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Really petty one about DPs washing habits

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lastqueenofscotland · 03/10/2018 22:30

I don’t live with my DP but when he stays he uses my shower gel/shampoo etc. No bother but he uses so much.
He stayed last night and had a wash this morning and I’ve just gone to wash my hair now and found a new full bottle of shower gel is a third gone, and my shampoo which was quarter full had the tiniest squirt left.

My shampoo and conditioner in particular is pretty expensive stuff, and if I with nearly waist length hair don’t need a quarter of a bottle a wash he definitely doesn’t with short back and sides.
Would it be really unreasonable to tell him if he wants to use so much to bring his own
It feels like a pathetic thing for a 27 year old with a mortgage and a good job to be asking

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Noodella18 · 03/10/2018 23:10

I'm fairly toothbrush agnostic. Fiancé and i started just using one between us from about a month in and if I'm caught short at my parents' place I'll sometimes use a random one from the bathroom!!

19lottie82 · 03/10/2018 23:13

My teen DSDs do this with shampoo and conditioner. Seem to get through a huge bottle between them each week. I buy them £1 specials and keep my good stuff in my room when I’m not using it.

Missingstreetlife · 03/10/2018 23:15

Sharing toothbrushes really unhygienic and potentially dangerous

donajimena · 03/10/2018 23:20

Completely derailing thread here but as a fairly finicky cleaner I use a toothbrush to get into dirty crevices. As I clean for a living I employed a cleaner. I was brushing my teeth when it dawned on me that my toothbrush felt odd. Upon closer examination I realised that my cleaner had put my cleaning toothbrush into my tooth mug. I'd been scrubbing my pearly whites with the toothbrush I used for mouldy grout and under tap filth. I clearly have a robust immune system

Blameanamechange · 03/10/2018 23:21

Using loads of others expensive hair products not acceptable.Toothbrush sharing absolutely disgusting. Why would anyone do it let alone admit it?

SummerIsEasy · 03/10/2018 23:23

Buy cheap communal shower gel. Hide your own stuff and toothbrush and leave some cheap brushes from the pound shop out when visitors come to stay. DD often has friends or BF over to stay, I am happy to have them, but hate the idea of them using my stuff.

My DH has gum disease and his own TB on a special jar in the bathroom. If anyone else is daft enough to use this, they will regret it. I hide my oral B rechargeable to make sure no one else uses it.

Once DD leaves home it will be a luxury to keep my own TB in the bathroom.

Noodella18 · 03/10/2018 23:34

Why is sharing a toothbrush any more disgusting/dangerous(!!!!!!) than snogging?!

19lottie82 · 03/10/2018 23:36

Why is sharing a toothbrush any more disgusting/dangerous(!!!!!!) than snogging?!

Bleeding gums is common when you brush your teeth. Diseases could potentially be passed.

AviatorShades · 03/10/2018 23:37

When we lived in central Italy on the coast, we'd regularly come across stranded brits and their broken down cars. Being hospitable and living in a large place with spare bedrooms, knowing the language,knowing local repair garages etc. we'd often host and sort out the affairs of stranded holidaymakers. As you do, really.
Using our shower gels/shaving foam/disposable razors even? Fine. But the times the bastards would use our toothbrushes? NOT fucking on.

Noodella18 · 03/10/2018 23:43

"Bleeding gums is common when you brush your teeth. Diseases could potentially be passed."

Yes... And snogging regularly occurs at bedtime immediately post-brush, so again, not really much difference?

Pinkandproud · 03/10/2018 23:46

Sharing toothbrushes????

Fluffyears · 03/10/2018 23:57

I hate the idea of sharing toothbrushes and when I would go tonuse mine and it was already wet I knew my dad had just picked up first one it used to creep me out. I kept mine in my bedroom for several years. He never cared always used my stuff for himself.

Fluffyears · 04/10/2018 00:00

I actusllyha eissyes now with sharing my nice thingsabdDH can’t understand why he can’t use my good shampoo (why do men use so much of it) or why I was annoyed when he opened the chocolates that were MYchristmas present. Down to my dad eating all my Easter eggs, all the cooked meat for packed lunches (just picked out of the packet) etc

notangelinajolie · 04/10/2018 00:14

Buy a cheap brand for the bathroom visitor and keep yours safely hidden somewhere else.
PWith 3 DD's at home and a DH who has no clue - a nice shampoo wouldn't last a day in my house. I have my own shampoo and conditioner which I keep in my bedroom. The 'bathroom' shampoo and conditioner is whichever brand is on offer at Tesco's. If any of them want nice stuff they can buy their own.

mrbob · 04/10/2018 00:30

Bleeding gums is common when you brush your teeth. Diseases could potentially be passed

Um any diseases passed this way would I imagine be passed by shagging the person once you have finished cleaning your teeth. I wouldn’t go round sharing toothbrushes with random strangers but if you are willing to stick your partners cock in your mouth then I can’t see that sticking their toothbrush in it is any worse...
I wouldn’t do it all the time but if you sleep over and forget your toothbrush I don’t think it will kill you to share

The shampoo on the other hand would be VERY annoying!

1forAll74 · 04/10/2018 00:36

I am not surprised he uses all the shower gel, as this gel stuff is rubbish, and doesn't feel like you having a proper wash, as opposed to a nice bar of soap.. But I suppose this topic,is not quite as boring as Brexit.

Does he use too much toilet roll also?

EnidButton · 04/10/2018 00:44

Can't believe posters are saying buy him stuff. He can buy his own!

AcrossthePond55 · 04/10/2018 01:17

I'd hide my good stuff. He'll figure out he needs to bring his own quickly.

But just keep in mind that if you're contemplating living together or marriage you're either going to have to have a talk about keeping his mitts off your good stuff or you'll have to hide yours forever.

Just out of curiosity, does he have his own 'good stuff' at his house or does he use bargain brand?

Uncreative · 04/10/2018 01:32

Why do men do this? I had an ex that did this. Several, actually. DH now knows how much my shampoo costs. He respects it. He leaves it alone. He knows the temper tantrum and credit card abuse that will follow if he doesn’t.

NarcolepticOuchMouse · 04/10/2018 01:34

My dp does this and it's ridiculous given we have opposite hair types and need very different hair care. I bought him his own stuff and he was amazed how soft and manageable his hair became...if you have afro hair maybe don't use your naturally very straight blonde haired girlfriend's hair stuff. It's not going to go well for you.

Foodylicious · 04/10/2018 01:52

Palmolive do massive pump bottles of shower gels.
The pump reduces a the amount used and it lasts for bloody ages!

Just curious, does he have separate shampoo at his? Or just shower gel?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 04/10/2018 02:17

This would massively get on my tits too.
As others have said, hide your good stuff and get him some cheap shit from the supermarket in a massive bottle with a pump.

Dontfeellikeamillenial · 04/10/2018 02:21

This is what lynx is for

Dontfeellikeamillenial · 04/10/2018 02:23

I wouldn’t go round sharing toothbrushes with random strangers but if you are willing to stick your partners cock in your mouth then I can’t see that sticking their toothbrush in it is any worse...
^
Fair enough, Bob

Rednaxela · 04/10/2018 02:35

How bizarre.

Just tell him to stop using your stuff!

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