses my shower gel/shampoo etc. No bother but he uses so much.
He stayed last night and had a wash this morning and I’ve just gone to wash my hair now and found a new full bottle of shower gel is a third gone, and my shampoo which was quarter full had the tiniest squirt left.

My shampoo and conditioner in particular is pretty expensive stuff, and if I with nearly waist length hair don’t need a quarter of a bottle a wash he definitely doesn’t with short back and sides.
Would it be really unreasonable to tell him if he wants to use so much to bring his ownBlush
It feels like a pathetic thing for a 27 year old with a mortgage and a good job to be asking Blush

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Heidimay · 04/10/2018 10:40

Hide your stuff and put cheap versions out on show in the shower when he comes to stay. My STBXH used to do this, it used to drive me mad. I put a bottle of silver shampoo (for keeping blonde hair from going too yellow) in the shower alongside the stuff which I'd told him to use. He used it anyway so I told him it would turn his dark brown hair to grey. He freaked out and started using the products i had specifically bought for him after that!

Tinty · 04/10/2018 10:43

@Nodella

Why is sharing a toothbrush any more disgusting/dangerous(!!!!!!) than snogging?!

Because as PP said sometimes it is your DDad or other family members who use your toothbrush and lovely as they are I'm not going to be snogging them anytime soon. Grin

JaceLancs · 04/10/2018 10:46

What sort of shampoo conditioner does he use at home?
If it’s something affordable just buy some to keep at your house
If it’s very expensive ask him to buy some and bring it over
I keep my own stuff at DP house as I like what I like
When he stays at mine he uses DS stuff which I replace as needed
Neither of them have same type of hair as me or like flowery smells

Clandestino · 04/10/2018 10:48

My DH is totally bold but he uses whatever he finds in the shower as a shower gel. Me and DD have some really good expensive shampoos and he'd be using them so I started hiding them away.
The funny moment was when I realised he was using DD's long hair conditioner. The jokes about his fluffy and well maintained chest hair were awesome and a great payback for the empty bottles.

tiny2278 · 04/10/2018 11:57

I had the exact same scenario! 27, mortgage, DP stays over at the weekends and has no concept of what he needs. I found out he wasn’t using the luffa and was wasting a lot of shower gel that way. When we do our Friday night food shop I remind him he needs to buy shampoo and shower gel :)

Elasticity · 04/10/2018 12:22

Go to supermarket and buy him whatever men's shower gel and shampoo is on offer. You can sell it to him as not wanting him to smell girly around you.

He can then power through that stuff.

Problem solved.

ToadOfSadness · 04/10/2018 12:23

Leave the empties for him. When he says there is nothing left mention that they were new bottles the week before so should last another 4 - 6 weeks and perhaps he should bring his own so that he doesn't run out.

Hide your new ones.

19lottie82 · 04/10/2018 15:29

Um any diseases passed this way would I
imagine be passed by shagging the
person once you have finished cleaning your teeth

Um Hmm yes, but you might be ok sharing a toothbrush with your partner but would you share one with your mum, dad, sister, brother or any old house guest? No, cos that’s gross. Yes you can risk getting toothbrush or shagging related diseases partner but I’m sure you wouldn’t risk it from anyone else!

B00ps · 05/10/2018 03:59

He needs a poof.
That way he'll use only 1 squirt and the foam will be able to cover him. Men especially seem to avoid poofs and then use shut loads of shower gel because they can't get a good lather going with just hands.

Sforsh49 · 05/10/2018 04:29

Shower Poof! When I first met my husband he was the same, told him he was costing me a fortune in shower gel and introduced him to shower poofs and he's now obsessed with them, 50p in Wilkos! We now have separate bathrooms as we moved to a house with an en-suite so my expensive shampoo is all mine!!!

Sethis · 05/10/2018 14:35

It has occurred to me that he might have reached adulthood without actually knowing how much product is needed to obtain a certain amount of bubbles. If you were feeling charitable you could always take a shower with him and demonstrate exactly how much is needed in person. Might be more fun for both of you than telling him off?

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