Can't trust anyone these days

[Mnet]

I feel like my friend circle is dwindling and I'm finding out things that I've told my closest friends about really personal details are being shared with acquaintances.

I feel that the urge to share juicy gossip is stronger than the urge to maintain a real friendship.

I'm at the stage now where I feel like I need to keep everything to myself and will eventually drift away from my last few close friends. I don't have the time or energy for it anymore.

AIBU?

I feel that the urge to share juicy gossip is stronger than the urge to maintain a real friendship.

I'm no psychologist or neurologist, but I suspect the urge to share juicy gossip rewards instant gratification, unlike the urge to maintain a real friendship, and the impulse for instant gratification is awfully powerful. So I think linking the two is not necessary helpful.

Keep your friends, they're important, and choose those to whom you tell secrets carefully. I learned a long time ago that if I based my friendships on those who could be relied upon to carry personal sensitive information to the grave, I would possibly have no friends and definitely would have only very few.

Op you know that the ones who spill your secrets can't be trusted, so keep them as friend/acquaintances...e.g someone to hang out and go for coffee with but not someone who you will share private information with, they have broken your trust and don't get to share that part of your life again...I have had to do the same op, it saves alot of stress further down the line as they can't spread your secrets if they don't know them

yes ive notice friendships taking a differrent tone but my gripe is my two best friends not making any time for me but seem to spend time with their boyfriends

they dont seem to be able to spare an hour and im getting to the point of thinking just to cut it altogether