To make my child pay for dog care?

[PinkLady01]

We have DD aged 23 living with us as well as a DS aged 14 and 2 family dogs. When my daughter moves out the dogs will stay with us, they aren’t her dogs specifically.

When we go away DD looks after the dogs for us, although I do have to pay for dog day care as she’s at work full time and can’t come back during the day. If we go away all together as a family AIBU to ask her to contribute to the dog boarding cost?

YABU. You may as well ask your neighbour or vicar to pay, it’s not their responsibility either.

Wtf. YABU

I do have to pay for dog day care as she’s at work full time and can’t come back during the day

No, you have to pay for dog day care because YOU are out of the house all day!

Someone help a relatively new mnetter out and let me know what a reverse is

Walking Do you check them into the Ritz??

Wtf. How on earth have you come to the conclusion that she should pay???

you chose to have dogs. you chose expense, inconvenience and collecting excreta for about 15 years.

Why would she pay?

Why would your daughter have to pay boarding costs for your pets? How odd.

Hi Bridget, a reverse is when the op is the other person in the drama. In this case it would be the daughter writing, probably to get a feel for whether she is right to be aggrieved or not. Tbh, this must be a windup, it's so outrageous it can't be true! Funny though

Either YABU for thinking DD should pay for your dogs or YABU for posting a reverse

Who pays to feed the dogs? Who pays for pet insurance/vet fees/other dog related costs?

If those are split with your daughter, I'd perhaps agree that their is some justification for believing the dogs were "shared dogs" and splitting the kennel costs. Otherwise, they are your dogs, your responsibility.

Yes YABU. Your dogs, your responsibility.

Christ no, YABU. I don’t even walk my DM’s dog for her when she’s being lazy because it’s her responsibility

I mean you could suggest it and I imagine her response will be along the lines of "fuck your family holiday then" so if that's your objective go for it

yes

Not a reverse, just curious as friends have suggested I was in the wrong to ask

No they are not her dogs, they are yours!

Why would you think you were in the right to ask??!

PinkLady01 well yes... you are

Why should she pay towards your dog? I don't get it.

Your friends would be right.

Why?

Do you now see you are in the wrong?

Since every one on here agrees you shouldn’t make her pay

I don’t even understand the logic. Why would your daughter pay for your dog care?