To want DH to not waste his days off

[Wildorchids]

DH works hard and for that I cannot fault him, he does the night shift as the money is good and does 5 nights per week then has his two days off in a row.

His first day off after the last night shift he will spend sleeping so he can catch up on some much needed rest, if he gets in at 9am I'll leave him to sleep until 6ish in the afternoon undisturbed then wake him to eat and spend time with the DC before bed if its getting a little late.

My problem is this, after catching up on his sleep during the day he will then stay up until 4 or 5am the next morning watching TV or using the computer as if he was doing another night shift. This then means he's tired all day the following day and will spend that sleeping too.. Only to wake up as the evening is drawing in and bedtime is approaching for me and the DC. He will then do the same again, until the following night when he is back at work.

As a result we get little to no family time and our relationship is suffering because of it. I'd like to take the DC to soft play together, or on a little outing, but because of the way he spends his time off work this is impossible.

Aibu to ask him to try and make the most of his days off with me and the DC? Its not as though he 'can't sleep at night but chooses to stay up doing other things instead.

When I say early, I'll get in 7.20am and then sleep til 12 midday, but I'll still be pretty sluggish for a good few hours. Between shifts, I might sleep til 1pm earliest, 3pm latest. But your dh is doing 5 nights so he will have accumulated tiredness and general feeling shit, its hard to shake off straight away.

I used to work 4 nights 10pm to 7am. I would get home and have a cuppa then be in bed by 8am. On my last night I would get up at 1pm. I'd feel sick as a dog but do it anyway. I'd be in bed by 11/12 that night. At the start of the pattern I'd get up at 7am and be awake for 24hours.
But I put my family first and now don't work between midnight and 7am. Less money but I'm not a snappy miserable cow anymore!

My understanding is that you've not discussed this with your dp because you don't want to come across as "nagging" - is that correct.
As others have said y would bu to expect him to change his routine around on his current shift pattern.
YANBU to want to spend time as a family with him. So why not speak to him. I would say something like:
"I've wanted to talk about out time as a family. You are working very hard so we can be comfortable but the kids and I miss spending time with you. I have a few suggestions but what do you think?"
Calm, un-naggy and open to different options.